OT:prayers needed


I've been receiving texts from a friend in UK, whose DH has had a
breakdown & is now accusing her of murder, drug dealing, prostitution
etc. At the moment it is being dealt with in the courts and with
solicitors, but someone has to prove that he has had a breakdown and
that she hasn't committed all these offences.
I find it very confusing as she doesn't have a landline or internet
connection at the moment, so I only get little updates on my phone by
sms. Having not spoken to her in ages, and I know that he has had a
breakdown many years ago, I just find it strange that anyone is
listening to these accusations, unless there is a nugget of truth in it,
but surely not.
I don't know what to think, my last message from her said that they were
both to be assessed by a psychiatrist. They have both been under an
awful lot of stress for the past 3 years, failed business, lost their
house and ended up living in a field in a caravan with 3 kids, because
he wouldn't accept help from the government. So about a month ago she
left him and got help from the local government who have housed her and
since then he has apparently written over 200 pages of accusations and
so her nightmare has begun. I know that he would feel a failure because
his wife has gone elsewhere for help, but they couldn't continue the way
they were.
I suppose what I am asking for is for prayers for both of them and a
speedy resolution to all of this for them. I couldn't believe it when I
received the 1st text, still can't i suppose, but i want to be a
supportive friend but i don't know what to say and somehow it is just so
much more difficult when our only point of contact is sms or a letter in
the post, which takes so long. I've contemplated calling her DM, but
not sure how she would react by a stranger calling and asking after her
daughter as they have quite a strained relationship.
If you have read this far, thanks, just needed to get this all out!
Janner
France
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Janner
Janner, sometimes all we can do is hold someone to our hearts, say a prayer, and then turn it over to God, Universe, karma ... whatever it is you trust to deal with matters too big to hold in your own hands. Seems to me you have gone above and beyond. I will say a prayer for your friend (and for the record, a 200 page accusation, that's usually a tip-off to the authorities that they're dealing with a Uni-bomber type) and commend her to the safe keeping of Providence. I hope you can do the same, for your peace of mind.
Hugs, Sunny
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Sunny
Thanks for all your advice, my gut instinct is that he isn't very well. I just pray for their sake it is all resolved soon. Thanks for the prayers.
Janner France
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Janner
oh dear me, Jan, does indeed sound as if the dh has lost a few marbles along the way. this could take some time to sort out but i'm sure it will in the end. just keep being there to read her txts and respond with kindness and understanding. she just needs someone to understands her stress. doesnt seem there is much else you can do. hugz all around, j.
"Janner" wrote ... I've been receiving texts from a friend in UK, whose DH has had a breakdown & is now accusing her of murder, drug dealing, prostitution etc. At the moment it is being dealt with in the courts and with solicitors, but someone has to prove that he has had a breakdown and that she hasn't committed all these offences.
I find it very confusing as she doesn't have a landline or internet connection at the moment, so I only get little updates on my phone by sms. Having not spoken to her in ages, and I know that he has had a breakdown many years ago, I just find it strange that anyone is listening to these accusations, unless there is a nugget of truth in it, but surely not.
I don't know what to think, my last message from her said that they were both to be assessed by a psychiatrist. They have both been under an awful lot of stress for the past 3 years, failed business, lost their house and ended up living in a field in a caravan with 3 kids, because he wouldn't accept help from the government. So about a month ago she left him and got help from the local government who have housed her and since then he has apparently written over 200 pages of accusations and so her nightmare has begun. I know that he would feel a failure because his wife has gone elsewhere for help, but they couldn't continue the way they were.
I suppose what I am asking for is for prayers for both of them and a speedy resolution to all of this for them. I couldn't believe it when I received the 1st text, still can't i suppose, but i want to be a supportive friend but i don't know what to say and somehow it is just so much more difficult when our only point of contact is sms or a letter in the post, which takes so long. I've contemplated calling her DM, but not sure how she would react by a stranger calling and asking after her daughter as they have quite a strained relationship.
If you have read this far, thanks, just needed to get this all out!
Janner France
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J*
Oh, Janner, prayers for them and for you. It's so hard to have people you care about at a distance, and not being able to help or even see what's going on.
--Heidi
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heidi (was rabbit2b)
My 2p's-worth: paranoia is untreatable. Don't expect any medical intervention to do a damn thing to affect the DH's actions beyond maybe providing a very brief respite. He will go on and on and on and on and on with these bizarre accusations for the rest of his life, even from a cell in Broadmoor.
She needs to get a good lawyer and disappear where he can't find her, ever.
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