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Mostly OT: The Height of Pettiness?

I want to run something by the folks here. I'm trying to figure out if what this woman did is just the height of pettiness, or if I'm seeing something more than what actually is there.

I told you all about the insane accusations made about me by a former AOL chat host, Jill. She claimed I'd said some things about her that were truly vile and totally outside of my personality to say.

She kept claiming she had been contacted by someone on the internet, or a long time online buddy, or several people, the story kept changing. The one thing that would not change was that she refused to believe anything but the nasty lie. Any attempt on my part to try to reason with her was deemed me "playing games" and "trying to be clever."

Ok whatever, nothing I can do if she chooses to be like that right? I made it clear that I would still be coming to chats on AOL because I do have friends there and I wouldn't allow her to drive me away. I told her I had her emails blocked, so that she couldn't harass me via email any longer.

I'd said two weeks ago in the chatroom, that with my work schedule the only chat I could now make it to was the Friday afternoon one.

Here's the part I'm needing feedback on.

Last Friday morning, she sends out an email to select people who come to chat. It announces that she won't be using the old chatroom, and gives out a link in this email to the new private chat room. For those without AOL, private chatrooms are just that, nobody can see them or those in them, nor can they enter without the link.

Obvious, I didn't get the email, and it didn't end up in my spam folder either, unlike some other emails she sent. Clearly she'd taken the time to remove my name from her usual mailing list.

Now, am I being paranoid, or is Jill actually being as vindictive and petty as I think she is? I don't want to believe she'd go that far to try to cut me off from my other friends in chat. And yet, I can't help but think she's attempting to do just that.

I'm sure some here will jump to tell me I am crazy or "need therapy" but I'd like some feedback from people who take a moment to think about it.

Thanks!

Caryn

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crzy4xst
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Just ignore it, Caryn, she is being petty, but after all she`s not a "friend" you`re ever likely to live next door to, is she? Just forget her and don`t let her be of any more importance than that. If your other chatroom friends are worth having as friends, they`ll contact you as usual, I`m sure.

Pat P

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Pat P

It is pretty pathetic that she's taking it this far, especially since she claims she is the mature one! rofl

Mostly I just wanted someone outside to tell me if I read the situation wrong, being as close to it as I am, I might have been seeing things that weren't there.

Caryn

Reply to
crzy4xst

Caryn,

I suspect she's just being petty, but I want to run something by you. Perhaps you didn't get the invitation to the new group because you have her email blocked?

Addie

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Addie Otto

Hey Lady:

Is she being petty--you bettcha. For some reason it seems Jill has lost all since of good manners and common since.

She belongs to another e-mail list that I do and when I gave her a shout to say Hi--she couldn't even bother to answer. Kinda strange since we use to co host some chats over on AOL.

Maybe it's the meds she's on from her back surgery and other health problems. Who knows--LOL and frankly this is the most thought I've given it.

Just let it go, private chats were always away for some people to take their toys and go home to pout when things didn't go their way.

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Dorsey

Dorsey , i don`t think it is very nice to talk about other people`s medications on a public domain mirjam

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Mirjam Bruck-Cohen

I know you guys only saw my version of events, but I'm glad others see things as being totally out of whack!

A friend had a reasonable suggestion that I'm acting on, arrange another chat hour on Fridays, so as not to force people to have to choose between the two of us.

High road sucks some days! lol

Caryn

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crzy4xst

original post snipped.......

Mirjam, When I read the post from Dorsey, I didn't see where Jill's last name was given, nor did I see a list of meds that she's on. Since those two (very important) identifiers were left off, and meds were only mentioned jokingly, I don't see where Jill or her reputation were infringed upon. That being said, I think it's very considerate of you to look out for the interest of others. Lee Ann Johnson

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Rick & LeeAnn

Those who know the woman in question do know she's had a bunch of surgerys and other issues, and that anybody who has had such injuries/surgeries has been given pain medication. And it's well known that pain meds can mess with people's judgement.

Caryn

Reply to
crzy4xst

Lee -Ann We here might not know who this lady is , But there might be people here on line who know who she is, and it might be a breach of her privacy ... Thank you for understanding, that i am concerned about privacy of All people. mirjam

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Mirjam Bruck-Cohen

Caryn everything you write here makes sense , and still i think it was not proper to write it here.

mirjam

Reply to
Mirjam Bruck-Cohen

The question originally was about her behavior, and if her behavior is being affected by her health/meds, then I think it was a relevant point to bring up.

Caryn

Reply to
crzy4xst

Well ,,, if you put it this way ,,,, ???? maybe a hint about failing health would have been better .. the mentioning of pills ??? mirjam

Reply to
Mirjam Bruck-Cohen

OMG--if this isn't the height of two fadedness. Since when were you ever nice to anyone that thought differently than you. And IF you were as caring as your trying to appear, you would know it's a well documented fact that some meds can change peoples personalities.

This was NOT a discussion of what meds she was taking--but merely an expiation of a reason for her personality changing so drastically and out of her normal self.

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Dorsey

You know I was going to write an equally holier than thou reply--but I truly don't want to get in a *issing contest with you. Please save your judgments for someone else.

As I don't have a stigmata, and I'm of German decent.............I truly feel that it would be a total waste of my time and effort to play your petty bantering games.............

But congratulations you've just earned the kill file once again. And in record time too---please take a well deserved bow.

Dorsey in VA

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Dorsey

There is Nothing Holy about respecting other people`s privacy ,,, on this group people started to flame Karen because she writes in detail about her medical situation , but at the same time do not hesitate discussing the health of a person who isn`t even here .... mirjam ..

Reply to
Mirjam Bruck-Cohen

Seriously!! I was being pretty discreet, compared to what I know and could have said about the woman! ROFL

Caryn

Reply to
crzy4xst

Just ingore her. she sounds like she needs help

Reply to
faerydragon

Who's she and why should I ignore her ??

Lucille

Reply to
Lucille

Doing my best! lol

Set up a separate time from her private chat for my friends to find me on my day off.

I'm definitely not going to ask any mutual friends to choose, it's not fair to them afterall.

Caryn

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crzy4xst

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