need advice and prayers

My ex husband has been indicted by a grand jury on three felonies involving the sexual abuse of a child. His arraignment was Wednesday, March 8th. He waived his right to arraignment, and his attorney showed up instead.

Meanwhile, I have been working in family court for the last year trying to gain full custody of my children. I don't think a man who sexually abuses children should be given open access to children. Thursday, one day after the arraignment hearing, this man's attorney goes before the judge in family court and is granted an order for me to produce these children for an unsupervised visit with their father over the course of Spring Break. My attorney was out of town and was not aware of this order. I was not aware of this order until I got a phone call from my attorney's secretary, asking me why I had not produced these children. Since then, the guardian ad litem's office (children's attorney) has called twice, wanting to know if I would produce them. I was supposed to bring these children to the guardian ad litem's office, but they cancelled the appointment. I now suspect that without even talking to my children, the guardian ad litem had made up his mind to side with my ex, a man accused of child molestation. I am almost certain that my children were supposed to be taken away from me at this meeting and that I was supposed to be served with papers regarding this order in the guardian ad litem's office.

This man does not live in the same state as I do. My children do not wish to see him, because they know what he did. Now I might be risking jail time if I do not produce these children to a child molestor. I am waiting until I hear from my attorney as to how to procede. Until then, I could use your prayers to keep my children safe. They need them. And if anyone knows a friend in the media, I think a little bit of news coverage about a family court judge granting visitation to a man indicted on 3 felonies involving sex with a child would be a very interesting story.

Thanks,

Mystified One.

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Mystified One
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I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I don't have any advice, but you and the children will be in my prayers.

Reply to
Beadbimbo

Prayers forthcoming......man...I'm sick of judges that don't have a brain!

Also praying that you can get media attention. Can you call your local newspaper?....email the big guns...MSNBC...FOXNEWS...etc?

Perhaps you should ask your attorney first?

Love and prayers for you all...Jill

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tatercat

We had a woman here who had an abusive husband, father of her children, stalking her.

Does anyone here have a way to contact Susie Gibson? My links for her are defunct.

Call the nearest women's shelter and ask to speak to a legal advocate. I don't believe the court in another state can require you to give your ex-husband custody or even visitation. (Did they give you paperwork on any orders?) I also would personally rather break the law and even go on the run rather than deliver my children into the hands of a sexual abuser.

Unfortunately, being in the right will not necessarily protect you and your children, and possession is still 9/10 of the law, so be very careful about letting them visit.

You say your husband has been indicted for sexual abuse. This of course means only that there has been found enough evidence to put him on trial, not that he has been found guilty. And with prosecutors but no defense at Grande Jury, indictment usually only means he's been charged. The Grand Jury hardly even denies an indictment. Who charged him and what happened to the charges? Still in the system?

I had a stalker/abuser, but thank God my children were never at risk. The shelter had a very good legal advocate, and they had connections to an organization that helped women being stalked, especially by kidnapping fathers. You need help from a more "stridently feminist" organization than just family court.

Prayers,

Tina

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Christina Peterson

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Patti

I think Tina is right that you need an organization which aids women backing you. In NJ, it's Womanspace which provides shelters for battered and abused women. Do an internet seach for your state and see what you can find. If you can't find anything, go on Oprah's website and see what is listed there. Or, try the National Organization for Women. Prayers are definitely on the way for you and your children. Remember, you are their best advocate!

Patti

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Patti

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