Was-My DH passed away this morning.

It has been two weeks this morning that my beloved Terry has moved on to the next realm. Most times I walk around here lost. I have no regrets when it comes to my wonderful husband, no should haves, no would haves, except maybe meet him sooner than I had. But thats strictly out of my hands. I miss him greatly and still cry at a moments notice. My poor QI does his best to lick every bit of sorrow from my face, neck, whatever he can get to....which I do have to admit I end up forcing myself to stop crying and pet him instead.

I have hemmed my DS's jamma pants and have slipped the elastic throught the waistband, minus one pair, he's yet to try on. I also managed to start working on my in-laws mariner's compass tabletopper again, although I don't know it'll be ready in time for Christmas.

I have been taking some time to clean out my DH's drawers and medical supplies. I've donated about ten boxes of misc items.

I never realized when I jokingly wrote about not having a JoAnn gift card in my stocking this year, it would be a harsch fact-just because my wonderful DH won't be here. As far as Christmas shopping goes, I thank God my DS's was pretty much taken care of, minus stocking stuffers.

Hanging in there and thanking God for my DS-who truly is a blessing. I hope everyone here is doing as well as can be expected. Kathyl, keep that leg up as best you can during the weddings. Launie, in Oregon

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simpleseven
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Dear Laurie, my heart goes out to you. My dear mom grieved for dad for a very long time after his death and never dated afterward. She lived 35 years more. I hope that you can find peace. Barbara in FL

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Bobbie Sews Moore

The feelings you hare having are normal and will lessen with the passage of time. You are about to start the next phase of your life. It will be different and probably difficult to adjust to, in the short term. But your memories will remain and the feelings for the part of your life that is just finished will remain with you, as well, as you continue this journey. I hope that you can make this transition with as much ease and serenity as can be mustered and you will see a new day open before you sooner rather than later. Best thoughts and wishes.

John

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John

Two weeks well done, Launie. I admire your courage and determination, you willingness to accept and let things happen, and most of all your coming in here to tell us how it's going. Sending more hugs, and some prayers.

Karen, Queen of Squishies

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Karen, Queen of Squishies

((((((((Launie)))))))))) Continued prayers for you and DS

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maryd

Thank you for dropping by, to let us know how you are doing. We do really care, and these things affect us all, when one of our number is suffering - all in different ways; but there somehow. You're doing so very well; you are dredging up every ounce of courage and energy that you can. As 'they' always say, take one day at a time and get through it as best you can. It won't be a continuous upward path: there will be further plateaux and downward slopes. Keeping your eyes on the horizon helps get over these. I bet the feel of your son's hand in yours is just the best 'walking aid' you can get.

Anything you don't get ready for Christmas - and no-one will think it at all amiss - just give them a picture of what you've done so far with a rain check for the finished piece.

I hope you are eating reasonably properly - even with no appetite, try to get some good things down you. I'm sure you're urging your son to eat his dinner!! We're now nagging you >g< . In message , simpleseven writes

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Patti

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Joanna

Oh my gosh! You caught me by surprise! I was gently reading your message and silently crying with you. My inconvenient situation will only slightly dent my joy.......and it doesn't compare to your sorrow. I'm humbled to be mentioned in the same note as your dear Terry. Take care.........

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KJ

I second this............ and I wish I had the sensitivity and insight to have written it. Well done, John!

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KJ

Launie, I've kept you in my thoughts for the last two weeks. When my dad died, my mom was just so heartbroken - dad was her only love. Of course she never 'got over it,' but rather 'got through it,' finding strength and purpose in her family, friends and church. She took one day at a time and came to the decision that their time together was her life's greatest blessing, and this gave her a great deal of peace...I sincerely hope you find a similar path. Peace and blessings to you.

-Irene

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IMS

Launie, First, I want to say I know how you are feeling. My husband of 39 yrs, died

2 Feb 06. He was my life and I miss him so much. I'm still working through it. I'm now 62 and I know I'll never meet another like him. He died after a long illness, Lou Gehrig's Disease (ALS). I've received a lot of support from the ALS Association and one of the things I'd like to share with you is a link to the website of a wonderful grief counselor who has written several articles on grieving. His name is Worth Kilcrease. The link is:
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you click on the tab "Loss" you will see several links to mourning and grieving, etc. Reading his articles has helped me through some rough times. I know the hurt will never go away, but will get less 'raw' over time. God bless you and please if you want to 'talk' just email me.Michelle
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Michelle

We're keeping you in our thoughts and prayers, Launie. You are loved. Please accept my sincere condolences.

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Carolyn McCarty

On Tue, 9 Dec 2008 09:25:39 -0600, simpleseven wrote (in article ):

Hang in there. I admire your courage.

Maureen

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Maureen Wozniak

Rainbows and {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}} coming your way.

Heather in West Oz

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Heather in WestOz

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