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Very OT--Positive thoughts for my Mom and sis, Please????

As many of you know I have been going through a bunch of health stuff. And my sister in Tucson has MS, which is not fun either. Well, my Mom is also having some problems, a little worse than I had known. Five weekends ago, Mom fell, again. Sis had to take her to the ER (hospital is very close to where Mom lives.) They checked her over and sent her home. Mom is using a walker, and has been having some balance problems off and on for several months. But, ended up in the ER the next weekend, and the next, and the next. That time they kept her in the hospital and ran a bunch of tests, including MRI and CAT scans. She was transfered to a rehab facility, at the hospital, on Thurs. Afternoon. (Almost a week ago.) My sis called me to tell me this on Sat. Mom has: mild Parkinson's, some dementia, and is so weak she isn't even trying to walk at the moment. She is confusing info, and misremembering lots of things. I knew when I last saw her, a few weeks ago, that she was not doing at all well. Now they hope that she can return to "independent living" but are not sure. My nephew is living in the house with her, but he isn't there all the time. When she falls, no one is there, frequently, who can help her get up. She did give up driving about a year ago, because she decided it made her too "nervous". She has been riding the bus and my sis and her family have been good about taking her grocery shopping and such. She had been doing some part time fill in at a preschool (she's a retired primary school teacher), but hasn't been able to do that with some of the medical problems. (One of the falls before Christmas, she broke her kneecap--which I didn't know until my sis told me on Sat.)

This has really gotten me upset, and I am trying to work through it. (plus dealing with the financials here at home, and hoping we don't get the house foreclosed on us.... Whole 'nother story there.) And trying to get an appointment with a gyn to get my surgery dealt with, and get meds straightened up.

All this is not as much as some of you are/have been going through, but it is rough on me. Thanks for "listening". Not much you can do, but let me vent on occasion, and send some good, positive thoughts/prayers to Tucson for my Mom and Sis. I really hope that Mom can pull through this one and stay with us for a while longer.

Thanks again,

Pati, in Phx snipped-for-privacy@paticooks.com

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Pati Cook
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Pati- I am so sorry. You must be totally stressed with all this going on. Prayers and good thoughts coming your way.

Leslie & The Furbabies in MO.

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Leslie & The Furbabies in MO.

{{{{{HUGS}}}}} for you and good thoughts for all your family.

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CATS

Sending good thoughts your way! Barbara in Central FL

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Bobbie Sews Moore

It is indeed a lot to go through. I'm thinking about you and hoping things turn around. My DMIL went through a bad patch that sounds a lot like your mom. We had even called the funeral home to start making arrangements.

Surprise. She came out of it somewhat and is now doing much better physically. The dementia comes and goes. She's happy, she told me on the phone yesterday that she had just got back from a trip to Chicago. She sounded so good too. I would never have known that she hasn't been to Chicago in 10 years.

Cindy> can at least look forward to reliving all of my trips.

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teleflora

Prayers and good thoughts on the way for you and your family.

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Donna in NE La.

So sorry you have such a burden of worry at the moment, Pati. One thing to remember is to *try* (though I completely understand it is almost impossible) to keep each source of anxiety separate. Then you can tackle each, with baby steps, and progress. If you try to cope with the whole lot, in a great amorphous 'lump', you just end up in the middle of the cloud and can't see your way out.

One practical point, if your dear Mum does manage to stay 'independent' a little while longer: if she doesn't already have one of those alarm systems (where she wear a bracelet or cord round her neck with a large button to press in any kind of emergency - like a fall) look into getting her kitted out with one. It makes a huge difference to the peace of mind of all concerned. But - so does living in an assisted facility. . In message , Pati Cook writes

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Patti

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs to all}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} and special thoughts and good wishes headed your way. Please take care.

Reply to
Sharon Harper

Sending prayers and positive thoughts for you and your DM. And sending you lots of hugs too!!

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Charlotte Hippen

And of course that's what I'm doing, Pati. Lots and lots of good thoughts to all of you.

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Sandy

(((((HUGS2Pati))))) and her family. Was your DM on any medicines that have been recently changed? My Mother had Parkinson's Disease (she passed away in 1990) Next to Alzheimer's, it's one of the most frustrating diseases in the world! My DM went through a period of what I thought might be dementia, but it turned out that it was due to a change in her medication. Sending positive thoughts and prayers to you, your DM, and your Sis. ME-Judy

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Judy

Patti, you must be very worried about all these things going on. I will keep you in my thoughts.

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Estelle Gallagher

Pati, I never know what to say. There are those who say God never sends more than we can bear. I myself wonder about that. At least it seems many of us find ourselves on the receiving end of more than we can deal with. Pain and worry and sickness are bad enough. Add financial misery (something I am altogether too familiar with...) and it just begins to feel that life has gobsmacked you right down.

You certainly will be in my prayers, as will your sister and mom. I know it's the worlds most unheeded advice, but please don't worry. Nothing will change for it, but you will feel ever so much worse. If you can, give your worries and fears up to the prayers and good wishes of all the people who love you and care for you and are wishing you and your family well.

Hugs and prayers, Sunny

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Sunny

{{{{{{{{{{{{{Pati}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} I hope your mom gets better very soon and can resume an independent life.

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Debi Matlack

Thanks to everyone. I think I just needed to "talk" about it, and you all seem to be the way to go. I am trying not to worry too much about the stuff I can't do much about. But it is there in the back of my mind as most of you know.

Mom has had a pretty good life, and I think she will be able to pull through this some. In some ways I wish I was there with her to help, but it is just far enough away to not be possible at the moment. (Tucson, and Mom's place) is about 130 miles from here. And with the cost of gas these days I just can't manage to make it down often.

Finances are always difficult when you are self employed. And after 9-11 we took some major hits in our income and are still trying to get out from under. Even with a bankruptcy a little over a year(or was it 2?) ago we are having major problems at the moment. We'll get through it, but maybe not easily. And the older I get the harder it seems to get.

Again, Thanks so much just for "listening" for letting me get some of this off my chest/shoulders. It does help. I am in tears at the moment with all of your wonderful comments. This is a wonderful group and I really appreciate all of you.

Pati, > As many of you know I have been going through a bunch of health stuff.

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Pati Cook

Prayers and good thoughts on the way, Pati. Please think about assisted living for your mum, it doesn't sound like she is really safe where she is now. There are some wonderful places in Tucson, The Fountains and Amber Lights come to mind right away and I am sure I can check out some others for you at work. Let me know.

I dread this situation myself. MSM and I live across the street from one another in a mobile home park, and we have a good time together when I'm not at work. Part of my mind realizes that she will probably get feeble and die eventually, and another part of my mind thinks that My Mom Is Invincible. I thank God that I have lots of brothers and sisters to help look out for her welfare (I have only to make one phone call or send one email and whatever she needs magically appears) and then I think of my poor son, an only child who has the future care of his mother and dad and stepmother to consider. I can't imagine having to care for three parents!

Aaaack! I must quit borrowing trouble.

As I said, if I can be of any assistance in the matter, you know I am in Tucson and will do some research. We have some amazing volunteers at work who are actually living in assisted living situations for one reason or another.

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Carolyn McCarty

Healing thoughts heading to you and your whole family

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Susan Torrens

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