OT: Update on the fostering

Cec · 2005-12-06T22:28:29+00:00

A while ago I posted about the dilemma DH and I faced regarding my nephew and continuing to care for him.. After much discussion, we decided that we would take up the challenge and foster him permanently... for those of you who don't know, he has been living with us for the past 9mths. He's a lovely little boy, but it has been a very tough road for us all. Anyway, to cut a long story short, we had a case conference last friday with Dept. of Community Services to discuss the "long term" plan. It was decided that guardianship be offered to DH and I until he turns 18yrs. He is 9yrs now. Now we just have the formalities to go through. A placement assessment is to be done by the dept, and the matter has to go to court for the judge to give the final say. All in all though, we are hopeful that everything will work out well. He is so settled at the moment, and has been so caring and helpful - it's a nice change! Thankfully, it seems, gone are the days of his terrible violent tempers and swearing outburts!!! (I certainly don't miss them). Anyways, I thought I'd share that piece of news with you all... it's BIG news for us. I'll let you know how it works out. The matter has to be finalised before 20/12 I was told last week, 'cos that's when our temporary care agreement expires... they better get cracking then I say. *fingers crossed* Cec...xxx

Dec 06, 2005 22 Replies

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Cec 20 years ago

Thanks Cathy, it means a lot to know that people are praying for us :) Cec...xxx

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Tabitha 20 years ago

That's great! What a great Christmas gift! Thanks for updating us!

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RoMoBo 20 years ago

As a former Spec. Ed. teacher of emotionally disturbed children, I've seen some of these same situations play out......just be aware that his "honeymoon" behavior is quite probably about his knowledge that you are "adopting" him and he doesn't want anything to change your minds.....most likely, he'll again go through a testing period once the fostering is official and throw some tantrums, etc. just to check to see if you really want him! Be aware of this and be prepared, perhaps for counseling for all of you or just for the parents, and once he's feeling really secure he can be the sweet and caring boy he's really capable of being...... Good luck and lots of love to all of you, Live Simply Love More Expect Less MollyK. Barry

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