This splitting hair decisions , are facinating, but sometimes have to be taken, esp when one curates, or researchers objects. But even if it isn`t that problem, every time one has to refuse an object for an exhibition , one has to explain it to the person who offered it for participation. I don`t know it is luck, or reasonable explaining , but until now [touch wood] , i have never had bad reactions when i had to refuse an object , on the contrary, mant a time same artist or crafter, invites me to have a look at their stuff before their next exhibition[s],,,,, I honestly sit with every person and talk with them, just in the same manner i wrote to Lucretia . mirjam