OT: Thank you, and a doggie question

Hi Kaytee, I'm sorry about your Dad. {{{{Hugs}}}}

We just lost our cat yesterday to cancer and one of our dogs is yelping in pain now - she is so emotionally tied in to our family that I'm sure she's picking up on our emotions as well as the loss of the cat - she loved that cat and I think the cat was actually the alpha of the pack even though he was a cat. So I don't know what is going to happen to my "pack" now that it's just 2 dogs and a 3 year old human-dog mix (my son who thinks he's a dog).

So anyway, I'm having distance NMT done for the dog to help her through this. I've done this for other issues she's had - allergies and obsessive paw licking, and emotional stuff when the cat first got sick... etc.

Here is the link in case you might be interested:

than that all I can suggest is time, and love and maybe tempting thedog with some yummy home-made food. Hope this helps,

Pam

Sending you hugs and my deepest sympathy on your loss.

Poor dog he must be missing his master very much. try to tempt him to eat with some thing different, even if you put things off your plate into his bowl. At his age if he is a large dog the stress may be too much.

Sorry to hear of these sad things. Love and hugs Shirley

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Hi Kaytee, Firstly, please accept my condolences on the loss of your father. I am very sorry to hear of it.

This may sound silly but it might help; whenever I go away for a few days and leave my Beagle with my folks this works. I give them an old tee that I have worn a bit to put in his bed. It seems to help with the anxiety. Why not give it a try?

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Kaytee,

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope the poor ol' dog just needs a little time to get used to his new surroundings. Sounds like he's getting plenty of love and attention!

Kaytee,

I'm so sorry for your loss. As for your sibling dog, he may not get over the loss of his master. Some dogs just pine for their owners. When my great-great-aunt passed away her dog went to live with my grandparents. He was so distraught and cried all the time. Like your sibling dog, Buster searched the property, the house, the 2000 acres we all shared, my great-grandparents home, etc. He died about two months later. I think it was from grief.

I do hope all goes well. Please keep us informed.

Starlia

Pam - that reminded me of my daughter when she was small. From age two to six she was a dog as well. It was hilarious, but she wanted to be a dog. Thanks for reminding me of my sweetie.

and a 3 year old human-dog mix (my son who thinks he's a

Aw, Kaytee. I'm sorry about your Dad. My heartfelt sympathy.

For the old dog, best thing I can think of is to give him something of his dear buddy's with lots of dad smell on it.

You may wish to e-mail Sooz regarding this.

And be sure to take care of your own needs.

Tina

Kaytee, I'm *so* sorry to hear about your father. I hope you find something to do with the guinea fowl.

When Smudge died last month, I think only Spirit missed him, and not for long. I'm not sure what that says about the kitties. But when my mother died, her cat died a month later, clearly of loneliness.

Sorry to hear about the loss of your Dad. {{{Hugs}}

I like the suggestion of giving the pets something that has your Dad's "smell" on it - a shirt, blanket etc.

Bob and Bud (doggies) and Miss Kitty had their vet appointment today-- all seem to be fine for their ages. The vet couldn't really give Miss Kitty a thorough check up-- she fought, scratched and bit everybody involved in subjecting her to the indignity of it all. The vet said she MUST be healthy if she could put up that much of a fight.

Bob and Bud were much better patients. Both have arthritis, but get around OK; Bob is getting a cataract. Bob weighs 62#-- a bit chubby, but not horrendously so. Bud weighs 98#-- again, a bit chubby, but not obese. Miss Kitty declined to be weighed. They all could use teeth cleanings, but it would require sedation, and the vet said that would be risky, so unless they need sedating for something else, we won't be getting it done. Bud seems to be getting used to being here-- he's getting plenty of attention and companionship, and he still has the blanket that was on my father's chair. Bob has been snappish with Bud-- but I think that is a long term thing. Bob seems to have made himself at home, as has Miss Kitty.

Kaytee "Simplexities" on

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]Bud seems to be getting used to ]being here-- he's getting plenty of attention and companionship, and he still ]has the blanket that was on my father's chair. Bob has been snappish with Bud-- ]but I think that is a long term thing. Bob seems to have made himself at home, ]as has Miss Kitty.

good for them! thanks for the update!

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's not what you take, when you leave this world behind you;it's what you leave behind you when you go. -- Randy Travis

And are you doing OK too?

Tina

Oh, Kaytee - I am so sorry to hear about your dad. It must be difficult to care for his fur babies when you all obviously miss him so much. If someone here hasn't already suggested it, I think pet stores have something called Rescue Remedy, which is a natural sedative for animals. Thay may calm him when it's time to sleep. (((((((((((hugs))))))))))) My heart goes out to all of you!

Oh, (((((((Pam)))))))) I am so sorry to hear that!

As OK as possible in cases like this, I suppose. It's going to be a BIG, LOOOONG legal type mess-- no will, that we could find, no titles for the cars, etc. The coroner and his doctor are "fighting" over "cause of death" so no death certificate yet....

Plus the physical mess of lots of "collections" which were non-sorted in the way of pack rats with life-long ADD.... BIG collections.... Vehicles, tractors, tools, welding equipment, electronic do-dads, clocks, hardware of various sorts. The only collection that was in order/ well cared for was his guns-- and a friend of his is taking charge of that (and the ammo); however, several guns apparantly are missing (and "kids" were seen nosing about the property the evening before the sherriff went to check on him).... The house was a mess, too-- not only was he an indifferent housekeeper, but he died at home, and wasn't found for several days. Another friend of his has taken charge of getting THAT cleaned up-- his wife is "Pennsylanian Dutch" and his son is a remodeler, so between the two of them, with the friend to "supervise", the house is probably in better shape than it's ever been. (Actually, the friend is helping a lot, too-- mainly with the "outside" stuff, like seeing which of the cars actually work or are repairable).

I think going through and trying to put the papers we do have in some sort of order is keeping the grief kind of on a back burner. Having my furry siblings to care for also acts as a buffer-- their needs are immediate, so I "don't have time" to sit and mope. I think my involvement in Buddism has helped, too-- the constant reminders that life is all about change, that death is just one part of life and is the only certainty in life that everyone has. It still hurts, though, and I'm still shocky over it. Kaytee "Simplexities" on

My sincere condolences, Kaytee on the loss of your father. :`( Be sure to take care of yourself.

Yikes. Although my parent's were pack rats - not to that degree. Hope everything smoothes out for you. Take care of yourself.