I was the oldest with my brother 2 years behind, so no "mother's little helper" but I was --and am--- also a damned good mother.
Bringing back a hilarious memory of my son's first meeting with his godmother. They certainly can make quite a fountain!! And you are so right. My mother was oldest of 4 on a farm, did know all of the practical things, but disliked children once they learned to walk and talk, and especially disliked girls, and made that pretty clear. It is more than mechanics.
I didn't say it prevented good mothering. The explanation was why they "have no idea what they're getting into".
If you've taken care of younger siblings you don't have the romantic idea that a baby is like your Betsy-Wetsy doll, that you only bother with when you feel like playing with it.
I was #1 of 1, too. But several of my friends had siblings 10 years younger, or 10 years older who already had babies, so we learned first-hand that babies are demanding. But if when you're 10 all your friends' siblings are between 8 and 12, you don't get that experience.
Has to be a certified interpreter - so no basis for appeal. Even working in the hopsital - when I'm in the ER, while they're waiting for the official interpreter, I'll usually just go speak with the patient, depending on the doc. Some are "great - just do it" - others "we have to wait for the official interpreter" .
NOW you tell me. I hate the stuff, mom hates the stuff, dad barely tolerates it. A few years ago, someone sent me a box of it for Christmas and we were hard-pressed to find anyone to foist it off onto.
This year Maureen is going to make Christmas puddings as usual but she isn't going to bake a Christmas cake. For the last 5 or 6 years we've been so full of food over Christmas and Hogmanay that we haven't had room for cake, it's usually around Easter time that we remember the cake and dig it out of the larder.
OTOH I like them from about five to thirteen when their minds start working, don't care for teens so catch up with them again when they turn 20, grandchildren that is. Although the baby grandson is now 16 but somehow remained a nice kid and we hang together quite a bit.
Disliked girls - a friend was here Friday evening of Chinese descent, fourth generation Halifax, ancestors came to build the railroad - she's in her 50s and was having a good gripe about her mother and how nothing she could ever do would compensate her mother for having given birth to a girl! So there are others - I did ask her if she felt that constantly having to prove to her mother how great she was at business etc. had put her at the top of the tree workwise lol
In that case, there were a lot of audio tapes in evidence, where the jury is always told "if you think you hear something different than the transcript says, what you actually hear is the evidence". Yet, it was agreed that for the deaf juror, the transcript was the evidence, the interpreter didn't have to sign what she thought she heard.
In other cases, the attorneys have actually had arguments over the accuracy of the transcripts "the transcript says X, but I heard Y, what do you think, Judge?" and Judge will admit to hearing neither X nor Y, he thought the guy said Z.
So I'm not sure that was the best case for him to serve on. Better he should serve on a jury where the evidence is photos he can see, rather than tapes he can't hear.
If the attorneys didn't want a deaf person on the jury, they could have excused him (and I've seen this judge excuse other hearing-impaired people simply on their own assertion "I can't hear you clearly, sir"), but they were getting down to the bottom of the jury pool and apparently who was left looked unappetizing (basic information about the jurors is provided on questionnaires, so the attorneys come into jury selection with notes that they really want Smith, Jones and Rodriguez and really don't want White, Brown and Greene). Just like with applying for a job, a disabled person may meet the qualifications, but the employer often finds some reason to hire an able-bodied person instead.
Example: I don't drive -- I probably couldn't pass the test because I'm lousy at it. I had a marvelous interview, and was pretty sure I had the job sewn up, especially having been told when the interview was set up that I was the top candidate. At the end, she's telling me about the benefits, which include paid parking. I inquired if I could convert that to a bus pass instead. No, because once or twice a month you need to run things to the courthouse. Well, actually, you're in the central city area, where I can get the boys from Capitol Courier to run things to the courthouse for $5, which actually makes more sense than taking me away from my desk for however long it takes to stand in the line; pay the courier $5 so you can get $20 more of work out of me. Even offering that on the rare occasions it was necessary, *I* would pay the $5 out of my own pocket, so that it wouldn't cost the firm anything extra, suddenly I was completely out of the running for the job. (She wasn't going to say it, because then I could sue for discrimination, but the automatically-assumed reason that a Californian doesn't drive is that they have severe, uncontrollable epilepsy.)
ADA would have entitled me to that job because driving is not a major part of it, from her description less than 1% of the time. But even though it was never mentioned in the ad or the job description, it suddenly became imperative for the person hired to speak Chinese. They didn't actually have any clients who only spoke Chinese, weren't actively marketing to get any, but they had to find something other than my disability to make me no longer the best candidate for the job, and that was the only skill she had that I didn't. (Management forgets, a great deal of legal secretaries' time is spent on the phone with other legal secretaries. When I found myself talking to that office a couple weeks later, to someone who said "I'm new here", I asked. It was the job I'd applied for, and she had actually left the interview sure that she did not get the job, because she overheard something about another applicant who spoke 4 languages [that would be me], and that they could see more use for my Spanish than her Chinese.)
So don't delude yourself that just because ADA says it's their "right" to serve as a juror that the lawyers would keep a deaf person over an equally-acceptable hearing person. Jurors who don't speak good English are automatically excused (I've seen one booted who understood the lawyers just fine, but his accent was so heavy that the lawyers couldn't understand him), not given interpreters.
lucky here again to have a good cheese shop nearby which sells most rural favourites - love Cornish Yarg , Bath Blue and Oxford Blue amongst others . Went there yesterday to stock up and bought a decent sized wedge of game pie as well. We're lucky to have a very good family run butcher nearby as well that makes their own sausages, black pudding , white pudding and haggis.
First, there's a difference between people who are hearing-impaired and people who don't speak the language, in terms of the protection offered them by the law. Second, just because I noted that the law exists, doesn't mean I "delude" myself into thinking it is always observed or enforced (speaking of putting words in people's mouths). It is possible though, that having exhausted peremptory challenges, a lawyer would agree to an ASL interpretor rather than fabricate a reason to excuse, even if there were still people in the pool. The last time I was called, the 13 jurors were selected long before they even got to me, so I don't know if I would have been excused or not, although I have been excused in the past.
I never find great clothes at thrift shops, I have found lots of great things at local consignment shop. The best is still a navy A-line skirt from Talbotts that hits just at the knee - a whole one dollar as the instructions were to sell the stuff and keep the $$ - owner was ditching the classic look and the shop was a "fashion" store. I found few other things, but that skirt will be in my closet until I am buried in it.
Well, we donated Ddad's stuff when he passed - and he was just under 6'5" - but I think perhaps slimmer than you require. I could look - I still have some sweaters that DM made for him years ago. Hmmmm, I wonder what they do with the outgrown from my almost 6'7" 21 year old nephew?
I haven't seen any for a while here. We used to get them with shiny fake coins stuck in their back sort of piggy bank style---suppose that is not possible now in case someone eats the coin.
The sad thing is that there are still girls, even those with lots of little brothers and sisters, who think having a baby is a good thing because the baby will love just them. Or the baby will make the boyfriend love them. That tends to make them glaze over the reality even if they have experienced it.
My best purchase at a consignment shop was an Aquascutum tweed suit about 15 years ago. It set me back $100, but considering that it was brand new, never worn and had cost $500 off the rack.....
I still have it. And I can finally get back into the skirt again :) The skirt is a simple a-line with a pleat front and back, and the jacket is slightly fitted.
I've also found a wine coloured silk jacket for $5, wool trousers and other goodies.
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