I am going through a really tough time re the fostering situation at the moment.... for those of you who don't know... our foster son is my nephew. My older sister's youngest child. We are going through a lot of issues at the moment regarding the permancy. Before xmas, we thought it was all "in the bag", and all she had to do was sign the papers and the matter would be passed in court. Well, she refused to sign papers giving us guardianship of him til he reaches 18yrs. Now she says it was NEVER her intention to give up her rights of him.... BUT, she doesn't want him, she can't live with him and does not care for him appropriately.
This is causing a lot of stress for me. Last week, he went to her place for a couple of nights, did not have a bath in that time, and even though I asked her to attend to a cut on his foot, it was left unattented to for
2days, and he was walking around barefoot and got dirt in the cut, which I had to cleanse properly once he returned home.I'm reaching breaking point with this... and today I got really angry at my mum too.. .I know she is in a difficult position, and I fear that I have made it harder on her... it's not fair, I feel like no-one can see that I am getting hurt. Mum told me today that she thinks maybe he should go into independent foster care, with someone not emotionally involved. I of course, felt she was attacking me as a carer... I know now that she wasn't.
I just wanted to be able to do this... I've put my whole life on hold for the past 10mths, and now the future is uncertain. I'm on leave from my job until dec this year, I just don't know what I'm doing anymore.
Everything is getting me down.... I'm stressing out over the smallest things and it's really hard to cope. I need an "angel" to come and help sort me out.
I think maybe it would be best if we gave up on the fostering, and told the department he should go into independent care... It hurts so much, I just don't know what to do.
Please pray that something good will come out of all this confusion.
Cec...xxx