Sewing room-also The World's Greatest Mother-in-Law

Today The World's Greatest Mother-in-Law came to my house for the third or fourth time to help me clear up my "sewing room". She has always been TWGMIL but this is way above & beyond the call of duty. Backstory:

Layer 1 This room was DS#1's bedroom and when he joined the army he didn't take much. Now he is subletting a room from a friend and still doesn't have much space. Some of his stuff got dumped in boxes & lugged to the basement- (Don't look at me like that- if he wanted it packed nicely he should have done it himself.)

-and some was just shoved into the tiny closet or piled in the corner. Layer 2 I bought some sturdy wire shelves on wheels and started putting bins of fabric on the shelves & gradually added piles of fabric, partly finished projects, bags of notions & doo-dads hung over the corner posts of the shelves, some dresses that are too long for my closet, bags of wool & wool-like garments I got cheap at an auction & partially felted, patterns, and craft books. I love fabric and I always have good intentions when I buy it. Layer 3 Last fall my brother and DS#2 built me new shelves/entertainment center for my living room. the stuff from the old shelves got put.....in my "sewing room" of course. Most, but not all, was put back onto the new shelves. Layer 4 This spring DH and I got new carpet in the living room and hall, and eliminated some furniture. Some of the stuff that had to be moved was piled....in my "sewing room". I couldn't get in the door.

So... TWGMIL has been helping me an hour or two at a time to reclaim my space. She says she doesn't mind. Who am I to call the dear woman a liar? Unlike me, she is organized. Unlike me, she is persistent. Unlike me, she does not procrastinate. I now have a clear path from the doorway all the way across the 10'x12' room to the window, and it is 90% to her credit, not mine. Today I found a box of music CDs and took them back to the living room. I found a big box of DH's stuff and got him to take it to "his room/office" that was DS#2's bedroom until last year. I found a huge plastic bag full of other plastic bags o-u-t! Other things have been folded neatly & placed on the shelves. I still can't get to the closet, maybe next week, when TWGMIL comes back, but it is almost possible for me to get in unsupervised and locate more junk to discard or to relocate to it's rightful owner. Not done yet. When I am I will do a Happy Dance for that, you betcha.

Jane in NE Ohio who has been reading about your great sewing rooms & successful stash reduction, and so I have to share.

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Jane Kay
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Jane, congratulations and hugs and Happy Dancing for you! Not because you have World's Greatest MIL but because you know it. My own MIL spent 25 years (more or less) hoping I'd go away. I didn't and finally she loved me best. Twenty-five hurtful wasted years. I am just so happy that you are enjoying yours. How wonderful. And she's an inspiration. Tomorrow is trash pickup day. I think I'll go find some good stuff to contribute. Polly

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Polly Esther

She sounds like an absolute GEM...can I borrow her? LOL

-IRene

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IMS

I saw your note about plastic bags. I seem to have the oddest aversion to throwing away "perfectly good" pieces of cardboard.

I usually have a piece or 2 of poster board that I use for templates or patterns. So I'm not sure why, when faced with a heavy piece of cardboard I rat-hole it like it's worth something.

Cindy

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teleflora

Also, I wanted to say how lucky you are to enjoy your MIL.

I thought my MIL really loved me and I thought we got along great for over

30 years. I found out right before she died last year that she never liked me. She gave away her huge stash and all of her sewing stuff (she's the one who taught me to sew) rather than risk me having any of it. And those were her exact words.

Her mind was clear right up until the end, so it wasn't age or senility. I will never have any idea what I did to her, other than marry her son. She told me she was only nice to me so that I wouldn't keep her beloved son and granddaughter away from her. I can't imagine why she thought I would ever do that.

I had been in the family since I was 17 years old. I considered her my mom just like my own mom.

People are odd sometimes, aren't they?

Cindy

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teleflora

Hi Cindy,

You hit the nail on the head when you said - other than marry her son - my MIL never got over the fact that I married her favourite chosen son.

Di

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DiMa

Cindy, that's a bit beyond 'odd'--- like just darn mean. I'm sorry she felt she had to unload on you at such a time. I happen to think you are pretty terrific!!!!! But that's just my very humble opinion..... VBG

Leslie & The Furbabies in MO.

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Leslie & The Furbabies in MO.

I'm with you Polly, my MIl, (since departed) wished me away too. But I stuck to my DDDH and tomorrow we celebrate 28 years marriage with all the love we have -- and I'm gonna sign up for another 28 LoL. I even hand made fresh buttery bread croissants for a special breakfast. That's love for you!

