Peace, Please!
I didn't want to start an arguement, nor did I want to diagnose my son on a beading group. I simply wanted to know if others had experienced similar situations, and their observations. :) I am a mother who is sad and scared and angry and wants to help her son feel better in the most expedient way possible.
I have taken every posting very seriously, and I have been sorting through the many suggestions, other websites, and options that have been issued up by all of the wonderful folks here.
A bit more history.... Michael (DS) was in both a 3 year old and a 4 year old preschool class. (We felt it was an important socialization experience for him as his is an only child, and will remain so for medical and health reasons) Michael has ALWAYS tested 2-3 years AHEAD on language and resoning( math, logic, etc.) and has tested 1-3 years BEHIND on the physical aspect of writing. (even though manual deterity and fine motor control have ben way ahead of the curve)
To watch him work on a story, for instance, the physical act of writing is painful to watch. He has trouble forming the letters, and will start in the most awkward places in a letter, despite hours of tracing, and writing in sand and other activities designed to learn the steps to writing the alphabet. Even with a letter/number chart taped to his table, he has difficulty forming his letters, and even when able to look at a refernece, will still form backwards. His entire body is gripped in the tension of writing the words tha come so easily to his mind. He can draw elaborately detailed pictures that can tell the story he is unable to write. Conversely, if he is allowed to work at a computer or typewriter, he can produce work that has proper spacing, excellent punctuation for a 6yo, and spelling that is definitely on track, and the misspelled words are easily comprehended (substituting a k for a c, or an f for a gh in words he is sounding out as he is writing).
I have been bringing up the issue of writing since early on in his pre-school days. I volunteered in the classroom, and was able to see him struggling at an early age. I've been told to wait by the teachers for almost 4 years.
I have been waiting and watching, and working with him at home. That is no longer enough.
Maybe it is something he will outgrow. Maybe it isn't. I would like to rule out actual problems, and then focus on the best way to help him, whatever the diagnosis. (problem or time)
I do not see him as having a horrid defect, I am not trying to classify him as normal or abnormal. I am trying to help a child who is frustrated beyond belief with himself. He is extremely aware that he cannot "get" writing, and God knows he tries. He is frustrated with himself, and he is beginning to doubt in himself, because this is a pervasive problem that carries throughout the majority of his school day, and drags him down in every subject. He is doubly frustrated because he KNOWS the answers, and he KNOWS that that is what he WROTE (in his mind). I want to find a way to stop his frustration and anger. I do NOT want to sit with my precious little boy on my lap and hear him EVER AGAIN say to me he thinks he is stupid and wishes he was never born. NO 6 yr old should EVER feel that way. I have spend every day of his life pointing out all of the things he does well, praising his efforts and telling him how proud I am of him and how much I love him. That will not matter until he can believe in himself again. And I think that is a pretty SHITTY place for a 6 yr old to be, and I am willing to move heaven and earth to find a SOLUTION.