Please help me

snipped-for-privacy@sbcglobal.net (Lynda Wilson) wrote in message news:...

A woman named Wanda, in soc.penpals posted this below and here`s the website of the woman we bashed and ridiculed.

Wanda`s post to soc.penpals It's not true that the more kids you have, the bigger the unemploymentcheck. Unemployment has nothing to do with your kids, that's SocialServices. She's already said that she uses the benefits that her kidsget, which means that she is collecting for her kids. Unemployment is based on how much your job paid in for you, and if it's a bullshit job that didn't pay much to begin with, believe me you're not going to get much from unemployment. I'm trying to get it, and the job I worked at for almost

2 years is fighting me, even though I left the job because of a manager who told me to "Suck it or quit". (I quit)

It's also not true that the more kids you have, the more money Social Services (welfare) gives you. That's been stopped, just because of the kind of women you all obviously think this woman is. I have no idea if she's telling the truth or not, and personally, I don't care. I don't pick and choose my charities based on what I 'think' the person might do with it. If I want to give, I do, if I don't, then I just don't, I don't sit and dissect the person's motives.

I'm a person who, up until about 6 years ago, used the system in every way that I could, for anything that I could. Now, when I'm trying to get myself together, believe me, I'm getting paid back for everything I ever did. Does that mean that I should just lay down and give up trying to get what I need to survive? I don't think so. None of us know what anyone else here has gone through in their life, and we don't know what got them to where they are. We also don't know why they made the choices that they made, whether it's how many kids they have or what ISP they use. (Perhaps she was married when she had the kids? Perhaps the 'cheap' ISP's where she is don't offer what she needs for school? Or a plan that's cost-effective?) It's not up to us to try and dig into her life or anyone else's. She asked for help, if you want to help but you're not sure whether she's for real, offer to buy the kids some clothing, rather than give her cash, and it doesn't have to be expensive stuff that you figure she can sell. Do your part and the hell with what she does with it, she'll have to deal with whatever wrong she does. (and I'm not talking 'judgment day' or any of that, I'm talking about her not being able to dig from this well again, I'm talking if there are kids, them not having clothing or whatever and her having to suffer for what she does to them, I'm talking jail if she's neglecting them or doing drugs or whatever.) You will have done your part, and that's all any of us can do. If you don't want to give, then don't. You've offered what you had to give, which was your advice, if she doesn't take it then that's on her. To continue to berate her for something she has already done and can't take back, no matter how much she apologizes, does no one any good.

I love coming to this site, and even though I know that I'm gonna get dogged for what I've said, I'll continue to come here. I love the people here, and I always manage to leave with a smile from a joke, or a warm feeling from someone's poetry, or just plain feeling better from seeing a small piece of the better side of life. Today I leave feeling sad that this world has gotten so suspicious of one another, and so cynical of everyone's motives, and that includes myself.

Wanda

PS For anyone who wonders, I emailed her privately when I first read her post, and asked for her children's sizes. I will not send cash; when I can, I will buy an item or two, whatever I can afford, and I will send them to her. I'm unemployed, and I'm going to food pantries to get food so that I can save a few pennies from what I've managed to earn from temp jobs to keep my bills paid. (and that includes having AT&T for an ISP, because the newsgroups is one of my small pleasures in life, and with AT&T I get that. I also keep my phone bill paid so that I can stay on the Internet, because I use the Job Boards and search agents to help me find a permanent position.) I will still find a way to send something though, even if it's only a couple of T-shirts, because I'm hoping that if I ever find myself in a similar situation, where I have to ask strangers to help, that someone will reach out and help me.

And to all the cynics? No, I don't know her from adam's asshole.