I am sad to say that womanland will be dismantled today so that DH can move back in. He will be dismantling Manland as well. Our oldest son's girlfriend has been staying with us and has decided to accept our offer of staying on a permant basis. In order for her to have some privacy and us not to have to try to be super quiet in the mornings we will be moving her into DS#1's old room aka: Manland. While we had to lose our sancuaries we know that it's for a good cause and it won't be permant.
Her situation at her home was bad enough that her grandmother (her mother's mother) took her out of her home and would have taken her to her home but her husband was just diagnosised with several types of cancer and is very sick. We were asked if we could let Melissa stay with us for a while. (her grandmother is of the opinion that she doesn't need to return to her mother's home) We talked with Melissa, she has had some hard decisions to make but decided that it would be best if she stayed here. She will learn some life skills that she hasn't learned at all from her mother. (for example, she's 18 didn't know how to use a washing machine/dryer (her mother apparently wouldn't let her touch the one at home), I had to show her how to peel potatoes the other night. There is so much that she wants to learn and her mom just wouldn't take the time to teach her. So, DH and I are going to be teaching her in the short amount of time we have before she and DS#1 get married. Today I take her down to take her test for her learner's permit, cross your fingers she passes!
DS#2 misses his brother more than he admits, he has just really enjoyed having Melissa here with us. He has just tortured her and teased her to no end! LOL though she gives as good as she takes. DH told her that if she decided to stay than he would treat her as his own. For those that know DH you know how HUGE that is for him to say! Wish us luck, I'll be taking her to talk to her mother this evening and neither one of us looking forward to it but know it must be done. I'll be doing more lurking than normal but as we get settled into a routine then I'll be more active.