Today it started snowing pretty big. Lots of snow and ice on the street. My husband took my oldest son to work at 10 tonight (the kid works night shift stocking at the local Wal-Mart -- don't ask why he's not in college, I don't want to talk about it) and let Andy drive so he could learn to drive on snow.
We only have one car. The whole family. Four of us. One car. It's trashed. The kid went into a corner a bit fast and hit the curb hard. One wheel is shoved up under the car and the thing's not going anywhere but on a slow tow truck to the dealership.
I had managed to finagle and push around and find $1,000 for the younger son''s tuition which is due Monday. It will strap us to the limit. Now here comes a tow truck fee, repairs to the car, car rental for who knows how long, higher insurance rates.
Things have been hard enough lately. I am sad and miserable and my pain levels havebeen off the charts. Plus, I have lost my balance again. Now we have no car. And bills will mount. And Christmas will come. Which, despite the fact taht it's "Not Your Birthday", we still would like to give each other a small gift and have a sweet day.
I have walked around since the day my friend went into the hosptial feeling like I've been hit in the stomach. Now this. I really just want to pull something over my head and not come out. And yes, I do take anti-depressants and yes, my dose has been increased lately. This is a bit more than chemical.
We could use a round of prayer please. That's all, just a bit of that amazing prayer that this group dishes out.
And I will stop complaining and whining here, I promise.
Hugs and prayers are on the way. You do not whine and complain! You are one of the least whiny and complainy people I know. ((((((((((SUNNY))))))))))
College doesn't suit all kids. Some need a little growing space and will go back to education later. A dear friend's (VERY bright) son dropped out of uni (for many reasons, few of which were his fault), and is going to work at whatever pays him enough to cover food and rent and do his degree with the OU. And my Little Sis VERY CAREFULLY did not get the grades at school that would get her a uni place as she REALLY didn't want to go! Of four of us siblings, 3 went into Higher Education (between us, we three have an MA, a Cert Ed, a BA, a PGCE, an HND and a BSc!), and she's the most successful at her chosen career! She's an inspector with the Metropolitan Police... All is not lost, though you may need to whack the darling hubby and the dearest son with a wet kipper.
Oh Sunny, I'm so sorry. I know that choking, completely overwhelmed, what-the %$&*-could-possibly-happen-next feeling. You have my sympathy and prayers and please let us know if there is anything we can possibly to do help besides that. The power and magic of this group has amazed me over and over again in the past and we could make it happen again.
Sunny, I've been here for a few months (and lurking for longer) and I've not heard you "whine" or "complain" once! You handle everything with grace, intelligence, and compassion for others, even forsaking your own needs for the benefit of others (yes, you do, and you know you do). You truly have a beautiful soul. And you touch more lives than you can imagine. And I can honestly say that you've touched mine and made my life better for it. Simply put, that's what good people do! Not "whiners" or "complainers!"
That being said, I and my family will pray for you ... I really believe that He has good things in store for you ... and I will pray that He hastens those Blessings on their way even quicker to you!! You honestly, truly and richly deserve them!!! And one obvious Blessing is that neither your hubby or son were hurt!! But I am sure "the rest" will follow soon!!
But really, you are *always* in my thoughts and prayers, Sunny!! ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Sunny))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Oh Sunny, I am sooooo sorry! Prayers for your health and for the repair bill to be small and that your husband and son didn't suffer any injuries- and that life in general will take a happy turn for you and yours. Maybe you could talk to the repair folks. There are cheaper used parts and sometimes they can do a minimum of repairs- skip the cosmetic stuff- and get the car- safely- back on the road again.
Gotta love those little speed bumps life throws in our path sometimes. And things don't always go as planned. However, you are all safe and your dh and son are not hurt. While everything seems so overwhelming right now, tomorrow is a new day and hopefully, it will bring you closer to a resolution for all the hardships....
I have no solution but I do have empathy, and huge hugs, a positive hope that things do get better.....
Sometimes troubles really do hit us in waves. I'm so sorry, Sunny. I'm familiar with the "pull something over my head" kind! Don't ever underestimate the power of a prayer chain, God has some kind of plan outta all of this. .... And don't apologize for sharing your trouble. We're here to listen, and sometimes just being heard can help a lot.
Sometimes, it *does* seem like troubles will pile up. You have a lot on your plate. The only comforting thing I can think of to say is that you shouldn't borrow any more trouble - there is a good chance your insurance will not go up. With two teenaged drivers and two totaled cars in the last 18 months, my insurance company has yet to surprise me (which is good, as my recently graduated from HS and not going to college DS has made his current career choice as a Dominoes pizza delivery person). Without another car in the accident, and without a traffic ticket, it may just be that there is no impact on your rates.
