BFNR? And other ramblings....kinda OT

Very cool! It's gotta be someone from here. ... Show yourself!!!

I'm not good enough that people WANT to watch me! Heh. My mom watched me once and I was sorting beads out of a multi-colored mix so carefully and deliberately that she asked me whose daughter I was. LOL. I can see why people want to watch you work with the torch though. I sure would!

Okay, this is just wrong, but it sounds like you are handling it was a lot of grace. Not going ballistic but telling him not to do it again is, IMHO, the right way to deal with it. Something I was taught several years ago: some situations BUILD character and other situations REQUIRE character. Sounds like this one requires some character and you are rising to the challenge admirably. You might also consider how much you would charge an unknown person for this type of thing and send your hubby a BIG FAT BILL!!

Hey, that's what we're here for. :-)

ang. ____________________________ angelfish handcrafted baubles

Oh! Yes, I am signed up for that - RAOBK - on WC. I hadn't even thought of that!!

Yes, beadmaking is very personal for me - maybe that's why it bugs me to have someone watching. Hmmmmm.

LOL hmmmm - that's an idea!!

What she said!

ang. ____________________________ angelfish handcrafted baubles

F**k it, they're big boys. They don't need help, they need to learn to help themselves.

Tina

well...I do, but then I have a certain performing-monkey streak to my makeup. The smell of the greaspaint, the roar of the crowd and all that.... "Step right up! SEE the beads begin to fly from her fingers!! Where do they come from? No one knows...but the artist!" Sarajane

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LOL this made me smile. :)

Nope. You're not being grouchy. This is a major boundary violation. Hubby is promising your time and energy to someone else as if your time and energy is his for the giving. That's a huge violation in my book. Additionally, that you don't want to do it (which is your right) puts you in an awkward position of having to look like the spoilsport if you hold your ground and say no. That sucks.

Dave's done this a few times-- but I don't think he'll be doing it again too soon.

Laura

No, you are NOT being weird about this. Your reaction is perfectly reasonable, and a great deal milder than mine would have been! Ask hubby how he would feel if you "volunteered" him for an afternoon of yardwork for your best friend without bothering to ask him first. That's more or less the equivalent of what he did to you.

Celine

On Tue, 5 Aug 2003 20:10:26 -0400, Dr. Sooz wrote (in message ):

I would have told DH that having someone watch me work while they watched just wasn't going to work. (Not that he'd even consider suggesting it) If I felt so inclined, I'd ask DH to find out the recipient's favorite colors and if I had time, I'd make a small set of beads.

If I had a bunch of things already made up (I usually do), I'd tell him to pick something from there and be done with it. To me, the creative process is a very private thing, and I would be literally unable to make something while a bystander was peering over my shoulder.

Kathy N-V

Gotta agree with you on the performing monkey objections. I can't stand having an uninvited audience. The worst time was when my step daughter stuck her head between my face and the crucible, nearly igniting her hair and THEN tried to MOVE the crucible so she could see better. I was very tempted to turn the torch on her!

One way to stop people esp. "friends" is to explain that your insurance or lack of doesn't allow demonstrations. When you think about it, how well do you know them in order to risk a rod popping and hitting her, burning whatever. After we thought about it, we decided it wasn't worth the risk to do demos in public. If you do demo use a shield to contain the pops, etc.

Susan W

Actually, what I decided to do was give the lady a gift certificate for a small set of beads in the colors she choose, to be made a later date without anyone watching. It's a compromise, and is okay for me, since I offered to make her a bead in the first place. I am having my husband explain to his co-worker. I told Ken that there is no way I should have to do the explaining. He got a talking to last night - along with a reading of posts here (thanks all!!). He now understands what I feel about the whole thing. :) I am out of oxygen now, so the beads will have to wait til the concentrator gets here. Should be in a couple of days - yey!!!

:-O Holy crap!!

I am still going to have an uninvited audience this weekend. Hubby told me last night that my parents are coming for the weekend. I love my parents, but they could not have picked a worse time for me. And they didn't even ask me. I did yell at my hubby about this last night. Sheesh. He could have asked me before arranging this. Hubby is officially in the doghouse. But to his credit, he usually does not do this type of thing. **sigh**

This sounds like a very reasonable compromise, Kandice. I'm glad you were able to work it out with Hubby, and glad we were able to help!

Laura

That's a good solution. Glad you were able to work it out, and that he Gets It now!

Celine

Yay! I love being independent of people with their heads on backwards. Or the sort who pad bills deliberately in the hope you won't be paying attention.

I think you will be thrilled to be free of worry about when the tank runs out, also.

Deirdre

It as if he unconsciously assumed he had the right to dispense your efforts and skills and time as if they were -his- to offer.

I would be more than a little disgruntled at that, too.

Deirdre

That's the best outcome to a disagreement, IMO. Cuz it means it is unlikely to be repeated, and it may even prevent similar problems in the future, since he understands the principle on which your objections rested.

Deirdre