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Mine is men that use the phrase "the wife". How many wives do you know that
say "the husband"?

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Star love,
Norma



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I use another term but it's not meant for use among polite company.  BTW, I
am divorced.

Lisa W.
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Thank you Norma!! you  hit the nail on the head.
JJ
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Norma wrote:

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They say "hubby" which makes my skin crawl.  ;-)  It's a
toss-up as to which is worse.

The other one that makes me grit my teeth is, "My hubby
won't let me."  Like, what is she?  A possession?  A
child?  Mentally retarded?  Is "hubby" her guardian?
*aaarrrghhhhh!*

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oh gawd, you have my pet peeve....i HATE that!  everytime i hear another woman
say that, i want to slap her upside the head and screem "WAKE UP AND SMELL THAT
COFFEE!!!".  

as you can guess, i am married to a wonderful man who knows better than to
state i cant do something or buy something....its just waving the red flag at
me....
betsey
"we do not inherit the earth, we caretake it for our children"

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Two x over wrote:

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My husband is my domestic partner.  If it were any other
way, I would suggest that the door is open and he should
not let it hit him in the ass on his way out.  hehe.  He
generally is the one suggesting that I buy something or do
something, because he says I don't do enough for myself.
Now, the first two husbands weren't quite as enlightened.
  ;-)

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Yep, same here but only I know where they are burried.

After selling machines for eons, I have discovered that most women own
about 3, now I said most, as in the majority.  They consist of the one
they got from Mom when they got married.  The one the DH bought
sometime during the marriage (usually a Singer, usually a dud, and
purchased because  the dealer was a 'nice guy') and finally the one
they buy themselves.  This last one is most likely the dream machine.
But like Joanne, my old man wanted me to get the dream machine and so
I did.  I am usually the one saying NO all the time.  

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"My hubby won't let me"
I didn't know it offended anybody but I have been married nearly 20
happy years and my husband "gives" me that one.  Yes, it is a gift.
He lets me say stuff like, "I have to ask my husband," "I can't do
that - my husband would shoot me," etc. so that I always have a
scapegoat, I always have an excuse.  It saves me from thinking on my
feet.  It is just easier to blame stuff on him or say that I need his
permission.  Of coarse if I want to buy or do something I can, I am my
own person.  But sometimes the best excuse is simply to blame it on
him.  He doesn't mind because he isn't there.  Everyone knows I love
him to pieces and that he is a super guy with just the average faults
so they don't hold it against him.  
Now, anything over $100 we do check with each other first.  It just
makes sense to concur on larger purchases.  But with that it goes both
ways.  We are a partnership.  
But, I wouldn't get too  peeved at hearing someone say they have to
check with their husbands - .....some marriages are actually
functioning quite well around  built-in systems of checks and
balances.
Joy (who loves the man that puts up with her)

ps  - Don't get made, that statement goes for him too.

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Joy, I agree completely and it works great for us.  I tell him to do the
same thing...use me as an excuse...it is just easier.
Dawn



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Yes, a "little white lie" it's called.  Amazing what we do
to save face or avoid hurting someone's feelings.  "I
can't go out with you Friday night, I have to wash my
hair."  "My dog ate my homework."  "I can't go out and get
drunk with you because my wife won't let me."  hehehe

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I dunno, I don't see it as a white lie or I would never do it.  I see it
more as an "implied non-permission" because in my children's case they
know that if they don't want to do it I will gladly say that they can't
if that's the only way they can get out of it.

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I know God will not give me anything I can't handle.
I just wish that He didn't trust me so much.  - Mother Teresa


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Or, to bring it back on topic, to save money: "Oh, dear, that's the sewing
machine for me but it's $xx more than my husband wants me to pay." Then SHUT
UP. The next person to speak looses. It should be the salesman saying "Well,
perhaps I can knock $yy off the price..."

