Just got off the phone with my Mother. She has a restraining order on her "fiance" (?) for the next year. He is an alcoholic and has been rther abusive to her, both emotionally and mentally. this is also the man who tried to get my then 1yo son to drink coffee laced vodka, tried to get him go down stairs (he had just started walking), and gave him charcoal from the grill to play with.
Mother needs prayers to get through this and be strong, and being a Christian, I would ask that you pray for the man involved - that he gets his life straightened out before it is too late...just got off the phone with my mother, and she has contacted this mans son and brother, both of whom have said that he will not be welcome in their homes....right now he is supposedly in a hotel in a nearby city.
Mother has not had the best luck with men, starting with a guy she dated in college, and I am glad that at least she was able to stay with my father for a while (otherwise, I wouldn't be here!!), but as far as I know, she has never been in a "healthy" relationship.
My wish for her is that she gets to where she is happy in her own skin and doesn't *need* a man in her life to be happy. It would be nice if she could find a decent man, but she needs to heal herself first and break the codependency cycle.
Larisa, sorry to ramble so much, but still sitting here in shock