GRRRRRR.......
As many of you know, I have been unemployed for quite a while. I have been working various temp jobs to get by, have my house on the market since I no longer get child support since DS graduated HS last week, and now starting to begin a business selling Arbonne. Well, at the end of April I got a call from a woman I have known for over 30 years asking me if I would take in an abused woman and her 2 kids. She made it sound desperate and that they needed a place NOW. The abused woman had been the au pair for this lady's daughter in the early '90's, she never went back to her own country and does not have a green card. Woman came over to meet me and the let me know that she would move in after I got back from daughter's graduation in Pittsburgh since she has a storage unit and wants to get things moved while her husband is gone since she lost a lot of papers when she went into a shelter last fall (she did go back with the husband for about 2-3 months).
She finally called me on May 1 asking if she could PLEASE move in that day--in about 2 hours. I was at work, but would be home in that time frame. She came with the kids-- 2 & 3 and Her mother who was here from the Czech Republic. Mom had been here for 5 months, something with Mom had set hubby off again and she had been moved out of the house to the home of the woman who had hired the abuse woman in the first place. Mom ended up staying at my house until she left to go home on the 28th of May. They helped to keep the house clean, would be gone for hours on end when realtors came etc. The oldest child is on the autistic spectrum, the younger one may be too. She would go back to the school district where she had been living to get the official paperwork finished to get the kid into the special ed preschool. I did not know until after Mom left, that she had enrolled the kid in the preschool in that town and had not made any effort to have the kid put into our school district.
A week few days after Mom left, she took the kids to drop the older on off at pre-school. The kid got out at 11:30 am. They did not get back to my house until after 9:30 pm. I was concerned that the husband had found her and the kids. Seems they met up with an old neighbor who has a child the same age as the older kid and they were playing. Why they were gone so late is still beyond me. She also made the comment that her husband has a new job... found out from one of his sisters, but she insists that the sisters do not stay in touch with the husband as they are disgusted with his behavior (then how did she know he has a new job????). The next day she had car troubles so I gave her the name of my mechanic. Mechanic came out, spent long time working on car, she paid him with no problems yet she cried poverty so she cannot pay me any kind of rent for staying at my house. That weekend I had several showings. I let her know so that she and the kids can leave. She dilly dallied around so that she bearly left the house before the showings (she did not know that I was next door when she was still around at the time of the showing the second time). In the meantime, she had asked if she could move stuff off the shelves in my guest room so that she could have some place to put her clothes. Sure, gave her boxes and asked to to box my stuff up. She throws my stuff into trash bags and dumps the bags into the boxes. I then find a bunch of my other stuff thrown around the garage not in boxes or bags-- so much for showing respect for my property.
Almost 2 weeks ago, she tells me that she has to go to Nevada to renew her drivers license since they do not require a social security number in Nevada and since she does not have an actual NV address she is still claiming residency so that she has her license. She is going to meet her husband's sister's daughter (in other words, his niece) and the are going to drive out together with the little boys. Shows she is not hiding from anyone. I get a call from a PI looking for her. Scared the ever living life out of me that someone knows where to track her. I call her and let her know that a PI tracked her down. She can't understand how they found my number, "I never did anything to compromise you or your son." "The family knows nothing about this." "He has a job in L.A., wants me back, is working to pay off all the debts so I will let us be a family again." I let her know that she is unable to return here, as my safety has now been compromised. I told her to make arrangements with a friend to meet me somewhere so that I can get her stuff back to her.
Today she called and wanted to pick up her stuff. The woman she worked for (daughter of my friend) also called, said that she is in Vegas, but is it OK for abused woman to come by the house to get her stuff, she will dump everything into trash bags. I mentioned that I had most stuff packed so that when I got the call where to meet someone I would be ready. Woman sounds peeved because "abused woman is very territorial about her stuff." "Don't know what is going on, you and your son were never in any danger, her husband may be wacko, but his is not dangerous. If he was going to hurt anyone, he would have come to my house since he knows me, and he has never bothered me or my family."
My next door neighbors came over while abused woman was here getting her stuff, "it's not that I don't trust you, but is it OK if I check the room to make sure I have all of my stuff?" She went to give my my house key back, "I think this is your key, why don't you try it." Told her, not necessary as I checked all the locks. She was really shocked. She gets her stuff and manages to get it all into her little car somehow. She makes it very clear that she is very put out that I moved her "Important papers" out of the drawer and packed them. She was surprised I could point exactly which box held her important papers.
She then played her crying guilt game, "I don't know what I did, I was so careful to follow all the rules that we set." "I know for a fact that no one in the family or my husband have been in touch with any PI."
She finally leaves. The woman she worked for then calls me "Debbi?" "Yes", "What the f^&( are you thinking, she never did anything to upset you...." I hung up the phone....
Debbi in SO CA