OT: My Kids (long and not at all happy)

vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from melinda :

]All this seems a long way off for me, Joshua's just over a week old!

lucky you! you've got years and years to look forward to!

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vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from snipped-for-privacy@removedreamweaverstudio.com (Barbara Otterson) :

]He has ]an absolute shit-fit whenever I go anywhere.

you know, that stinks! i had an ex that tried to control me that way. you DO need time for YOU.

] Also, since I have become ill, it's very hard for ]me to go anywhere or plan anything.

i was used to inviting people over at the drop of a hat, and going whenever i pleased for years. DH almost put a stop to that, but i've decided to live my life around him if necessary. so i signed up for the gym, the rock club, and started inviting my friend over - even if i have to make up a reason. if he wants to pout, he has a room at each end of the house to do it in.

can you plan something where they come to you? or have someone go with you when you want to go out?

----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)

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Sorry to use the term then, Kathy. I will henceforth use the term "surprise". And if I ever slip PLEASE SCOLD ME. I know it happens, but I still find it stunning that any child could be blamed for being born!

Tina

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Christina Peterson

My own family hates me. I adopted you all a long time ago.

Becki "In between the moon and you, the angels have a better view of the crumbling difference between wrong and right.." -- Counting Crows

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BeckiBead

me too, please!! Sarajane

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I don't think you are rotten, just not as fearful as some! Its a wonderful thing to be able to let your kids enjoy adventures. Good for you, and if one is teaching in Eastern Europe, then you did your job well enough that childhood passed! Sarajane

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Right on the button, Barbara! That is such a good attitude. I find I get over hurts a lot faster if I actually go through them wholeheartedly instead of walling off and trying to avoid them. Sarajane

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Barbara, we have some Tourettes stuff in my family, especially when under stress. Some of it shows to the eye, like twitches, some is more verbal. My take on it is, if you aren't in pain, go ahead and twitch and try to enjoy lunch. You aren't a freak, you are a human being, just not a sanitized TV version of one. Real people often dress and talk funny, have hairs out of place, forget the pearls and Donna Reed shoes, and limp when they walk. Other people stare for any provocation, at anything at all--just like birds and cows do. Its nothing personal---let 'em look.

And you may want to check into a support group because your husband's dependancy on you as his link to the Outside World is a Big HUGE Job, and may be more draining than you realize. Sarajane

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Take pictures EVERY year, it goes REALLY fast, once time gets going.... Sarajane

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vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from snipped-for-privacy@aol.compuppies (Dr. Sooz) :

]Vicki!! I had no idea! You lost CODY?!?!?!?

yes. and it's made a wreck of me. !@#$%!@%@$#%!@ vet.

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vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from snipped-for-privacy@aol.compuppies (Dr. Sooz) :

]What happened at the vet? What did he/she do?!?!?!? I am so, so sorry! I am ]grieving with you!! OMG.

Cody suddenly developed breathing problems over Memorial weekend, when everyone was closed. We took him in on Monday, and the vet wanted to do x-rays. what they saw on the x-rays showed that his lungs were either full of cancer or some sort of fungal infection, but they would need to do a biopsy to know which.

we took him back on Tuesday for the biopsy. no cancer - good news. gave me the meds to give him and said he should start getting better in a day or two - so i came home happy, thinking i was going to be able to help him get well. half an hour later, he was gone. looking at me and wanting me to fix it. somehow, because of the biopsy, he drowned in his own blood. and it happened too fast for me to do anything. and i'm just not handling it well. at all.

he trusted me. he never left my side. and he should NOT have died.

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This sounds like an accurate reading. As if you are a pet or toys she doesn't want to have taken away from her. This is a strange form of abuse, and rarely recognized as such.

Tina

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Christina Peterson

Me too please? :)

I have 2 brothers and a sister, but I'm the oldest and the odd one out. Always have been with most of my family.

The only one who really even talks to me is my grandma, so I could use whatever I can get! :)

Rachel T. Damn right I'm good in bed. I can sleep for days. ;)

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Rachel T.

This is a subject near and scary to my heart. I was involved with a Marine Nam Vet with PTSD. For too many years.

The control issues evolved incrimentally until they crippled me. I feared for my life and sanity. What it did to him, actually, was worse. Because I am whole now and he is living in his insanity.

What literally saved my life was going to a therapist. No one at the vet center was willing to work with him anymore. He was just too hard a case. By the grace of God, it was exactly the person I needed to work with. I did very well with my psychologist. (The man I refered to in a post as "my personal saviour".) Thom was unable to heal.

Please, please, please, insist on a top notch counselling and demand that he go or you will leave him. It will probably be the only chance to save his sanity, and maybe yours as well.

Melodrama isn't always exageration.

Tina

PS you are experiencing a situation yourself now that induces PTSD

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Christina Peterson

My biggest buyers are professional women, over 30 with careers of their own. Art student is still my best bet, I'm thinking. Also, most of the good shows require that the artist be present. Barbara Dream Master

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Post traumatic stress disorder. 3 years of living in the jungle in Vietnam made him a mite nutzoid. Plus severe depression and a host of physical problems. Barbara Dream Master

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vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from snipped-for-privacy@aol.comnospam (Carol in SLC) :

]Vicki, I'm so sorry!!!

thanks, honey. i'm just trying to deal with it.

----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)

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My booth fills my entire van. I utilize a 10x10 just fine. Larger would even be better ;-) . I'm in St. Louis. When I do a show, anything less than 10x10 would be counter- productive. So sharing space is out of the question. The only solution I can think of is a starving art student that wants to learn how to make a living from their art and is willing to work on the cheap in exchange for training. Of course, they have to be honest, reliable, a quick learner, have a good driving record, etc. Not going to be easy to find. Not impossible, just not easy. Barbara Dream Master

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I had the opposite. I left home at 17 and never, ever felt that I could return for anything. No matter how bad it got. I was in my 40s before my mom and I developed a good enough relationship that we could possibly share a house. Now she's in her late 70s. I think she would welcome the company. I don't think that's the solution I'm looking for........ (I can't put all the bad shit on my mom. My step-dad was the one who made the whole thing so insane. I left home at 17 because I truly believed that he would kill me very, very soon if I didn't. She finally got up the nerve to dump the sob after 25 years of non-stop abuse. He haunted her for over 2 years afterward. She had to sleep with a gun beside the bed.) Barbara Dream Master

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