Hugs Bronnie Really, we're just envious of Jane! Enjoy!

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Bronnie

A good mother in law has a price beyond rubies. Mine was one of the best, too. Damn, we miss her. Yours sounds like a treasure. Enjoy every moment you have with her.

Believe me, the process of sorting the sewing room is a cathartic experience. Do GET RID of things that no longer belong in the room: Son's kit to storage, unwanted but still useful things to Goodwill or Freecycle, things you want to keep put neatly away... More storage units may be necessary.

I recently needed to reorganize my thread, to make it accessible, dust free, and protected from light. This entailed a large amount of basic Tidying Up, Reorganization, and Moving Out of extranious kit. Once done, the room was habitable, easy to work in, a pleasure to retreat to, and easily converted to Spare Bedroom when needed for guests.

mmmmm... Sewing!

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Kate XXXXXX

I has a GREAT MIL who died 3 years after DH and I married. She was a school teacher who traveled out of state each summer to visit her other children. Her car and Singer SM was newer than mine and she loaned both to me while she was gone. She was a treasure! Barbara in SC

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Roberta

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Roberta

My Mom 'hated' DH for her entire life. Right after Mr j had had major life-threatening surgery, she told me he'd never be 'good enuf'. I asked her "Good enuf for what.?" She didn't answer. Funny, she never had a problem going out to eat with us. And one of DH's and DS's favorite times with her, after Dad died, was taking her out to dinner and one of the waitresses really flirted with DS. Go figure.

My Dad told him that he was 'mistaken' about him just before he passed on. He told him that; " He is/was good for me". We were one of 3 kids that never came back home after we got married and seeing as one never has married.... ; )

And he has been.

35 years worth next Monday.

Butterfly and Mr Joe looking forward to another 35 years and maybe another trip or two or three before then.

I'm with you Polly, my MIl, (since departed) wished me away too. But I stuck to my DDDH and tomorrow we celebrate 28 years marriage with all the love we have -- and I'm gonna sign up for another 28 LoL. I even hand made fresh buttery bread croissants for a special breakfast. That's love for you!

Hugs Bronnie Really, we're just envious of Jane! Enjoy!

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Butterflywings

(Some gentle snipage done below)

Oh, Kate, how much we miss ours. She always said what was what but gently and refinely...and she so thoroughly enjoyed her Grandkids.

I always thanked her for having DH (he was an after-the-war-planned-baby). and she was always there--even when she was fighting the 'return of cancer'...she wanted to know what was going on and not to be 'treated as being ill'.

Butterfly (hoping they have a Special Place for good In-Laws)

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Butterflywings

My MIL was fabulous, after she got over the trauma of my stealing away her baby boy anyway. (G) DH was the youngest of four and came after a couple of micarriages. His next youngest sib was 8 years older than him.

My mom on the other hand has not been so great. It wasn't until after my sister's second divorce that she even added DH to the birthday card list. Christmas cards and things were always addressed to me by my bare name. When they came to visit she always tried to get me and the girls to go about with her leaving DH out of it as much as possible. Then when my brother divorced his first wife after DH and I had been married for more than 20 years she seemed to decide that DH was all right. She has even sent us anniversary cards these last few years. Fortunately all my grammas love(d) DH to pieces, which made up for a lot so far as his family was concerned.

NightMist

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NightMist

I have a slight problem throwing out any thing that is empty!! Plastic bags, boxes, paper bags. I hoard it untill it is full of whatever has to go into the trash or be recycled!! AND, (it gets really weird) if it is smelly/yucky ,it goes in the freezer until it is full!!

Nana......Trying to throw out....WHATEVER!!

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Nana Wilson

I also had one of the world greatest MIL. I was my DH's second wife. I heard my MIL tell her sis that "She liked this one (meaning ME!) better than the first"!! She's gone now & I still miss her dearly!!

Nana

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Nana Wilson

I married an only Italian son with 2 much older sisters who both idolized him as well as his mom. I'm lucky I got him early enough to train or he would have become unbearable.

It was a long time before he no longer believed he was a little prince.

I knocked that right out of him.

Cindy

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teleflora

Yeah, why'd she even have to tell me for gosh sakes. I was oblivious.

And you are a bit biased, m'dear!

Thanks for that though!

Cindy

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teleflora

How wonderful, Jane! :D Want to send her to my house to reorganize my sewing room, too? ;) I happen to adore my MIL, so it's not as though I want to *keep* yours -- just borrow her for a little bit.

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Sandy

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