And, no, your post isn't a whine ;-) There's no sense in holding it all in. What better place to vent than here?
((((((SUNNY & family)))))) Sending positive thoughts for a blessed December & Christmas.... even if it is low-key. A car can (eventually) replaced, but DH and DS could NOT! Hopefully the insurance company will consider weather conditions when they check out the car. Keep this thought in your mind - "It's always darkest just before dawn" and may tomorrow dawn bright and calm.
WARNING THIS IS LONG!!! Sunny, Very big hugs coming your way...please try to think of some of the positive things in your life....thank God that your son and DH were not hurt...it's only a car. There's got to be more positive things, lets see, do you work? Or do you get to stay home? If you get to stay home, count your blessings that you do....count your blessings with every tiny little thing. Am I helping? That's all I'm trying to do here! Another very big hug!
I truly know how you feel. The summer of 05, my DH and I traveled to Boston (we live in Oregon) so he could get surgery done on his airways. We were thrilled that insurance agreed to cover it; this was a second chance for my DH to breath better. We were on cloud nine, the thought of my DH and my future being brighter was grand. He had been living on deaths door for five years. (LONG STORY) Anyway, we get to Boston and they run a few tests and before they could perform the surgery, my DH get pnuemonia and they have to wait. Two weeks or so go by, DH is not getting any better....it's now or never! They perform the surgery...all goes well during surgery....Dr optimistic....bamm....overnight DH dies three times and again once in the morning....they bring him back and he's put in a medical coma....all systems are shutting down. Two months go by, three months, then four....still fighting at deaths door, but very slowly making progress until finally they can pull him out of his coma. Yeah! He's coming back to us! Then, bammmm....we discover that he is paralyzed....how bad? How did this happen? This can't be happening!!!! Is this temporary????? More test are being ran....another month goes by, then more test, the conclusion is....paralyzed from armpits down, permanent death of the spine in one spot....cause unknown. We are still in Boston and in the meantime my kids are flown out to me. Bammm, Baammmm! I learn that my best friend from high school lost her son on July 4th, my co-worker finds out he has lung cancer and dies soon after. My mom moves and stops calling me about three weeks into this...ANOTHER LONG STORY....I do get letters now! Finally it is safe for us to travel via medical flight home (to another hospital) just before Christmas. I come home to find out my fridge needs to be replaced, my t.v. died, my car dies and has to be fixed to the tune of $1500, my washer and dryer are both on the fritz! Meanwhile at the hospital in Oregon, DH comes down with Mersa again and they have to perform emergency surgery. Awwww, but there is light at the end of the tunnel! My DH is getting ready to come home and friends help me install a roll in shower, DBIL builds an extended deck so DH can roll in the house, a few more friends come and help me rearrange stuff out in the shed to store stuff. My DH still struggles with health issues, but as my youngest son has said a few times, "Dad is still alive, he may be paralyzed, but I don't care he's still alive!" I quit my job and am my DH's full time caregiver. I get to stay home and be here when my kids get home from school, I have the time to learn to cook things I have always wanted to cook, I can sew more, etc. One of the things that got me through all of this is repeating thou which does not kill me, will make me stronger and reminding myself everyday that I am blessed!
I hope you feel better soon and keep your chin up, things will work themselves out. Take care Launie, in Oregon
You deserve more than that ... but I figured any more and you'd think it was SPAM!!
Good Lord!!! I can't believe that you were able to deal with all of that in such a short time ... I know *I* couldn't have. Honestly, I admire the h%ll out of you!!! You are exactly the kind of woman that I am trying my hardest to teach my daughter to be!!
You, your hubby, and your kids are in my prayers!!! God Bless you, Launie!!!!
Big warm quilty hugs!! C> > Today it started snowing pretty big. Lots of snow and ice on the
Dear Kate, what is this "wet kipper"? and where do I get one? Is it a quilting device? Would it help me put on bindings or miter corners better?
I suspect that I need a wet kipper, but don't know where to start. That being said, I think I will go to work and make a wet kipper (you have inspired me, actually and I am drawing all kinds of ideas for a wet kipper wall hanging!) so that I can whack away when the erring ones are least suspecting.
Thank you for the sweet note. I struggle sometimes to have faith in my sons. But always somebody reminds me what good sons they are.
Sunny, I'm sorry for all your problems. I do agree with Kate that college isn't for all kids. My DS flunked out of a 4 year college, then graduated from a 2 yr. program, which is basically worthless. However, he is a WONDERFUL father. I've told him that I couldn't be more proud of him if he had a PHD than I am in his capacity as a father. I wish all children could have as good a father as he is. Education isn't everything. Gen
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