It's been two weeks since my dear Mom passed away. I now know what the phrase "Death with dignity" means. She did it her way. She insisted on being home surrounded by people she loved.
My biggest regret was that we weren't able to get her to switch doctors sooner and she lived the last year of her life in a great deal more pain and discomfort than she needed. He assumed "Old lady" and never did much to diagnose conditions that could have been treated to make her comfortable.
The big issue in our lives (myself & my sisters) is what to do with her beautiful house. The three of us now share an interest in it. One sister wants to sell it asap before it gets hit by a hurricane (Florida) and because the housing market is declining. The other can't bear to see any of my mother's things touched. I guess I'm somewhere in the middle, but I'm many miles removed from the situation and only get the phone calls from each of them. It's a hard thing when everyone is still grieving. I wish there was an easy way to handle this. I hope we can work things out when I go down in a few weeks to get the dog.
I did get my sister to agree to go through my mother's drawers and pick out the clothes she wanted me to make into quilts for her and her
2 children. I just wish I could remove the hurt.Linda PATCHogue, NY Linda PATCHogue, NY