Arrrgh - What a day! (long and crabby)

The universe must be angry with Boston today, because I'm having a horrible day, and everyone I've encountered has had an even worse day. I'm in tremendous pain, probably because of the remnants of Hurricane Jeanne, which has left 4" of rain in my town. Only nice thing about it is that the onshore breezes are so nice, everything smells like the ocean. Crappy thing is that I can't walk. Bob is half carrying me around the house.

I had to make a bunch of appointments for both Amanda and for me. Every single person I spoke with was having a horrible day, and they were all so pitifully grateful for what I would consider common courtesy. That's so sad.

The disability insurance people sent me a cracked out check for ten days in September, instead of the twenty days they were supposed to send before they shut me off. I called them (and got another abused phone person), who told me that the original letter was wrong, and I wasn't scheduled to be shut off until October 20. No reason whatsoever for the ten day check, and they'll reissue a check for the rest of the month. I have to speak with their investigator about staying on disability after 10/20. (He'll call me back - I am not supposed to call him directly)

Then, I found out that I wrote a check to our oil delivery man on an account I closed forever and a day ago. (I didn't even know I still had old checks kicking around) For $400 - so, I had to call the oil guy and admit that I messed up. I'll send another check tomorrow. How embarrassing.

Amanda was not having the best day, either. She came in, all ticked off at me, yelling that I insulted her. How? By telling Bob that she (Manda) had insisted I not go to her school and embarrass her. He's going to the school open house tomorrow, and I'm staying home (four flights of stairs and I can't walk). Yes, she did say that I had best not embarrass her in front of her friends, but not in the context of the school open house.

Then we got to the real issues Manda was having: she got in trouble for slapping the hand of a boy who grabbed her iPod (which she wasn't supposed to have at school, anyway). The boy then wrote all over her with a stick of charcoal, ruining a brand new shirt.

_AND_ she had "borrowed" a nice lampwork bead to show off at school, and it got stolen. Jerri (Beadbimbo), I owe you some money, or rather Manda does. (She has plenty - don't worry about that child) If I had known she was going to want the bead, I'd have put it on a bail and chain so it wouldn't go anywhere.

So, of course, she tried to deflect the baloney she was going to get from me by bringing up a red herring about the school open house. Too bad it didn't work.

Oh yes, she admitted that she broke my brand new recliner by rocking it back and forth while the brakes were in the locking position. I'm not really happy about that. When I told her her I was not thrilled, she suddenly got a tremendous headache and took off for a nap.

Sophie seems to be ill, but I can't put my finger on it. She suddenly reeks, even though she had a bath yesterday. She also is quacking all the time, but she's been on the same diet forever, and it's not low quality stuff. She's had nothing out of the ordinary, except for her daily kleenex theft. The vet told me to watch her for a day or two and see if it passes. If she's not better tomorrow, I'm bringing her in anway.

My pharmacy called and about half of my meds are on backorder, and heaven forbid the insurance company lets them order the stuff ahead, so I'll be without some vital meds for a couple of days. (Or so they think - this has happened before, and I squirrel away meds just in case) Still, it is upsetting.

And I've only been up for three hours - last night was a bad pain night, and I never did get to sleep. I am afraid of what will happen between now and bedtime.

Yes, I know that all this is minor compared to a lot of the stuff going on with you guys. It just seems like a gigantic pain because it all came at once.

Thanks for letting me vent.

Kathy N-V

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Kathy N-V
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Venting cheerfully accepted...and empathy with your situation.

Hugs...you need some pancakes for dinner.

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Barbara Forbes-Lyons

Big huge gentle snuggly hugs to you, Kathy. That sounds a whole heck of a lot like how things have been going for me this week. I'm almost afraid to get out of bed sometimes. Bad days suck. Good thing is, it makes the good days feel even better!

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Jalynne

Letting you? gads woman - we encourage it - all of us need it.

sounds like a crappy day all around... and Manda is just being a teenager -- get used to it - you have quite a few more years of it to deal with..... . I'll tell you - I feel for you about not sleeping... I got an IRS letter saying that my hefty refund I anticpated (and had budgeted for the end of the year ) was a lost dream - that I'd screwed up the paperwork

- and I really owed them $802.25 - however, when I reworked it - and changed some of my deductions from one type to another - I got it down to $725... I will have to file a supplemental corrective tax return - what a pain ....the bad news is I don't have the money either...

Mike had a root canal in spring - followed by a broken tooth in July - that was crowned in August ($850), followed by a molar extraction - and Chris had two wisdom teeth pulled (back in May) and the insurance covered less than $300 of the nearly $1500 total in dental bills... crap.... Then this bug I've had - won't go away - so I went to the Dr yesterday - that and meds cost me $83 out of pocket... (and the insurance $300 - serves them right!)

