OT: Secret Santa

Oct 23, 2004 88 Replies

I don't who has said what Ronni, and it's probably not for me to know. There's absolutely nothing wrong with telling someone how what they said or did made you feel, though. It doesn't always mean that person is going to listen, but it sometimes helps. I do hope you'll be able to do that, too. (I have confidence that you would do a marvelous job with hosting this round of Secret Santa, but to be fair it's going to have to be the first volunteer.)

Just from what I've read on this ng, I see a fun-loving, creative, talented, intelligent, motivated, determined woman. Look what you did with your photography class! Came back after missing, if I remember right, the first

2 weeks of class, and now you're top of the class. Plus having your photos in the open house! That is truly amazing!!

You can come to Little Rock whenever you want, and I'll be here to see ya and give you great big squishie hugs!

I agree with that Jacqui, which is one of the reasons that the swap pages on the website, now include the number of people who flaked. The names are not included, but whomever is hosting a new swap can ask the previous hostess who flaked. Someone who bows out gracefully and with good reason is not a flaker. However, someone who simply does not send the stuff in, or does not try to make it up if it is for some reason their swap items are lost in transit, IMHO do qualify as flakers and should not be included in a swap for the next few months.

Of course the ultimate decision is always the host(esses), but if he/she is willing to give a known flaker a chance, he/she also needs to know they may have to make some extra in case that person flakes again.

oooooooo squishie hugs! I love squishie hugs! LOLOL... actually I missed the first week... not as much... 2 would have killed me!!! eeeek! The thought of that!!! *faints*... HA!

I totally understand the first come first served, except for the fact that we all have different schedules and I can't watch the board all day. I get up at 6:30 am and I'm not able to sit down and check the computer until maybe 10 or 11 at night.... but anyways.... the person hosting me has emailed me and she knows if she has any problems or gets stuck to email me... no biggie... its going to be quite the learning experience.

I so agree about the flakers. That is the one thing that upsets me most. You host or participate in a swap with people you "know"... its not like swapping here is with a bunch of strangers. Sooo.. you invest more in the swap than you normally do. You put your heart in it... and get nothing back. It hurts and makes you angry.... thats just how we are wired. And if they lie to you its worse... if they hurt a friend its even worse... a while back that happend to me here. Not to mention last year my secret santa was a child and backed out because she "didn't agree with my views".... like that has anything to do with the spirit of Secret Santa. So I spent money on stuff for nothing. My person was reassigned. I didn't appreciate it one bit and I know it was done specifically to hurt me because that is how the people involved work. I figured if I hosted this year, it wouldn't matter who or what happened, EVERYONE would get something if it meant overnighting by UPS. (Which I HAVE done), and would do again if I had to. I don't want to see anyone treated the way I was no matter who they are.

But again I digress... HA! (who me?)

I'm sure our host will do a fine job and I hope everyone is responsible and cooperates so this is simple for her.

I have no clue what all happened, but this got me thinking. When we submit our name to join, could we specify people we do NOT want to be matched up with? This doesn't have to have a negative tone...we could say for any reason. Like if we had the same person last year or this person was a previous NSSSF or whatever. This way if we know there is somebody that we would rather not swap with (for WHATEVER reason) we could submit that to the hostess. Nobody else would need to know who said what about whom. Does this make sense or am I butting into something that I should have stayed out of? Please know that this wasn't meant to make anybody feel bad for anything. I am seriously trying to avoid a situation where anybody would feel uncomfortable.

Thoughts?

Cecelia

Sure! That's cool...I don't have a problem with that.

:-) Theresa in IL

Such unnecessary drama!!!

If you are receiving emails from someone and you don't like the content, email THEM back...stop whining to the group. It is the very thing that is isolating you from more and more people!

Donna (who has 2c to share too!)

isn't sounding like so much fun so far this year Tabitha! lol I hope y'all can get it right without any more hassle!!! Great idea though! :) Donna

I think it should be the host/hostess' decision.

D

too P/C for me! LOL If you don't celebrate Christmas then don't participate...there is always something for everyone to participate during the year. They are calling it a secret Santa for a reason.

Donna

I agree! Was nice to have everyone having fun and getting along! :) D

add another:

Mommy Razz:

I've never hosted a "Secret Santa" but have organized other projects...and if people are agreeable, I would play hostess.

:-) Theresa in IL

just don't want anybody left out!

Donna

LOL Hi Tracy!!! Going to come out N play once it all blows over AGAIN???? LOL

Donna

oops...didn't get Irene's post! ignore my recent post adding Theresa to your list! Didn't want to leave anybody out!

Thanks...D

I'm not worried about this group having a great holiday season. But it sure would be a lot more fun if "everyone" would stop complaining about each other directly of indirectly and get into the Holiday spirit. All of us have positive qualities, why not start making a big todo about those!

Not exactly in the Christmas Spirit but I know where you are coming from!!!

Donna

Amen MC. We've got MC for starters who has so graciously taken on the task of keeping up the RCS website. We've got wonderfully determined Ronni who is the top of her class after missing the first week. We've got Dave who has a heart of gold. We've got Kenda, our resident firefighter. We've got Tabitha from FL, mommy of one girl, another girl on the way, wonderful hostess of our latest punchie swap. And that's just to name a few off the top of my head!

Isn't the point of Christmas to share joy, hope, peace & love?

Ok, I'm getting off my soapbox now. I've probably preached enough.

"squishie hugs" were invented by one of my children. I can't remember which one. LOL (That's a bad sign because I only have 2 kiddos!!)

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