In my family, a 'secret Santa' tradition has been instituted so that 'everyone gets something and no-one has to spend too much'. To my mind, that makes the whole Christmas thing about *getting* something, where it ought to be about the *giving*!
I like to think about each of my family members and come up with an appropriate gift for them! Since we aren't often financially flush, our kids don't get much during the year and that's why we save for a big splash at Christmas time. It's their opportunity to get big ticket items they've hankered for (although DS doesn't hanker after much at all beyond cloudy skies, rainbows and his cats).
Like you, Victoria, I reckon the whole Christmas thing has become a tragic sham. I think it was 'On the Banks of Plum Creek' (Laura Ingalls Wilder) where Mr Edwards plodded through the snow and across the swollen creek to bring the girls a tin mug and *one* conversation sweet each for their Christmas gifts. They were overjoyed and treated their gifts as if they were bejewelled! I don't for a minute think we ought to be handing out tin mugs to our loved-ones, but I do think it's that kind of simplicity we've lost to the machinations of retailers.
The Ugly Sister spends *megabux* on her kids and each year worries herself into a pretzel trying to think of something they haven't already got and might, perhaps, like to have. She's gone past sanity when it comes to buying gifts for her grandkids! They have every battery-operated electronic device that pops and crackles. They have every doll, every game, every licenced item you could imagine. And they have zero books, except for the ones I've given them. My DNiece seems to think the price tag equals some kind of 'goodness' index!
A few years ago, I gave Breanna a bag of el cheapo musical instruments: a recorder, castanets, a trumpet, a small drum and a small guitar. Zoe received an el cheapo bag of pseudo-Duplo building bricks. They played all Christmas day with these items and my DNiece was speechless that her children actually sat quietly for such a long time. And they were
*playing* cooperatively and not whining/whinging and throwing things at each other.
Funny, that.
Just as an aside, I've always reckoned kids get far better value from toys they can *do* things with, rather than the kind that requires batteries and then performs so that the kid is passive (ie just sits and watches) in 'playing' with it. The batteries are usually spent by the end of Christmas day and the novelty wears off very quickly. Give a kid a book or a game or a construction toy that stretches his thought processes and you've given him an ongoing occupation rather than a ten-minute wonder.
Of course, if you give him a *book* you give him the key to much more than any name-brand toy could ever provide.