My IMP ... LOL

Hi, Dee Dee! Your drawings always make me smile! Prayers are going out for you regarding your utility situation. It will all work out, ok?

Donna in Philly

Hi there:

I've been reading your posts and firstly, I hope you are feeling better soon after your surgery. And, as for MEN, I have a comment. I have a friend I"ve known for years. Due to some circumstances in his life he has moved back to the city I am in and is living with family....now for an entire year. Atleast 3 to 4 nights a week for the last year I have coffee and tea'd with him, taken him on errands, helped him with his mother who is 75, given him advice, helped him in his job search blah blah blah. We are walking partners as well, which is nice for me too, makes the exercise part of it more interesting (someone to talk to). On top of this I have a husband (who is okay with the friend situation), 3 kids, and a house. Sometimes I feel this friend is not very appreciative of what I do and I get very hurt and frustrated as it seems you do with your husband. But, in the back of my mind , I keep saying..... There is nothing wrong in helping or doing something for someone and despite how appreciative one might be, good deeds are never looked down upon (in my eyes, part of my ticket to heaven). Anyway, just my 2 cents worth.

take care donna from ontario, canada

Cute imp... (here I go sticking my neck *and nose* where it likely shouldn't go)... your husband's attitude is NOT so cute! Dee, I hate to say it, but your husband sounds very much like my EX-husband.... very insensitive... everything had to be all about him or it just wasn't important to him at all... which is why he is my EX, and I have been much happier for ending it. Sorry to lay it out like that, but you are barely getting over having a hysterectomy... your husband should be tending to YOU, not the other way around. He should have cooked for you and made his own d*mned coffee, not have you do it while he had his butt at the computer. >:o/

Take it easy hon, and take care of YOURSELF. I will pray for you that your doctor makes that call in time for you (call Monday morning and remind her). I know what you're going through with the financial problems, although I can't for the life of me figure out why or how your husband can sit back and do nothing and just let it happen to you... he can come there and eat your food, but can't help you with a bill to keep things from being shut off?!?!?

*hugs* Gemini

The Imp is precious and so are you Dee Dee!! Men can be jerks but you need to take care of yourself FIRST. YOu are the important one right now. I hope things work out for you and you will be back on your feet soon!

Hugs, Debby (FL)

Thanks Donna :-)

Dee

Hi Donna,

Yes, I know God sees what I do and how much I love my husband .. that gives me great comfort.

I think what hurts most is that he truly thinks I'm wrong and mean ... and I don't appreciate him, all though I tell him that all the time.

I heard of a great book today ... "It's MOSTLY His Fault" ... written by a marriage counselor, says that men have a great responsibility in the marriage, and if they would only be more loving and king toward us ... we would do anything for them. That's SOOO true!

I can't WAIT for Heaven .... my true home. :-)

Hugs, Dee

Hiya Gemini,

I want to thank you for caring so much. :-)

Yes, he is insensitive ... just doesn't seem to be able to 'feel' for me ... no empathy. He comes across very much like a Narcicist, if you're familiar with that. He's also VERY passive/agressive!

In his defense .... he does help in grocery shopping, he's vaccumed twice for me, cleans the litter box out and uses his own money for many things I buy, so I can keep as much of my SSI as possible. As to the electric bill ... I was on the Affordability program and while in hospital, they took me off because I hadn't applied for HEAP (heating assistance). I wasn't aware that you had to, to stay on the program. They told me if my doctor would sign an emergency surgery statement, they could give me a 30 day hold so I could get the HEAP and be put back on the program. They faxed it to my doctor on Friday .. and the PA said she was doing it that day, but never did. Grrrrr!! Soooo ... Monday morning as soon as they open ... I need to call and make SURE they do it ... or I get shut off on Tuesday.

There's really nothing Jim can do ... I owe over $1,000!!! That's because as long as you're on the program, the actual costs keep adding up and if you get off you owe all that back. Jim does pay my car insurance, and for the last 2 months, he's paid the phone bill (cell phone, family plan), so I have a bit extra for food and bills.

I could tell you what he said that hurt me in a private e-mail if you'd like .. it's kinda personal and I'd rather not post it here. Feel free to e-mail me if you'd like. :-)

I did the spaghetti cause I wanted to ... I was so tired of frozen food, sandwiches and soup ... so "I" was the one who suggested I make it and invited him over. Not to excuse his insensitivity, but there were circumstances that I had not explained.

Thanks so much for caring! Hugs, Dee

Hey Deb!

Yes, men CAN be jerks!!!

I am taking care of myself ... I started taking multi-vitamins, extra C, extra B-complex and Magnesium every day .. I try to eat as best I can ... and I take good care of my incision .. finally went outside for a bit today .. was nice to get some breaths of fresh air. :-)

Glad you liked my IMP .... I wish he were a real little guy and could sit and visit with me.

Hugs, Dee

Dee Dee your imp is just so cute, and I am sure he helps take your mind off problems - do take care of yourself - that is very important at this stage -everything else can wait I will keep you in my prayers God Bless Gwen

Hi Dee,

Sorry that my message came off so blunt... but that's me when I see that sort of insensitivity going on. Been there with my EX, and don't particularly want the t-shirt to prove it! So it really bothers me to no end when it seems to me that someone else is going through the same sort of thing.

If you want to email me privately you are welcome to. My email address is: gemsawriter AT yahoo DOT ca