OFF TOPIC - advice needed

Sounds like she is interested in a boy. Have fun at TJ Maxx. Barbara

I don't think so - while she wouldn't come right out and say it, the girl she signed the pact with has been suggesting she dress more like a girl (hereinafter M) for a bit now. I was wondering if M was helping some boy in his quest to get her attention.

Strangely, outside of hockey many of her friends are far more "girly" than her.

Cheryl

I agree - I prefer pants/jeans, shorts....

C

I really think you should do the TJ Maxx bit and let her choose something pretty and appropriate. I don't know how to tell you this but she's growing up and will change her mind from day to day.

I suspect that she's her mother's daughter and doesn't do anything she doesn't want to do. and she wouldn't have agreed if she was 100% against the idea.

Take a deep breath and repeat after me--she's almost a teenager. You always remarked that boys were hard to raise and no one wanted to burst your bubble. I think girls are harder.

Lucille

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I do too and rarely wear skirts any more, but there were times that I loved being dressed up in "girl" clothes. I've always been conservative and rarely (read almost never) wore anything ruffly or frilly, but J. Crew was another word for heaven to me.

L

My daughters a tomboy as well but can doll it up a bit when needed...Tell your daughter to wear some kind of hairband and hair loose with hoop earrings and just wear a girly tank under ther henley with the buttons undone a bit to show some lace etc and wear a nice loose belt around the henley and if she has them some nice boots over her jeans--

She has her eye on a boy I think !

Well - here's the rub - she'll buy/choose something "girly" and then hate wearing it.

Cheryl

Get used to it--she's a tween and they have no clue what they want.

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I'm with you, Lucille. My DD started life as an ultra-feminine little frill-magnet: only long dresses with lace and pretty-index for her! (I was nonplussed, crestfallen and taken aback)

When she was ten, she formally asked me to stop dressing her as a little lady and allow her to become a tomboy 'just like you were'. OK. Fine. So that went to the extreme, with shapeless sweatshirts, baggy jeans and sneakers. Sigh. Nonplussed... crestfallen... taken aback...

Now, at fourteen, DD still dislikes frills and fussy-looking clothes (Hnnnnnh! I *so* love making them!), but she's back into dresses at last and *wore her bikini* the other day for the first time in ages.

You will find that your own input into what the kidlet likes/wants will become negligible. Your carefully-considered comments about colour, cut, style will be swiftly dismissed simply because *you* suggested them. This is quite painful but I will share with you the way to overcome it.

Your DD will find a Significant Person whom she will allow to become the Custodian of her fashion sense. In my DD's case, she has two: her sister and her cousin, both young women in their early twenties. It's extremely useful to me that both girls are entirely in my pocket for reasons which will soon become apparent.

Here's what y'do. You see a nice piece of clothing (say, pants or shoes) and buy them for the kid. Then, you give them to her and say 'XXXX thought these would suit you beautifully'. Kid will pounce upon them, model them proudly and ring her girlfriends to say 'Guess what I got!' You will sit back smugly, secure in the knowledge that, for now, you've still got the upper hand.

Heee! Lucille, you are *such* a wise woman! Little girls: can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em! (I reckon boys are *so* much easier - WYSIWYG and all that).

Shhh! Don't tell cheryl. She thought raising Kurt was difficult. lol

Ah, the joys of growing up. Not. You might want to have a discussion with her as to the *real* reason she's doing this and to be prepared for some teasing. Elise is probably much more self-assured than I was, even in HS, so she may handle it just fine.

I relented (once!) in high school and I'll never forget how embarrassed I was. Never did it again.

I think the henley top would be a good transition, as opposed to what I did, which was wear a real girly dress!

As has been mine since I was her age.

Good luck to her!

Joan

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Then go with teh cami/tank henley layer look.

It is a different difficult!

Right you are--

I hope you went out and got something pretty. Don't worry, she'll go through several different stages. I remember one time when dd was in

7th grade, she and her girl friend went out of my house wearing junior streetwalker makeup (I tried, I really did.), carrying a stuffed animal each, and at the end of the street they proceeded to climb the tree.

Oh well.

Olwyn Mary in New Orleans.

And how - DS was an uninterested student, dressed in the "uniform" of the day - tshirt, jeans, skate board shoes. Basically the way he dresses now. He's just more in to school, plays more hockey and does guitar and photography.

DD is an excellent student and only cared about getting back to the rink after her homework was done. It's this sudden interest in clothes; I think it is peer pressure at school. I need to start working on building her confidence to just be herself.

Cheryl