I forget... Doesn't "too sensitive" mean you were bold enough to speak up when someone offended you?
: >For the past 10 days - I have spent the majority of the time sad and/or : >in a mild state of depression. Why? Because as my mother has said for : >years, "Tina, you are just too sensitive." Yep, I guess she's right, : >again. : >
: >As of Tuesday last week, I started receiving the typical pass around, : >garbage emails that start from a news report or paper editorial. : >Someones opinion on the hurricane, someones opinion on who's to blame, : >where the fault lies, what people should have done and shouldn't have : >done. : >
: >Some of the ugliest I received, blamed the victims themselves. One of : >the ugliest, and purely inhumane, garbage emails I received stated, : >"Well, if you look at the ones they were rescuing off the roofs...they : >were all black, welfare recipients, waiting on the government to save : >them..." : >
: >I was hurt. I was mad. I got really down and depressed that this kind : >of garbage was coming from people I knew and at one time respected. : >
: >It doesn't seem to matter to them that the people they saw being : >rescued off of roof tops were just flat, plain, Human Beings! Didn't : >matter what color their skin was. Didn't matter what their religious : >preference was. Didn't matter what their previous financial standing : >was. They were HUMAN BEINGS, in need of HELP! And I couldn't believe : >some of the reactions and statements I was hearing. : >
: >It occurred to me - I shouldn't be surprised. Some of these comments : >were coming from the same people who send (in bulk email) Jewish jokes, : >Italian jokes, Hispanic laborer jokes....I think you get the point. : >
: >I guess my point is - if one is willing to make light of, make fun of, : >or denegrate ANY other human being - in the name of humor even - then : >you can pretty well guage their level of human compassion and love for : >their fellow man. : >
: >When you laugh at the jokes, because you think, "Oh, it's just a junk : >email joke being sent around." Think about the person who came up with : >the joke. Think about the person who forwarded it to you. Did they : >THINK first? Did they think, "Oh, it's all in fun, it's just humor?" : >Or did they think, "This is making fun of someone, cutting someone else : >down, in the name of 'humor'?" : >
: >Yep, people now days will say and do just about anything - with no : >regard for how it might affect those around them or those who overhear. : > It's sad really. Because a lot of those same people are people I : >called my friends. At times, it was even myself. And that part really : >hurts. : >
: >I'm not laughing anymore. After the way I have seen people treated in : >the last two weeks, in the face of disaster and emergency - I have : >decided, it's not funny. The jokes aren't funny. Because the same : >people who were sending the jokes and laughing - are the same ones who : >are pointing fingers, blaming and denegrating their fellow human beings : >who just plain need their help, right now! : >
: >The joke is on us. When we joke, when we laugh - at another human : >beings expense - we are only hurting ourselves. And when we are : >telling others about it, and laughing - we don't know how many people : >around us we are hurting as well. : >
: >I have hurt so bad this week it has made me cry a thousand times. Not : >for myself - but for the people who are being hurt by the attitudes of : >those making the jokes and the comments. : >
: >It's really not funny. I have thought over, and over, and over again : >this week - "Does it really need to be said?" "If you don't have : >anything nice, good, or productive to say, couldn't you just keep your : >mouth shut?" : >
: >I have been told more than one time this week - "Tina, your : >expectations of other human beings, as well as yourself, are just too : >high. Then, you are disappointed when they don't live up to your : >expectations." Like I told that person, "Are you saying, that me, : >expecting my friends, neighbors and acquaintances - to treat other : >human beings, with basic human compassion and respect - is too HIGH of : >an expectation?" : >
: >I guess my therapist is right then. My expectations are too high and : >I'll be damned if I will lower them any time soon. Sorry for the : >expletive. : >
: >Tina, stepping off my soapbox, at least on the group : >BTW, thank you to the person who said I was happy, not in a pollyanna : >kind of way. My mother has said for years that I was just "too : >Pollyanna". Unfortunately, no, I'm not. I'm all too realistic at : >times, so much so that it breaks my heart. : : Tina, you're my hero! I too, have always been called "too : sensitive", and told my expectations were too high. What's the : alternative? To give up? : Well *you* don't give up. You help others and make them happy; in : turn all your actions and giving gives you happiness too. Your : stories here, Polly's stories here... are uplifting. Thank you for : the window to your world. : When you tell us of your happiness, many others are smiling with : you; when you tell us of your troubles and your thoughts, many others : are thinking of you. You are not alone, my friend. : What are the benefits of being "too sensitive", of having "high : expectations"? I believe it is integrity, self-respect, and the : respect of others. : : : -- Jo in Scotland