I could really use the wisdom of some of you ladies who've been married an awful lot longer than me.
After I had the hip surgery, DH moved a mattress into our room for him to sleep on, he finally came back into our bed last night. I didn't feel like I slept any worse, or woke up any earlier, but it was obvious in the morning that I hadn't had a refreshing nights sleep. Reflecting more on this, I realise that though I've been tired since the surgery, it's only been hitting me when you'd expect, after I've been active, compared to before the surgery, I was just tired!
We've been married 5 years, we have a queen size bed that we bought then. The mattress is pocked sprung and it's fairly firm, with a soft top layer, so it gives but doesn't flop! One thing I've heard that can be a problem is when one of you is a lot bigger than the other, I don't have an accurate weight for either of us, but he must be about 30% heavier than me.
If we thought it would help, we'd definitely get a new bed, but we've no idea what to choose, what kind of mattresses might give us the same soft but supportive feel, but also minimise his movements affecting me - this is my best guess at what's happening, that his movements mean I don't get into the deep restful phases of sleep, or don't stay in them as long.
We would have room for a bigger bed in our room, if we thought that would help. I don't know if what I know as an Austrian twin is available in the US, they are two single mattresses on a double bed frame.
I would welcome any ideas.
cheers Anne