OFF TOPIC - time for one of those questions

Ok mothers of daughters - at what age did you allow your daughter to

Wear "perfume" (includes body sprays)? Wear "makeup" - lip gloss, eye makeup, etc?

DD has had light scented body sprays for a year+ now (post gym, it is needed along with the deodorant).

She just bought her first lip gloss - no color, but lots of gloss..(ok it's flavored too)..

I'm ambivalent about it folks - I see most of her friends wearing lip gloss and many of them with eye liner and mascara too..

So - when did you let your daughter wear make up and when did your parents let you?

Going first - 15 for make up -around 12 for scent

Cheryl

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Cheryl Isaak
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I was twelve and my mother **forced** me to wear lipstick to church, etc. I went to Catholic School so was not allowed to wear any makeup in grade school (First through Eighth grades) and only lipstick in High School. I was a Freshman -- 14 years old -- before I chose to wear makeup and that was only on dates or church, special occasions, etc. Once DD was in Seventh Grade -- she was 12 years old, I think -- and they had dances, she was allowed to wear LIGHT makeup for special occasions. By Eighth Grade, she would try to sneak out of the house wearing makeup to school -- lip gloss, eye shadow, eye liner, mascara. I did not allow that but she could wear tinted lip gloss to school. Neither of us are perfume people so that was never an issue. If she had a kid perfume that she liked she would wear it for special occasions, even as a little kid. CiaoMeow >^;;^<

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Cheryl Isaak

She likes several of the lighter florals and such at Bath and Body works...they're just fine by me.

Chery

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Cheryl Isaak

Relax, Cheryl. Learn to pick your battles.

I went to an English Girls' Grammar School. Full traditional school uniform, "hair will be worn off the collar" and no makeup whatsoever.

Fast forward. DD in 6th grade, we met a friend of hers, along with mother, and said friend was wearing full makeup. I remarked upon it, and the mother said that oh yes, she liked her daughter to wear makeup, and had taught her how to apply it. I was appalled and horrified. Then jr. high. The school was five blocks from our house, I was the only stay-at-home Mom in a four block radius and as all the other moms left for work before their daughters left for school the girls all congregated at my house. I just sat on the back porch in my robe, drinking tea and reading the morning paper, carefully not noticing how many bowls of cereal etc were served out of my cupboards but available if someone needed a safety pin or extra socks. By the time they all left, both bathrooms smeLled like either a funeral parlor or a brothel!!

One day I saw dd and a friend going out of the house, full streetwalker makeup, each carrying a stuffed animal, and they stopped halfway down the block to climb a tree!

That was when I decided to stop worrying and let them get through this stage in their own good time.

p.s. for Karen. Stage makeup is an entirely different question. If you are on stage, you wear whatever makeup is required, then clean it off when you come offstage.

Olwyn Mary in New Orleans

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Olwyn.Mary

"Cheryl Isaak" wrote .

My daughter didn't really do makeup--still doesn't as an adult. She has always done hair, and had multicoloured hair in Grade 4 when the stylist she went to practiced competition stuff on her (with my permission) and she continued to use temporary hair stuff of various colours from then on. I have a picture of her asleep while I was putting hundreds of tiny braids into her hair at age 11 or so. She didn't really get into perfume until highschool (remember the CK One thing???) I would have let her do makeup and perfume from about age 10 on, if she had wanted to, with makeup at that age being defined as Lip Smackers and glitter gel (fun stuff rather than serious obsession about appearance). My parents never "let" me do makeup. It didn't matter because like lots of girls, I just put it in my school bag and applied it once I left the house (just like rolling up your skirt waistband). I began in highschool when I had my first job (so about age 14) and so my own money. I can remember buying a set of Mary Quant crayon makeup. Very cool.

Dawne

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Dawne Peterson

It was never an issue for me with my parents because I had the older sister paving the way and fighting all those battles. I can remember wearing hot pants and knee high black boots when I was in junior high, that how lax the standards got at my house!

As for my own daughter, she definitely had her own make-up to experiment with by the time she was thirteen. Mostly she'd just shut herself in the bathroom and play with the stuff. I did full make-up on her when she was eleven for her Halloween costume as a movie star and realized how dangerous it was as she looked eighteen easily.

She didn't really start wearing make-up outside the house except for lip gloss until she was sixteen.

We never really made an issue of it and neither did she.

Donna in Virginia

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Donna

Not around me, perfume gives me a migraine in very fast order !! Most places where people gather in Canada are 'Scent Free' for which I am most grateful, I really notice the difference elsewhere.

Casting memory waaaay back, I think around 13 my mother allowed powder and some light lipstick. Mascara etc came much later.

