Re: Feminism, Families & other wanders

I'd rather live with the butterflies in my stomach

This is exactly my take on this issue.

I have my fingers crossed. My daughter called and said that she is thinking about moving back to me. I told her I don't have money to give her but I can offer free room & food while she goes to college.

vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from "Deborah Barilleaux" :

]I have my fingers crossed. My daughter called and said that she is thinking ]about moving back to me. I told her I don't have money to give her but I ]can offer free room & food while she goes to college.

**smile** which way are you crossing your fingers? that she comes back? or stays put?

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I want her to come back. Go to school and get a degree. She's interested in being a teacher. I think she would be a fantastic teacher. I don't want her to have a life like mine. She is heading that way now.

vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from "Deborah Barilleaux" :

]I want her to come back. Go to school and get a degree. She's interested ]in being a teacher. I think she would be a fantastic teacher. I don't want ]her to have a life like mine. She is heading that way now.

then i'll say prayers for her to get her act together and come home.

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Thank you - she needs all the prayers she can get.

I tell people, including my kids, that I don't have the right to pass on a story/information when it doesn't involve me. It's important that we don't let ourselves be tricked into giving out information appropriately by adults too.

Tina

Okay, I read your post, Tina, and then my eyes drifted below and saw the menstruation. That combo induced the off the wall thought "Does someone who follows Tina's method not speak about menstruation if they have had a complete hysterectomy?" Like I said, off the wall. :)

Yep, I use that one too. She respects it and also respects it when she's told a movie or book or whatever is not child appropriate. I love that about her!>Just to let you know, there is a down side to the total honesty and

Oh, yeah, I've already experienced that. Part of our biggest challenge with her is that she feels like she can speak candidly with anyone, at any time. She's still only 9, so the restraint and sense of "tact" will develop. (I hope! LOL)

She also doesn't settle for partial answers or "brush off" information from me or just about anyone else. She's the queen of "ok, but why?". Raising a bright child is a blessing, and a challenge! I always say that God knew my tendency to be lazy and sent me a kid who could whip me into shape!!

Keep your parenting tips coming, I can see that you're a good team (and think like me, which of course is good...bawhahahaw)

The Blessed Fiddy, Patroness Saint of the Disorganized LC in Sunny So Cal Personality Development Specialist (Full-Time Mom!)

Of course I can pass on facts and public information. That's never a problem, and of course, most people who have had hysterectomies have menstruated, too. I hadn't noticed the menstruation stuff. I should have cut that out and just kept the line in the post about:

I was thinking about personal things. And why things.

I am very willing to talk about my experience with alcoholism, but won't talk about another person and their experience. I feel free to pass on my knowledge about Depression and the stigma of mental illness. I feel free to say that half the people in Alaska have been in jail and I'm one of them (3 days for DUI).

But if I have private information or know secrets from or about someone, that's not my story to tell. Giving someone else's story, is not something I have a right to do. It's not mine to give.

And it's not just children we have to be careful with, with what we tell. There are unscrupulous adults, bosses, friends that what us to give information we don't have a right to give, too. We need to use the same honor and discretion when we talk to adults too. We need to be respectful.

Tina

On Mon, 16 Aug 2004 15:06:15 -0400, Christina Peterson wrote (in message ):

I think that's the key. Treat everyone respectfully and it should be all right.

Kathy N-V

vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from snipped-for-privacy@aol.comnospam (LC aka Fiddy) :

] Raising a ]bright child is a blessing, and a challenge!

amen!

----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)

newest creations: ----------- I pledge allegiance to the Constitution of the United States of America, and to the republic which it established, one nation from many peoples, promising liberty and justice for all. Feel free to use the above variant pledge in your own postings.