Beth,
Now now, don't sell yourself short. No one who figures out how to read a newsgroup is clueless!
About the books: IMO, Nancy Cornwell's book would be understandable, and you could still be using it long after you graduate from beginner status. OTOH it probably is a great deal more information than you need to get started. The first "pizazz" book does have good basic tips for sewing fleece, and full-size patterns for kids' mittens and caps...practicing on those should give you enough confidence to try using fleece with some simple toddler patterns (or better yet, Kwik Sew's "Sewing for Toddlers" book that includes instructions and patterns for many simple, wearable garments, in toddler sizes 1 to 4).
The Rochelle Harper book that Kay recommended also looks good, and as Juno shared with us, used copies are very inexpensive on Amazon. I don't know if it includes any patterns.
Doreen in Alabama