OK, ya'll said I could vent and come here for support thru this time ... so here I am. I could really use your opinions and advice here.
I'm SO confused about my emotions! It's not the surgery I know, because I've been confused about these things for a long time now. Sometimes I'm just not sure if all my emotions are completely wrong ... and hold no value, or Jim has made me so confused (because HE is confused) that I don't have faith in my own feelings anymore.
I miss Jim allot, and after being separated for 2 years (married 9 years), I'm getting tired of the indecision on his part to live together again. Anyway the situation I'm writing about:
He's sceduled to go to a snowmobile meeting tonight (at 7:00 p.m.) and a snowmobile convention this whole week-end, and then to his son's out of state next week-end. I can't go to any of these with him yet (cause of surgery). I called him this morning on his break and asked what he was doing after work and for dinner until he had to be at the meeting. He gets out at 4:00. He said he had to work on some engine parts for his brother. I asked if that could be put off until another night and we could have dinner together .. he said no it can't because he had all ready planned on doing them and wanted to get them done before he goes away this week-end.
He is forever doing things for his brother and at his brother's house. His brother has a small business, and also has 2 sons who race ... and also snowmobile, so there's always something to do or work on ... even if sometimes it's just for fun. He is at his brother's house ALLOT .. and especially since we've been separated, so it's not like he doesn't have time to himself .. he has MOST of the time to himself.
I felt hurt and rejected and like I wasn't as important AGAIN as his brother and what he wanted to do for him. Even when I express this to him it doesn't seem to matter, because he gets mad at me and says he spends plenty of time with me.
Soooo I'm asking, am I thinking wrong here about how I feel about this? Am I again being overly sensitive or are my feelings fair?
Sometimes I wonder if I'm all wired wrong in the way I see things ... or is it that I DO have a right to the way "I" feel .. even if others may feel different or see it another way.
Please do tell me what you think about this particular situation ... and what I'm feeling in general. I surely do appreciate ya'll listening. :-)
Hugs, Dee