I've lost the post that made me think about this, so I'll just start another thread.
It occurs to me that one approach to dealing with school officials who refuse to take action about bullies is to ask them to reframe the situation.
"Suppose your secretary came in and said that one of the teachers had called her a . Would you tell her that she was being too sensitive and should just get over it? No? What makes it okay for someone to say that to my child, but not to your secretary? Because the teacher is an adult and should know better? How did the teacher learn better in the first place? How do you expect these kids to learn what kind of behavior adults consider acceptable if you never teach them?"
Reframing is a really useful technique for getting people to see a situation in a different light. And given the *heavy* double standard that many people have about kids vs. adults, I think it could be particularly effective for this one.
Celine