OT: January Baby

Hi Theresa,

When family starts out sounding negative wait until the baby is there and it's all forgotten when they love up the new little Grandchild. Don't worry about them. Just take good care of yourself and your other little one. They will come around.

My girlfriend had a shower for my 2nd child. I really didn't care either way. I was pregnant. :) She said when she started inviting people there was some murmurs that it's not proper to have "2nd baby" showers and she told them that all babies need their own stuff! She's very out spoken and put people in their place and they all came and had a great time. With my first child I was gifted with the basics and glad to have it all. With the second child I got some luxury items like a wipe warmer, basinette, and infant car seat. As for registering for stuff for your older child I wouldn't mind if my friend or family member did it. Any thing to help with the babies would be fine with me.

Regards, Lynne in California

Congrats Theresa! Your family will come around eventually - I'm sure they're just more worried about you than anything. I would try to keep them involved, say with planning and pics and such, and if they stay so impartial, then start leaving them out of the pregnancy. They'll get the hint and you'll know you did your best. :)

As far as registering, Target and/or the R Us's are the best I know of. I would register for things you maybe wanted for the first baby and didn't get, and then new child specific things (ie, clothes, pacifiers, bedding) - stuff that you can start fresh with. Do you know if it's a boy or a girl yet? I agree with the idea that all babies should be celebrated - whether it's your first, second or tenth. Personally, I tend to think register for stuff for the new baby, not current son (what if it's a girl - all those older kid clothes could be a whole new baby wardrobe!). JMO.

Good luck! I'm glad you're starting to feel more excited and motivated. Good luck with the scrapping too. I'm still trying to get caught up with pre-baby pages and I'm beginning to panic - 9 days til my due date and no inspiration in sight!!

Congratulations!! Don't fret over the family, your concern is a healthy you and BABY!! Families have strange reactions sometimes. It is customary to register only for the coming baby but things aren't always done the customary way, are they? The custom is so that the 'new' baby doesn't get all hand me downs and has things of his/her own! Take care and we will be happy for you!

Congrats on the new baby Theresa. Unfortunately we don't get to pick our families LOL But they'll warm up as it goes.

As to the naysayers on second showers... POOOOOOOOO POOOOOOOO! Every child deserves new goodies. I've had three showers (ok... actually more than that but three kids LOL) for my boys.

You'll find that wihtout registering for your older son, that people will likely get a "little something" for the big brother. They don't want to leave him out of the big plans. (altho at 14 months, one can't say just how much he'll understand it all... my 19 mo old looks at other babies and smiles and tries to mug them LOL)

REgister for what you need for the new baby... be it a crib, car seat, et al. We had a friend in a loop who had had a March baby (the loop purpose LOL), then had twins. We basically did a diaper shower for her. Didn't get all newborn diapers, spread out the load so she didn't have to worry at times on having diapers.

Congrats again! Susan in HRVA AF Wife to David Mom to CG, my angel Gareth, and Matthew

Theresa, Congratulations!!!! How wonderful! There are only 14 months between my oldest brother and me and we have always been very close. No one was happy for my poor Mom..it was the end of the depression..my Dad had just started working for the WPA ( president Roosevelt's recovery plan to give jobs to men) and she was sick as a dog...but it as been a blessing for us all. Too bad your family 's concern for all of your welfare is fogging up their perspective . It is hard for some people to rememer that we are not here to judge...but to love and care for each other. So happy for you all !!! Hope this time you will not be too sick!!! Hugs,

Sabrina :-)

"Mommy Razz" wrote

Congratulations! With your 2 so close in age, they will be each other's best friend! The rest of the family will warm up once the new baby is here!

-- ..am

"How you ever gonna know if you never dare to try" --Garth Brooks

congratulations theresa!!!!!!!!! and family I have two of my five 16 months apart and to me that was the best gap --- oldest two are 5 years apart and I would never do that again had i my time over. Family will get over it -t hey just dont think ----- I had bad reactions of course since I had five kids - but everyone got over the next announcement lol ------ Afterall its you and hubbys life not theirs --- chin up youll be fine and hope this pregnancyt goes easy for you Shaz

Congratulations!! I am excited for you! :) Also a congrats to your DH on his new job. Looks to me all of these are good signs. Don't worry about your family...they always seem to come around. Hugs and good wishes for a fantastic pregnancy. Kelly in FL

First of all, Congratulations. Having your babies close together will be ok in the long run. they'll have lots of stuff to share. As far as the baby listings. I'd list the things you really are going to be needing for your new baby. My niece registered at Toys R Us and I loved it. They printed out a whole copy of everything she wanted. I just took the list and ran around the store and marked off things as I went. I love it that she picked out the designs and colors of stuff she wanted instead of me trying to decide what to get or what colors to buy. It made it really easy. They mark off the things I bought so everyone wouldn't get the same things and she got almost everything she picked out. Besides that. It will be fun for you to pick out all the things you really like and have someone else pay for them and surprise you with their picks. Just my 2 cents worth. :) Connie K

My guess is, they're concerned, not upset. Even though your all grown up your still their little girl.Something you'll understand when your's grow up:>)

Congrats:>)

Thank you everyone for your *up* words of encouragement. It really is a wonderful feeling to talk to friends/sisters who have either been there or can understand.

I am feeling (emotionally) better about this and it always helps to know you aren't alone.

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

:-) Theresa in IL