I know you guys want to know how I'm doing and now seems to be a good time to update.
Fortunately after my really low mood of last Monday and Tuesday, things have started to look up a bit, my mood is more stable, though I continue to exhibit symptoms of depression.
My MIL arrived safely and though I could really do with her having a bit more initiative, it has been helpful, though it does seem to end up with her having fun with the kids, whilst I do chores! At least it makes it a lot easier to get to appointments, of which there are many!
I've been trying to do some reading and I hope as I get through that I'll have a clearer vision about what is depression and what isn't. There is some really painful stuff in my past that I've hidden not dealt with.
The friend that I'd been having trouble with seemed to experience a real change during church yesterday, she was crying through worship and her husband was comforting her, I was in turmoil, was something I was currently doing causing it, or was I being self centered thinking it was something to do with me, anyway as the kids left for their program, she turned and hugged me really tight, whether it was something else and she decided she needed my comfort, or whether she was upset for me I don't know, but it's definitely a change as she later asked me to meet up for a coffee this week, we did that this morning and she's obviously been thinking a lot about me and is desparately concerned for me spiritually.
It was hard to hear her say that she thinks I've been in a pit for a long time. I just started reading "Get Out of that Pit" by Beth Moore and was coming to the opposite conclusion, which is why I need a friend like her to point out things she knows about my past. Because we moved from the UK to the US a little under 3 years ago, her family are the only people that have known us any longer than that as rather randomly they lived in the UK (they are American) and then moved to the same area as we did, but for different reasons.
It's still going to be a long road ahead, figuring out what is spiritual, what is depression and what is my past and what not. But I feel in a much better place to be dealing with that now than even last week. Though I'd find it even better if I weren't so exhausted.
My parents continue to ignore that anything is happening, and unfortunately I discovered last week that some of their treatment of me whilst growing up can't just be dismissed as a style of parenting, but a type of neglect verging on abuse, now I realise that, I can see how it has effected my sister too and I have to figure out how to forgive them and to continue forgiving them.
Cheers Anne