So - I had 40 mg of prednisone in my system yesterday - and my brain was fried by midnight - and I couldn't sleep....between the stress, the coughing, the stuffies, the aches, and the fried brain syndrome ( you know what I mean) was up at 415 am -- and called my boss and told him I would not be in - because if I ever got to sleep ... I was going to sleep until I woke up naturally - not by the alarm clock!

Slept till noon.... still feel like crappola...

Got my "loan consolidation" from the education law school loans in the mail... -ouch $45K = $248 a month for 20 years.... (damn - I could have had a Jaguar for that price...) But -- I flashsed to that popular series of credit card advertisements....

Cost of Law SchoolTuition $60,000 Books 2500 other debt from living on half salary/part time work for three years 40,000 Total for JD Degree $102,500

The thought of the ex husband who said I'd never be anything more than a "glorified government secretary"

PRICELESS lol... well - there are some good moments in life even when we are down in the dumps...

Hope you find one today --

Cheryl DRAGON BEADS Flameworked beads and glass

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Cheryl

Doesn't sound minor to me. I hate that you have to fight with doctors and disability people and pharmacies and insurance companies about what should be fricken obvious to them.

Give Manda a slap on the hand from me. She knows better.

{{{{Kathy}}}}}

Cheri (Bubbee to Emily and Nathan)

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Cheri2Star

Does it make you feel a little better that you totally made my day way better?

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starlia

On Wed, 29 Sep 2004 17:19:14 -0400, Cheryl wrote (in message ):

Do the whole return again. We did that last year, when we got a nastygram saying that we owed ~$28,000 - which we _really, really_ don't have. I discovered that the IRS did some whacked out thing called imputing our taxes, which meant that they essentially pulled some number out of thin air, based on income, then tripled it with fees and interest.

What had happened is that I electronically transmitted our return to the IRS years before and their computer never recorded it, while it sent an "everything's okay" message to me. According to the IRS, that makes me wrong.

I did the whole return again by hand, since I don't keep years' old tax preparation software kicking around, and that computer was long, long gone. Turned out that the IRS really owed us a couple of hundred dollars. Not enough that I would have gone nuts looking for the refund at the time, but even if they owe you $1, they can't whack you for interest and penalties.

It was well worth the hour or two that we spent reconstructing the return. I also found out that the IRS people are actually rather decent about giving you time to do these things and to pay them in installments if it comes to that (as I said, we didn't have $28K).

They're so used to be being yelled at and for no one to return their calls, that the second they are treated like normal people, they go above and beyone. By the time we were done with our IRS adventure, Mike the IRS guy and I were telling filthy jokes while we waited for our respective computers and fax machines to do their jobs.

One thing that will not stop is the nasty letters. They are computer generated on a schedule, and rank and file IRS employees can do nothing to stop them. Just keep plugging along, and document everything. It'll be all right.

Kathy N-V

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Kathy N-V

On Wed, 29 Sep 2004 19:59:21 -0400, starlia wrote (in message ):

Sure does!

Kathy N-V

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Kathy N-V

I love it!

Cheri (Bubbee to Emily and Nathan)

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Cheri2Star

Sorry your day was so sucky. It's usually the hangnail that sends me over the edge! You had plenty to feel crabby about and I don't blame you at all. I thought you were pretty kind about it all, actually.

hugs, Carlinda

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Carlinda
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Reply to
bluemaxx

Poo on all of it. And I'd say this qualifies as a very sucky day, Kathy. Or a very sucky 3 hours.

Reply to
~Candace~

MINOR? Please hon... none of this is minor. Vent away! I hope it's better today.

I don't know what the deal is, but I, too, had a strangely unsettling day yesterday. And we missed the Swift picnic... :(.

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The swifts congregate at Juliet's school, and there is a big picnic every year to watch them. I've been taking the kids every year since I learned about them, when Juliet was three and Sam was one. We can go see them tomorrow, but I'm still bummed we missed the picnic.

-Kalera

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Kathy N-V wrote:

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Kalera Stratton

I also have had very good experiences with actual IRS employees. The bureaucracy may be mad, but the people are decent and unless you get the random nutsless jerk on a power trip, they are completely willing to work with you in a way that doesn't impose undue hardship.

The #1 thing I have learned; they want you to promise a realistic amount each month, and then pay it. They don't, honestly, care if it's only $30, as long as you commit to it and then make your payments. What they really don't want is for you to promise more than you can afford and then default. We finally got paid off this year, but now we're behind on our advance payments... which means we'll owe again, and the cycle will start anew.

-Kalera

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Kathy N-V wrote:

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Kalera Stratton

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