Some things to do for rough dry hands.
First, quit using Udder Cream, Silicone Glove, or any other "hand lotion" containing silicone. Also stay away from lotions containing alcohol of any type (often billed as an emollient, more often used to keep wax fractionates "liquid" and dries your skin as it evaporates) and any that contain mineral oil.
Second, make a scrub consisting of a tablespoon of coarse brown sugar in a quarter cup of second-press (not XV) olive oil. Scrub your hands daily with special attention to the fingertips. After a few days your hands will be smooth as silk and ready to handle silk, too.
For regular washing ditch the synthetic detergents (find sodium or potassium laurel sulfate on the label and it's synthetic detergent). Switch to a soap product such as Ivory, Kirk's Castille, or a sprouthead soap of your choice. If you prefer to use liquid soap you can dilute Dr. Bronner's liquid castile soaps 50/50 with distilled water and use it in your pumpers. It'll be thin but it works just fine that way.
For all-around moisturizing use a lotion like Burt's Bees Milk and Honey lotion; it's moderately priced, readily available, and doesn't have any weird stuff in it :D
If you're up for making your own "lotion" you can mix second-press olive oil with jojoba oil at a rate of 75/25. Massage by drops into clean damp skin. If you're feeling really adventurous you can add avocado oil, kukui nut oil, and all manner of other things available from lotion-and-soapmaking suppliers. Essential oils will make your "lotion" smell good, but moderation is the key!
I like a product I buy at the feed store called "HoofsAlive". It's a lanolin-based salve with lots of other seed/nut oils added. I mix a spoonful with a squirt of cortisone ointment, nuke it in an old glass Carmex pot to melt, then stir it with a toothpick as it cools. My son uses this on his poor chapped lips and they clear up pretty much overnight. I use straight HA on my lips, nails/cuticles, horny heels &c, it absorbs 100% in a short amount of time, smells good, and does good things for me.
Hair:
First, wean yourself off of synthetic detergent-based shampoos. If you currently shampoo every day start shampooing every other day. Get off the silicone and/or dimethicone conditioner products, too.
Then start replacing the synthetic detergent shampoo with one based on natural soap. If it has sodium laureTH sulfate on the label it'll be OK. Some brands to check out are Nature's Gate, Aubrey Organics. OR, use a shampoo soap bar such as the one from Burt's Bees (again, modest price and ready availability), R. J. Liggett (my personal fave is the herbal bar), or any number of other soap bars containing jojoba and other enriching oils in addition to olive oil, coconut and palm/palm kernel oils.
You may find that, eventually, unless you work out every day or live without a/c during hte summer that you can go 3-4 days between hair washings.
Oil your hair after every washing with a few drops of jojoba. Your hair will love you, you will love the compliments. Obviously, the more hair you have the more jojoba you'll need. I have moderately fine, moderately thick, waist-length hair. I use 5-7 drops and work it thoroughly into my DAMP hair after washing. It doesn't repair the ravages of hyper- and hypothyroidism combined with an occasional chemical coloring, but it sure does help hide the problems.
Use a vinegar-water rinse once a week. Add a drop of essential oil if you don't want to smell like salad afterwards :D
If you're in a dry climate (northern winter, anyone?) or have especially dry scalp or hair condition once a week with an olive oil + jojoba hot pack: oil up your hair, twist it up and pin in place, wrap in plastic, then a hot towel for 15 minutes. Shampoo using your no-synthetic-detergents shampoo product.
Ok, enough for tonight.
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