Hello all! I am going back to work tomorrow and need some really positive vibes. My boss and I don't see eye to eye because he is a coward and does not respect his workers. Anyhow, I was written up even though I followed "written" policy and I'm sure he has another little surprise waiting for me. I need vibes to 1) not lose my temper, 2) help me think before I speak, and
3) not to punch his lights out. Now the 3 might be a little hard, but I'll work on it, I promise.Thanks,
Starlia
vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from "starlia" :
]I need vibes to 1) not lose my temper, 2) help me think before I speak, and ]3) not to punch his lights out. Now the 3 might be a little hard, but I'll ]work on it, I promise.
been there, done that. STILL trying not to do #3 myself [she's bigger than i am].
positive vibes incoming.
----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)
Thanks. The doctor put me on anti-depressants and also on something that will calm my stomach. The only time I've ever had stomach problems was when my hubby left me for a 17 year old 11 years ago. It's okay. I got a better man, but my stomach feels the same. Just the thought of having to be there stresses me to no end.
Positive vibes coming, Starlia! Lol. We watched "Chicago" the other night, and I keep thinking of that song, "He Had it Coming".
LOL. Thanks!
vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from snipped-for-privacy@aol.comnospam (Carol in SLC) :
]This is the reason I LOVE being self-employed!
you don't get mad at the MDs? the ones who dictate while eating? slur things together? make up words?
i've got one MD i just call "dip-shit". my whole family knows who i'm talking about. his staff calls him "goofy". i hope i never meet him in person!
----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)
On Mon, 1 Sep 2003 19:29:06 -0400, starlia wrote (in message ):
Most likely. People like that have no real lives, and have to spend their time making trouble for people who do.
I try to think of people like that as children having a tantrum, and observing their behavior with calm amusement is the best tactic. Drives 'em nuts, but there's nothing they can do about it, and eventually they burn themselves out.
Postive vibes coming your way!
Kathy N-V
(((((((hugs)))))))) Lots of positive vibes for you! Jerky bosses are a pain in the a$$. I wish you luck!
Well I wimped out this morning. I couldn't sleep all night and when I got up this morning I was physically sick. I have to go back to work. I called the doctor to give me something to sleep all through the night, but I've got to stop worrying about him. He isn't the real issue. His boss is the issue. She is a real bitch. She treats everyone there like crap and I guess God put me there to buck the system and get some changes. However, I hate being the one to do it. In all the years that she has been there no one has won a case against her from HR or the union.
I'm going to try tomorrow. We'll see how that goes.
I bucked the cowardly boss on my previous job. It got me a three day suspension for insubordination , a black mark on my permanent record, and my formal appeal to the library director was denied without investigation, in spite of lots of people who were more than willing to back me up to the higher echelon. No one even -asked- them to give their input.
My ultimate conclusion was that the power structure does not exist to uphold justice, it exists to upholds the power structure, and most of its formal grievance provisions are window-dressing, and nothing more.
I got identified as an Enemy of the State, and was looked upon as a big-time trouble-maker for daring to say "Look, there is something wrong over here..." I was denied raises and promotions for a few years. Until we got another supervisor in the buffer space between me and the person I had the audacity to take issue with. My crime was that I made his mismanagement visible to those above him by forcing a disciplinary process. He couldn't hide any more, and had to account for himself. That was enough to bring the change of pace that I and my overwhelmed co-workers had been trying to call for ... for nearly a year ... without any official attention whatsoever.
I figure I probably lost about $3-5K in income I would have made all told, if I had stayed 'in my place'. But if I had known that in advance, I suspect I'd still have done what I did -- (Staged a walk-out ... when no one who knew what they were doing was available to fill in ...)
Not because I wanted play hero, but because I was fed up, and nothing else we had tried got the results we were after. Some attention to what was possible. A representative to sit in on planning meetings that involved work done mostly by our team. That kind of nonsense.
But my sticking my individual neck out (even though it basically got chopped off) ultimately made a difference. For the first time, when plans were being made to use our team to deploy huge projects on top of our already demanding other duties, our voices finally were heard, and when we said "We can only do that if *this* happens, too..." we were a lot more likely to find that it was actually possible after all to get whatever resources we needed to make the project remotely feasible -- without wrecking everyone's health and straining everyone to the point of exhaustion. Every time we had half-killed ourselves meeting ridiculous deadlines before that, our reward was not a break, but the knowledge that what we had done this time became the new 'norm' of expectation, because after all, we had managed it, hadn't we? So surely we could do it again. And again and again.
Deirdre (and this was a service organization, not a profit-making one)
Try Benadryl (allergy only, not cold) for getting to sleep. It's what my pdoc recommended, and it has the fewest side effects.
Tina
Ah, my fellow crusader. Discretion may be the greater part of valor, but often not the greater part of integrity.
Tina
vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from Deirdre S. :
] in spite of lots of people who were more ]than willing to back me up to the higher echelon. No one even -asked- ]them to give their input.
exactly. i did that, too. and got just as far.
]My ultimate conclusion was that the power structure does not exist to ]uphold justice, it exists to upholds the power structure, and most of ]its formal grievance provisions are window-dressing, and nothing more.
amen. and i worked for a flippin' UNION.
----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)
vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from "Christina Peterson" :
]Ah, my fellow crusader. Discretion may be the greater part of valor, but ]often not the greater part of integrity.
amen!
----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)
It was a costly triumph, if it could be called a triumph. We didn't get veto power over silly ideas. We just got to have a little bit of influence over the terms on which we implemented them... :-/
Deirdre
My mother did, too. And she had similar stories to tell.
Deirdre
power over silly ideas. We just got to have a little bit of influence over the terms on which we implemented them... :-/<
Sadly, standing up for what's right doesn't always end well - but it sure makes it easier to live with oneself!! As far as I'm concerned "you done good!"
Carol in SLC eBay:
Thanks. I don't regret it at all. But if I did it again, it would be with a good bit more realism about the likely outcome.
Deirdre
That was her question. She got to be an 'enemy of the state' by insisting that the secretaries were entitled to actually -get- the terms of their contract. She did to the union -within the union- what a union organizer does in a hostile, unrepresented industry.
She appreciated the irony.
Deirdre
]Marrying someone whose dictation I used to ]transcribe probably helped change my attitude some too, LOL!!>
I always wondered how you met... LOL - since he is so much the QUIET type! Cheryl of DRAGON BEADS Flameworked beads and glass
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