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OT: A friend could use some support.

I know how strong the power of prayer/positive vibes can be around this place and would like to ask a favor. A good friend lost her 22 year old son to suicide a few months back and has been having a hard time of it. She is angry, every day and feels powerless to do anything about it. She's in counseling and that has helped, but tonight she has been invited to attend a meeting of the Compassionate Friends, a group that meets once a month made up of grieving parents. She says they pray, talk, do whatever it takes to get themselves and each other through the pain. If you happen to think about it, about 8 PM Eastern time, just think of Connie and offer her some support. She could use it. Thanks everyone,

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Debi Matlack
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I do believe we should offer Connie the power and support of a Hug quilt. Debi, what do you think?

Karen, Queen of Squishies

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Karen, Queen of Squishies

I think she would like that very much. Thank you for thinking of it. Debi

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debikm

Debi, can you host it? Should we send the blocks to you? What would she like?

Karen, Queen of Squishies

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Karen, Queen of Squishies

Debi- sending best hugs to your friend Connie. I would love to send a block or two to you for the hug quilt. Just let me know where to send them and what colors, etc you'd like to do. amy

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amy

Sending positive healing thoughts and Hugs to your friend. It is hard enough to lose a child, but added to that are feelings she "coulda/shoulda" done something to avoid it makes her despair twice as painful. It may take her quite a while to get up out of that hole she's found herself in. I'd love to donate a block to a hug quilt for her.

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ME-Judy

Me too, and Debi - I didn't mean to put you on the spot. Perhaps if you can't sew it.... someone else here would be glad to. Anyone?

Karen, Queen of Squishies

I'd love

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Karen, Queen of Squishies

Debi,

You and your friend have my prayers and best wishes.

Compassionate Friends is a group of grieving parents. They are not professionals, but are folks who know something of what your friend is going through. That said, I personally only went to one meeting. I just didn't find any comfort there. Perhaps it was because my husband and I went too soon after our loss, perhaps it was because I couldn't bear to think of myself in future months, looking as lost and broken as the folks at the particular meeting I went to.

What *did* help me, and continues to help, was the support of one good, loving, and kind friend. We were neighbors, and not particularly close at the time of my loss, but we became bonded through her love and generosity. Just last week we met for lunch, and I told her that if she ever felt 'down' or wondered just what her purpose was in life, that she should know that at least one person was profoundly changed and affected by her. She quite literally saved my life.

I needed to be given permission to grieve. I needed a place and a time when I could speak about just how angry I was. I needed to be allowed to be angry with my child. I needed someone to listen when I wanted to talk and to just allow me to 'be' when I didn't want to speak. If you can provide that for your friend, then you will be counted among those very special people who exhibit God's love here on earth.

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L

I so agree with you, Judy. That must be even harder to bear than his death. Poor lady. I know of someone in the same situation; it has taken a terrible toll on her. . In message , ME-Judy writes

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Patti

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Pat in Virginia

I will concentrate hard at 6:00 AZ time. Prayers and healing thoughts to your friend.

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Carolyn McCarty

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