Both my daughters have Davids olive complexion and really even yet - one just turned 50 and one to go this year - wear little makeup, certainly not lipsticks - so we're oddballs and no use at all to you lol

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lucretiaborgia

Yes but she likely will never see your reply as she is on another group !

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lucretiaborgia

I think 7th grade or so. Precipitated by the slew of Bar/Bat Mitzvahs to attend. I remember receiving some perfume as a Bat Mitzvah gift. Charlie and Love's Fresh Lemon will date me pretty accurately I think. I know I was wearing eyeshadow regularly by 8th grade, but I wasn't allowed to wear lipstick. I'm probably still not allowed to wear lipstick. But my mother had all sorts of weird issues about "suitability." She was bizarrely strict about toe cleavage and refused to allow me spaghetti straps, even for a prom dress. But I was allowed to dye my hair blond, so go figure. FWIW, I very, very rarely wear any makeup at all now. But, I actually have a Bar Mitzvah to attend this weekend (in Milwaukee), so I'd better see what I've got.

Randomly, Sara

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Sara

It was more curiosity, I'm letting her do the gloss, so far she's not interested in the rest of it.

The scent sort of just happened. I couldn't find an unscented deodorant that I'd let her use (and no to antiperspirant - not a good idea for anyone let alone some one who is athletic)... So I just found a scent that was agreeable to both of us.

Cheryl

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Cheryl Isaak

No kids but still have input. :-) I never really got into makeup and rarely wear any scent since so many workplaces are scent free due to allergies and problems with people not knowing when to stop. I DO, however have three nieces! They started wearing lip gloss and nail polish around 12 or so. When the two older ones were turning 13, I (after checking with their moms) went to the local dollar store and bought them each $10 worth of lip gloss, nail polish, eye liner, etc. I wrapped each item individually and then wrapped the bigger box that they received. They LOVED them. The girls' birthdays are 6 weeks apart so they both opened them on the same day, when I was visiting. We (my sisters and I) decided that they were interested enough in make up to start trying it and all the parents agreed that they would much rather the girls try the stuff out at home to find out how to do it as well as what looked nice and what crosse the line and made them look like baby hookers. :-)) They were still allowed to go only so far on school days, with maybe a little extra for special occasions. Now that the girls just turned 21, They seem to have it down pretty well and only use enough to accentuate their natural beauty. I may be prejudiced, being a doting aunt and all, but I, naturally, think they are beautiful enough not to need any at all. :-))) Liz from Humbug

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Liz from Humbug

Hi Cheryl,

My daughter is 17 in final year of high school but has been wearing scent since about 11 as "all" her friends were putting on deodorant sprays after sports. I have an intense dislike of antiperspirant and deodorants since developing allergies to them. I got a salt-based deodorant for her and as a compromise bought her some decent french-perfume to wear. There are some lovely modern scents available now, quite suitable for young girls. I've continued to get her expensive perfume and as she knows it is expensive is quite sparing with it.

I started wearing make-up around 15 so when DD was 15 I got her a travel set from a very reputable brand with a nice range of colours for her to experiment with. I didn't make a any fuss about make-up except of being very firm about a proper cleansing routine. The travel kit lasted a year or so, and since then she has purchased a few items but only wears a small amount of make-up occasionally. Her school allows a small amount of make up.

As others have said, pick your battles. I am more concerned that my daughter is buying quality products and getting into good habits for cleansing, moisturising etc than with what colours she paints onto her face.

But don't get me started on hair colour. Currently my DD has magenta hair and has had some eye-popping colours. She has a little job and pays out most of her money on her hair stylist! Goodness knows what she will be like when she goes to university next year.

Regards, Annette in NZ

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Annette from NZ

Something just crossed my mind about the safety issue...buying them their own makeup gives you an opportunity to emphasize "no sharing" and proper hygiene issues. If you didn't get them their own makeup, they'd likely borrow someone else's mascara, gloss, etc. etc., and bacteria sharing is NOT a good thing!

sue

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Susan Hartman

You little tart you LOL!

Yep - even with out make up or even dressing up, DD is often mistaken for older than she is. At the hockey banquet, one of DS's teammates was taken to task for thinking HIS 11 yo SISTER WAS CUTE....

We're not - at the moment - lip gloss is fine

Cheryl

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Cheryl Isaak

Oh my - so far DS and DD have played with the add a color sprays/gels. Since their hair, like mine and DH, is very very dark, it just doesn't show up. Except on collars, hats.....

Cheryl

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Cheryl Isaak

On Thu, 29 Apr 2010 21:33:47 -0700 (PDT), Annette from NZ wrote: If she's anything like we were in college - color only when $$ was available, which wasn't often..... So maybe it's best she's getting it out of her system now :)

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