Ooh, I love to haggle :-)

Sally H



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another take on this is that if one has a marriage that is a partnership,
you work as a team and not independently.  While I'd agree that the phrase
"my hubby won't let me" is  most likely indicative of control issues,  I
don't think twice about  saying that I need to check with my husband about
certain things that I do. I don't hide anything, and I think it's only
courteous and respectful to be in communication about what's going on. It's
not an issue of him "letting me" do things, or me "letting him" do things...
we respect each other's wished for what's acceptable.

That being said, in our house there's a bit of friendly humor about "the
wife" "the hubby"  or other (imo) silly pet names...
I've got bigger things to stress about that, in my life.

Penny S



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Penny S wrote:

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Well, if someone has a hard time saying "no" but can say that, more
power to them!

I always told my small fry that any time they don't want to do something
some other kids asks them to do but are too
chicken/afraid/ashamed/embarrassed whatever to say so, they are welcome
to lay the blame on me, and I have also told them that if their bluff is
called and they come ask me, they should word it such-and-such a way so
that the friend/acquaintance won't see that they are looking for a "no"
answer, and I will be glad to confirm it for them.  It always worked
like a charm.

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I know God will not give me anything I can't handle.
I just wish that He didn't trust me so much.  - Mother Teresa


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I told mine the same and it worked so well that my 30+ year old son still
has no problem saying. "I'm sorry, my Mom won't let me do that."  He,
however, uses this line when he actually doesn't want to do something with
friends or coworkers come up with some harebrained scheme for a project and
says it's very effective when delivered with a perfectly straight face. The
first time he tried it there was brain-storming going on in "the war room"
at work and a very ludicrous idea was tossed out he just said,  " ummmmmm,
no, my Mom would NEVER allow me to do that." He said the whole room went
silent and eyes sort of slowly all turned his way like WHAT DID HE SAY?
Then somebody else said, yeah my mom won't let me do that either and so it
went around the table. It is now code for, 'that's the dumbest thing you've
ever come up with' or 'when pigs fly'.  He's even had people come up to him
at work and ask......"Do you think your Mom would let you go to lunch with
us or should we call her first".  He says they aren't as good at keeping a
straight face though ;-)

Val



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You are RIGHT and you raised a smart man.  One day I heard my husband
telling our 14 year old daughter as she was leaving to go out with
some friends that if anything came up that she didn't want to
participate in...just to tell them that her Dad wouldn't let her and
to call home.  Same thing.  

I guess the one thing I never want to be called is an old NAG.  I did
hear my dad cal my mom that once and I couldn't believe she didn't
whollop him!
Joy

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How funny all this stuff can be!  Parental parameters do give kids a
safety net for behavior - and men and women as well when it comes to
"checking" with each other.  

But that "nag" word:  I hate it!  My husband - and most - hate to be
nagged.  What is nagging?  Reminding them of something they remember.
When they have forgotten what you are telling them, you are the
sweetest thing to have reminded them!

Well!  My answer to all techies is:  men can only multitask in Windows
- women multitask in real life!



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I got the DH with that a year or so back...  I was flitting from thing
to thing, cooking the dinner, pressing quilt blocks and fabric,
supervising the S&H with some homework, tidying the table for the meal.  

How can you do all that at once? he asked.

Multitasking, I replied.  You men have only been doing it since you
invented computers, but we women have done it for millennia!  You'll
never catch up...

He laughed!

If you tell a man something, that's OK; you can 'remind' him of it
once...  about a week later.  After that, it's nagging!  And if they
STILL forget, it's YOUR fault for not telling them!
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Kate  XXXXXX
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On Tue, 18 Nov 2003 14:52:58 +0000, Kate Dicey wrote:

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You just have to remind them often enough that it becomes THEIR idea - and
then it will get done;)

Trish

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On 16 Nov 2003 03:34:58 GMT, snipped-for-privacy@aol.com (Two x over) wrote:

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My least fav is when a woman says she likes the easy care of short hair but her
hubby likes long hair and won't let her get it cut.  I know she's talking about
her hair, but I am always tempted to say "really?  I like long hair on men.  Why
do you want to get his hair cut?"
Xena

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