them. The sweet ones who are too inexperienced to anticipate sex and its consequences.<
Yep, I agree.
Carol in SLC (New stuff -
On Sat, 19 Jul 2003 9:48:34 -0400, Carol in SLC wrote (in message ):
I guess I've been raising two not-so-sweet ones. Between Daddy's constant tales of "how teenaged boys get girls to go too far" and his "techniques designed to fool you." It's a wonder that the girls don't have a warped view of sex altogether.
My sex ed for the kids frankly acknowledges that sex can feel wonderful, although losing one's virginity in a motor vehicle while under the influence of cheap wine is probably not the ideal situation for earth shattering pleasure. All my sex ed for the girls involved a trip to the gynocologyst, just as a baseline to make sure they're okay. When the girls invariably protested, I commented that a gyno appointment was a walk in the park compared to either giving birth to a child or having an abortion. If they thought that simple checkup, which was designed to be as humane as possible, is beyond bearing, perhaps we'd best re-think sex,
About 3/4 of the girls immediately ask for the Pill, and a few want the implants. (Our local health clinic provides these) a very few decide on the rhythm method, and fewer still decide on condoms. I have never taken a teenager on one of these field trips who wanted either a female condom or an IUD.
I'm not just talking about my daughters (who still agree that they're way too young for sex), but the countless girls who have called my home over the years, crying and without other options. I gave my name at the health center years ago with the promise that I would be a compassionate friend, with no agenda at all. (We have problems with pro lifers getting into this position and trying to brainwash the girls and call them sinners).
Fortunately, a lot of these terrified girls turn out NOT to be pregnant. There are sometimes a few, and we tell them about all their options, and allow them to choose for themselves. No matter what they chose, it is accepted as the right decision for them, and we live with it. I do make sure that whatever the end result of her pregnancy, there is reliable birth control available at the end of the journey.
It all fits in nicely with my view that the whole community bears some responsibility in rearing its younger generation. Since this is an area in which I am not in the least uncomfortable, I do what I can do best to help.
I hope that there are some young women in my town who decided that this guy wasn't worth it, and stood proud. And I'm sure that there were plenty of girls who used the condom as a kind of "do you love me" test: if you loved me, you'd wear one. (I always advised girls to be on their own birth control if they were going for this ultamatum: you never know what will happen.)
I hope I've made some small difference. If there is just one girl who didn't let herself get pressured into sex, then I feel I did okay.
Kathy N-V
vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from Kathy N-V :
]I guess I've been raising two not-so-sweet ones. Between Daddy's constant ]tales of "how teenaged boys get girls to go too far" and his "techniques ]designed to fool you." It's a wonder that the girls don't have a warped view ]of sex altogether.
LOL! good for him!
and you, too!
----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)
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