successful Spirit of life party

I threw a spirit of life party for my beloved DH, Terry yesterday. I've never been to one, and have only attended a few funeral services, so I didn't really know what I was doing or what to expect. All in all I think it was a great success, despite the miserable downpour we were having all day. There were about thirty people or so that showed up. I had a pot luck and a cake for the occasion. I ordered four posters from Snapfish and they came out great....everybody commented on them. It's funny because sometimes I look at the pictures and am filled with great happiness and love and then other times when I look at the pictures it's all I can do to keep from crying. I know this is just part of the process and I'm okay with that. There was enough food left over for an army and I would hope I made everyone feel comfortable and welcome. I did my best to greet everyone as they entered the building to introduce myself and also thanked them for coming when they arrived and as they were leaving. Maybe I should have said a few words, but unfortunately I'm not a big speaker and it was all I could do to muster up an "excuse me everyone, can I have your attention? The food is ready and please come help yourself." lol One of my dear friends took pictures of the occasion and another had a book ready for people to write in....whether to just sign their name or to write a personal note. I think Terry would have been pleased with everything and I can only hope it felt more like a party than a memorial.....that's what Terry would have wanted. There was an announcement about a scholarship in Terry's name that his former classmates have put together and a few people wanted to contribute to that....which I thought was very nice. I hope the scholarship will be a reoccuring one, but at this point it's a new process for them it's not a given.

Now that the Spirit of Life party is over I can do more than think about my UFO table topper for my in-laws....I have to clean out my garbage in my bedroom.....one of my kitties knocked the drawer attachment to my sapphire in there and it spilled it's contents!!! I'm going to have to remember to put that away when I'm finished!

Today is another day and a brighter day (literally!) Take care all, Launie, in Oregon

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simpleseven
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It sounds like a wonderful gathering, so I hope the feeling of it will stay with you as you heal.

Grieving is such a roller coaster, and the ride seems to go on and on.

Hugs,

--Heidi

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heidi (was rabbit2b)

What a wonderful thing to have thought of doing, in the first place Launie; and to have carried it out with such warmth. Good things are still coming from your dear Terry, even though he has left us in this world. You didn't mention your son - I hoped he coped well with it all. I bet he did - he is from strong and good stock. . In message , simpleseven writes

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Patti

Launie, I'm glad you posted this. And it sounds like it was a nicely quiet affair for everyone. What a tribute, to have a scholarship set up by his former classmates, regardless if it is a recurring one, or not!

Another step in the healing process for you.

G> I threw a spirit of life party for my beloved DH, Terry yesterday.

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gaw93031

good for you Laurie. I know it was hard but for the people that came it was a way to express how they felt about Terry and to talk together. You didn't need to make a speech - the party said it all.

Take your time, heal, sew if you can, sit and look at pictures in a magazine if you can only do that. As you say it is part of the process. There is no time limit to any of this and no book can spell out the process for everyone.

A gentle hug, Kelly in BC

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Joanna

My son had a great time playing with his cousins and his three older siblings. My daughter, her boyfriend, Terry's eldest son is the same age as my daughter (both twenty), Terry's middle son (who will be eighteen in April) all came....out of all of them, Terry's eldest and my daughter had the roughest time dealing with Terry's passing.

We will be starting share group at the local Hospice center starting April 9th, this is set up by age group and is for both children and parents, etc. I think it'll do us both good.....I'm waiting for my Grandma and my dad to pass.... Thus far, they are hanging on and suffering. I pray God takes them quick, but know he'll do it when He's ready. That's all for now!!!! Launie, in Oregon

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simpleseven

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