[OT] Celebrating

Thanks! Day-before-yesterday I was "in my sixties". Today I don't feel any older, so being "in my seventies" is just fine with me. ;-)

Beverly

Often. Even when it doesn't, I hunt for the wedge of pie, the eyeball, the upside-down bird.....

..."k2", stick of dynamite, flying saucer...... ;-) Sometimes I spend more time searching on Bizarro then the whole rest of the comics page.

Beverly

Yes!!! It's sort of like being a kid again. What??? You mean we aren't kids???

Well, not recently, anyway. ;-}

Beverly

Speak for yourself. I grew up kinda fast the first time, so I plan to enjoy my second childhood.

I decided that growing up was for kids, and gave it up as a bad job when I was about 15... :P

Hi Kate! I see that Kent is full of stitching women, even if they don't all sew.

> Those are so cute, aren't they! But if I knit, I end up tying my thumbs together... Best use I have for knitting needles is to cut them down for spool pins on old sewing machines... ;)

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Hey, I'm a bit late, but many happy returns (I think is the proper salutation in tis case). Sorry, hardly got time to read here, haven't been to my comp for more than a week, things are quite desparate here... will try and cry on your shoulders later. Anyway, take care stay happy and healthy and enjoy your life! ;-)

U.

Thanks!

Ursula, life, especially when dealing with a small child, can really get to be too much sometimes. I hope you can find some part-time help. Maybe your DH could take over child care for a day to give you some badly needed time to yourself?

Beverly

Alas, DH can't. In Winter, he took over willingly, since there wasn't much to do. But since he's self employed and business is - fortunately - picking up again, he is working hard enough, doing paint jobs and scaffolding during the first part of the day and then visiting customers late afternoon. He takes over now and then, but I'd be ashamed to put more than a few hours on his shoulders. I'll find a solution, though I'm not sure which, but I've got a postcard I bought a couple of years ago which reads 'Don't give up, your miracle is on its way!' Well, I was dead lonely then and it brought me him, so to speak, and I'm sure it will 'bring' me the right idea for my problems, too. (OK, I'm not quite sure how serious I am about this last statement, so don't call me a nutcase right away.) ;-) I guess it's just changing ones point of view and thus the situation is allowed to change. I'm not sure how to put it any better. Well, thanks for replying anyway. ;-)

U.

When I was in my late twenties, working away form the home, AND raising a 4-year-old (taking her to work with me, family business), AND pregnant with younger DD, I was overwhelmed as well. DH and I were constantly picking fault with each other. The house was never tidy enough, the meals were never .....

My mother noticed what was going on and hired a part time (Fridays for 4 hours while I was at work) house cleaner for me. It saved my sanity and probably my marriage. There is only so much one can do. Try to make SHORT to-do lists, and celebrate as each thing is ticked off.

Can you start a child-care-sharing group with other young mothers?

Beverly

Fortunately, DH isn't Mr. Clean, so he doesn't complain about the occasional dust bunny. He even doesn't complain (just mentions) when he runs out of socks. He is a very good husband in this respect, even though he might be a bit more attentive in some ways, but you can't have it all, can you? ;-) No, I want to be more orderly. However, I've been to see my homeopathic practitioner yesterday and she administed something and today I'm so much better already. I actually caught myself singing.

I will keep my to-do lilsts short, I promise. Next year DD will be off to Kindergarten, and then I'll probably feel very lonely, although it will give me more time. My, how time does fly. ;-(

I think I'll try to make an arrangement with my next door neighbour, her little boy is only 5 months younger than DD and the two are playing in our sandbox together all the time. Of course, she has her MIL who lives in our vicinity, but I still think that she might be open to such a suggestion.

I feel so much better, thanks for support and good ideas (avoiding the expression 'advice') ;-)

U.

Ursula, your post reminded me of a comment often made by my long-time lunch companion who died about a year ago at age 86; I'm 74. We "did lunch" at least once a week for over 40 years; he calculated 2620 in all! I miss him.

We almost always ate "out" at a favored restaurant and there were few pauses in the varied conversations over the years. Sometimes observations in the eatery or a comment didn't require a verbal response after a while; just a knowing look between us and the comment was as good as spoken.

One such scene: Harrassed Mum with 2-3 active toddlers in tow (and one on the way) approaching their booth to sit down. Children clad in layered clothing, stocking caps and huge scarves against the Wisconsin winter weather. Mum trying to peel off a couple of layers off each while arranging them in some sort of seating order, kind of like arranging kittens for a picture: a moving target for sure. All the while there are instant playthings at hand that need rearranging: silver service, glasses, cups, salt and pepper shakers, and a nice tall bottle of olive oil with a fascinating and open silver spout on top.

Tom's wife (with sporadic help from him) raised 5 in rapid fire; my wife did 2, with one having ADHD, counting for 3. His comment on viewing the commotion described above was always the same: "Toughest job in the world, Bill; toughest job in the world"

And I would add: "And the most important".

My hat's off to you, Ursula, and all the mothers here, for that matter. You don't always hear or even feel the appreciation sometimes, but you are our heroines. Mom's rule! Hang in there, kid.

JPBill

Oh dear, see me blush! Thanks, and I really try to do my best. I mean, everybody counts, don't they? Perhaps my little girl will one day have a great idea to save the world because I didn't rush of to clean the house but played with her or it's just that she'll be a light in people's life through her kindness because I was kind to her. Really, we all try to do the best, don't (didn't) we?

U.

Happy Birthday!!!!!!!!!!! I'm sorry I missed this before. (wading through the spamalot) Hope it was a marvelous birthday!

XOXOXOXOXO

Sharon

It's OK. You might not be kids, but no one would ever know. ;)

Sharon who gets another decade added on next month, but I'm only up to 4 now.

Ya' young squirt, ya'... ;->

Beverly, wishing you HBD in advance.