OT: someone being too forward!

Can you change your wood supplier?

By the mere fact that he asked you not to tell you DH, I would be extremely wary plus the fact that you need to go 30 miles to another town for coffee and to check out some accommodation for his son?!?!?!?!? - would frighten me immensely. Do you know his wife?

"Also, they do believe here that English women are easy" - please make sure you always have someone around when he is due to come. Be firm and just show him just how strong and firm English women can be.

Strong comforting thoughts and prayers on the way.

Take care, Di

Trust your instincts. Absolutely. You are reading the situation right. Having your DF there is good. Polly

Tell him you can't go because you are waiting for a return phone call from your local police/sheriff department. Let him know that you can't tell him of the details even "though" he is the detail. ;) Works just about every time and it is still the truth.

Donna

Thanks everyone, well he's been dropped off the wood, not the full load and offered to bring it around later in the week - I said no way and that he should deliver when my DH is here.

My DF was with me, which I think shook this man, as he was really sheepish and hardly spoke except for some nonsense about the weather.

Apparently his wife phoned a friend of mine last night to ask why she had called his number, which she hadn't, but her husband had, to order wood, but she didn't know this at the time. Apparently she was ranting down the phone about leaving her husband alone!! Me thinks that he is trying this on elsewhere as well.

Oh what an interesting day. I certainly don't want another one like this for a while. Last time I met a creep like this was about 25 years ago, they seem like acquaintances and then they turn.

DH said that it isn't me, it is the woodman that has the problem, but of course all afternoon I've gone over in my head what was said and why didn't I say.....but of course after the event it is so much easier to find the words.

Definitely time to find a new supplier for next winter. It is a bit late now, as we've got an order placed and it is late in the season to find someone else at short notice.

Thanks for listening, I'm OK, just a bit shaken. Just don't need this kinda cr*p!

Janner France

I like Roberts's suggestions the best. It's always easier to be honest & straightforward. Thee is some famous security specialist that has written a book. I saw him on a talk show & one of the things that stuck with me is that women should really trust their instincts, because we are right more often than we are wrong.

Glad it worked out okay in the end, but it is still unnerving. Sounds like he definitely has a problem.

I didn't say much this morning because I assumed there wasn't much time before the next encounter. Being 'hit on' was a frequent annoyance back in my career days. I don't think it was because I was so beautiful, brilliant, well-endowed or gave out 'come hither' vibes. It just was. When made an offer, I seriously said, "I don't think my husband would like that" and quickly moved on to the business at hand. Their predatory ego wasn't humiliated and we still were able to work together. My Moma's approach was briefer. She responded, " I don't want another damn man". She was short on diplomacy but her answer was effective. LOL just remembering. Polly

Oh I LOVE that - " I don't want another damn man". If I have anymore trouble, I'll use that! I'll now go google translate that, so there is no misunderstanding! Hahaha

I did try the my DH wont like that and I will tell him what you said to me. He didn't bat an eyelid.

Thank you so much,

Janner France

Howdy!

See, it worked out okay, this time. Next time: tell him. You're a grown-up, so speak up! Tell him his wife is tracking him, you don't play around that way, and you just want the load of wood and nothing else. Of course he creeped you out; creeps me out just reading about it. Why should you have the inconvenience of having to find another supplier? He needs to be confronted, by you; put a stop to this now. When a guy gets out of line, I don't let it go; I say something. Because they're just men. And We are Women.

Besides, it's not like he's adding a bundle of quilt batting or some fabulous fabric. It's just wood; and he ain't so great, is he? ;-D

Ragmop/Sandy

Given the different culture and language, that's definitely tricky. However, as long as you make sure your DH is around when he comes again, it is doubtful he will give you any problems. Perhaps your DH should have a word with him to clarify?

In any case, no reason for you to feel bad or to feel responsible.

Michelle > OK, I don't know where to start here, but the chap who delivers our

OK, he phoned me on Friday, wanting to meet up etc.....so in perfect French and at screaming pitch, I made it very clear that I was not interested! I amazed myself. He later phoned back and left a message apologizing and saying that he wants to stay friends - I haven't replied.

DH called him in the evening and cancelled our contract with him and luckily we've found another supplier who will come out to us. Unfortunately my parents still have to use him, as our new supplier doesn't go to their town even though it is only 2 miles away. Maybe we will get some decent wood now, as our last lot was green, wet and mouldy!

Janner France

I'm glad you got a new supplier. I would not do business with anyone that put me in such an uncomfortable position. He's not likely to learn from this, but at least you don't have to dread the wood delivery!

So very glad you stood up to him and happy you managed to get another supplier. Have you warned your parents about him?

Wow! Yeah, his behavior is really over top, given that he didn't get the message the first time. Sheesh! What a dumbass.

Good for you on making it perfectly clear in perfect French and at a screaming pitch.

Glad you were able to find another supplier.

Michelle in Wichita, KS (formerly of Nevada)

Have warned my parents and found them a new supplier as well. Waiting for our first delivery of wood from new supplier this morning.

Thanks

Janner France