God bless the teachers

Polly, there will always be someone "who knows better".

After it has been washed (most likely not the recommended way) she will come to realise that you were right in your advice.

I'm sending ((((((hugs)))))) to you to make you feel loved and respected.

If she comes to you later and asks can it be fixed, you can always say that it never happens to you because you always quilt it so that it doesn't happen and therefore don't know how to fix it.

XXXX Di

Polly, I'm not sure the exact quote but it goes something like: 'Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted."

Don't bother to get mad... won't do you any good, and she'll never know. Let her find out what happens to large unquilted areas when the quilt gets washed.

Many, many years ago, my FIL ran an engineering company in Trinidad. They had a driver who was an excellent scrounger, but also not a teetotaler, not by a long shot. FIL emphasized that he could not drive the company truck if he'd been drinking. One morning, they arrived at the office to find the driver sort of half-in the truck, sauced out of his mind on local rum. Went into the office and about an hour later, the driver came in to apologize for about the 4th time, and FIL told him he hated to do it because he was good at his job, but he simply couldn't drink and drive with company equipment. Driver held out the keys and just said, "Boss, those who cannot see must feel".That's been a family saying ever since for those of us who learn best by experience.

It's probably a case of the new quilter not wanting to do any more quilting so she asked her friends until she got the answer she wanted.

And really, quilting friends can mean anything - a friend that quilts, one that loves quilts or even one who knows what a quilt is :-)

Just be prepared to smile sweetly if she comes to you with a lumpy washed mess and wonders how to fix it.

marcella

Howdy!

Oh, shoot, so-called professional quilters do that all the time, not enough quilting. Some folks will choose batting that lets them quilt further apart,

It's called "Quilting" because it gets quilted. Piecing is piecing. Finishing tops is finishing tops. Terms get mutilated, don't they? And Free Expert Advice is worth what ya' pay for it. YMMV, & I don't care; I have my standards, low as they may be. LOL

R/Sandy - professional handquilter (never had a quilt teacher)

=A0She told me days

aweeeeeeee polly, "bless her heart". you know that!

Oh yes Polly, even in the classroom. Several times I've given the assignment and Johnny or Suzy decide to do something totally different and wonder why I won't grade it or it gets a low grade. Well, (inserting sound of gnashing teeth), maybe you didn't listen, AGAIN.

Somedays I must confess my patience is gone and I snap, not too bad though. It does get the attention of the rest of the class though.

Deep breaths, slow and easy.

Steven Alaska

YOU are all I've got and I seem to banging my head on a wall. I'd bring it up at Anger Management group but there's not one. AA might help but my cardiologist won't let us drink. What EVER do you do with people who could/won't do better? I can't get my heart into giving up. Polly

Oh Polly

Of the hundreds of students in my classes over the past 22 years, I can honestly say that I can count on one hand the number that I have given up on. What an awful thing to say, but honest. After trying everything I could do as a teacher, I actually reached a point where I just couldn't emotionally or physically give anymore, there was nothing left. Or, the child was truly evil, that's another story, or I simply could not trust a student in any manner, no way no how anymore.

But that being said, that didn't/doesn't mean that I didn't/do stop worrying. I still do on all my current students, and still wonder about those from the past. Oh the stories. I wish I had written them down. It would be a book that would make you both laugh and cry of joy and sadness.

I admit that while I qualify for retirement now, I'm going three more years for several reasons, and will be soooo glad to be done, but I will also be soooo sad to be done too. Teaching is something that for many of us touches us to our very core.

Steven Alaska

Oh Polly, I know how difficult it is when you know something better than the person you are talking to; but in my experience (both from knowing better and from not) I can only advise you to wait. Stay calm, point out in a polite manner what will happen if she washes the quilt or even just uses it, and make an extra point on telling her that all the work she put into it will go to waste if she isn't prepared to invest a little more work into it. It seems important to me that you point out these facts not from above like a teacher but from her side as a fellow quilter (yes, I know that might be the hardest part). It's just that, although we all ask for advice sometimes, most of us have a hard time accepting it. Hurt feelings, injured pride, whatever. So, if you manage to deliver your point calmly, let her go ahead with her ways, let her fail, and then she has the chance to come up to you after failure and tell you that you were right. If you've got what it takes to be a saint, you then even might refrain form shouting 'I told you so!'

U. ;-)

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