It's been one week since my beloved Terry has passed!

Sending more love right back to you. Give yourself plenty of time and take especially good care right now,

Judie, in Western New York

Oh Launie, do not try so hard to keep your emotions at bay. This is the time to cry. Yes. It's part of the process. And you are doing fine through it. I'm so glad you stopped in.

Karen, Queen of Squishies

You and your son are in our prayers. Don't be afraid to cry -- or crawl into bed and pull the covers over your head for a while.

Try hard to remember all the wonderful things you shared. And remember that he will always live in your dear son.

Kate in MI

I have some sense of your trying 'to keep your emotions at bay'. Perhaps it is that you don't know what would happen, if you did 'let go' and really cry your heart out. I feared that I didn't know whether I would survive, and come out the other end of the storm. The point came when I could hold out no longer. I did 'come out the other end', I had not gone mad, and all was pretty much the same, except that I was no longer fearful of 'giving way. If that helps, I'm glad. You need to express your grief in whatever way 'happens'. Yes, you have to do all the 'business' stuff, and that is such a heavy load, as it has to be right first time. But, people will help if asked; and this is the time to share the load - I don't mean with your son; but anyone else who comes offering.

Take care and don't be hard on yourself. . In message , simpleseven writes

Launie {{{Hugs}}}

I remember that 'lost' feeling. Don't worry too much about that now. You will find focus in time. For now that 'business stuff' gives you something that 'has to be done' to focus on.

I didn't quilt or sew anything for a long time after. It seemed that none of my 'normal' pasttimes could grab my interest. I did a lot of jig saw puzzles my first winter on my own. Sooner or later life will take you by the hand and you will find a 'new normal' for you!

Keep us posted from time to time so we know how you are doing. Your spot at the quilting table will be here when you are ready.

Prayers coming your way for you and your son.

Marilyn in Alberta, Canada

Launie, Still keeping you and your son in my prayers.

amy in CNY

((((((((((Launie & Son))))))))))

I'm holding you in my prayers and sending hugs your way. You have angel in heaven now watching over you. Just remember, the emotions you feel are a natural part of the grief process and you don't have to keep them at bay. It's ok to cry or scream or punch a pillow or whatever you feel the need to do. Take care of yourself.

Hugs, Mika

*I feel like a broken record. TAKE BREAKS EVERY HOUR for yourself For your son. When he's home take your breaks together.

ITS OK TO CRY and yes, even in front of your son. if he asks why Don't say "don't worry, I'll be ok" He will know, and this is one time he NEEDS TO KNOW WHY... or else he will get himself on a irreparable guilt trip. Last thing either of you want to cope with.

Feel alone and weepy: come tell us. One of us may be online at that time and just hold your hand. I have held my hand against the compie screen a few times both to 'give and to get' the feeling of someone being there. There are a number of us at any given time (except maybe Christmas Eve trying to get those last minute things done....but it isn't Christmas Eve everywhere at the same time.

Yes, it's ok to cry on Christmas. DON'T bottle it in......ulcers are NOT FUN......sides they hurt, ruin what you can/'t eat for the rest of your life.

Keep my Wings as long as you need them. I have a coupla extra pair. Right now Mr. Joe has my bent Platinum ones.

Butterfly (not all of us sleep all night every night--and come here just to 'browse' so say Hi and we may answer)

Launie, Sending warm condolences and prayers at this sad time. Pat Virginia

I'll be here Christmas Eve *and Christmas Day!

We do little different! I'm sure I won't be alone - though it might be a bit echo-ey! . In message , Butterflywings writes

I just wish I knew what to say to comfort you and your son. I can't imagine what you must be feeling, my youngest DD has just turned 10 and sometimes they are more grownup and understanding that what we realise.

I have a friend who lost her father at about the same age, but it was never discussed and now she still has questions that need answering and she is now in her 40s. So please be as honest as his age will allow, to answer any questions that he may have now or in the future. Let him come to you when he is ready. I'm sure that you will find comfort in each other after all he was special to you both, just in different ways.

Hugs and prayers to you both.

Janner

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