ON-t: working on acquiring all I'll need for autumn/winter knitting. On-t: working on two books. On-t: recorded two more lace patterns in my own voice/*cadence* and uploaded them to both my Zune and my iPod. OT: agonizing on if I want to upgrade my cell phone or not. OT: agonizing on if I should get a new laptop, or figure out if I can just add memory to my current.... Ramblings: Our sister-in-law, Kathy (widow of DH's deceased brother) recently lost *her* mom, and it brought up a bunch of emotions I thought were either "not there", "buried", or just "gone from thought" for me. Silliely (sillily?) (sillyly?) enough, I cried, yet I've not cried at all about my own mom.... am I wierd or what? Actually, mourning my mother would actually
*be* silly, as I know she's got to be in a better place! Going out to sit on the porch/deck, enjoy the quiet and drink a "Mike's Hard Lemonade"... later! Hugs, Noreen
lost *her* mom, and it brought up a bunch of emotions I thought were either "not there", "buried", or just "gone from thought" for me.
about my own mom.... am I wierd or what? Actually, mourning my mother would actually *be* silly, as I know she's got to be in a better place!
Lemonade"...
I cannot help with the ON-t stuff but: If your cellphone works why upgrade it? Maybe it's worth it if the upgrade makes the cost of calls much cheaper and you make lots of calls. Is your laptop fast enough for your email and letter-writing? If so then hang on to it. I've wept for every one of the five dogs that we've had over the last
30 years. However, I've yet to cry at the funeral of any friends or relatives. It's a bit early (8:30 am) for a drink but I'll go and brew a strong pot of tea!
ecently lost *her* mom, and it brought up a bunch of emotions I thought wer= e either "not there", "buried", or just "gone from thought" for me.
about my own mom.... am I wierd or what? =A0Actually, mourning my mother w= ould actually *be* silly, as I know she's got to be in a better place!
ard Lemonade"...
Why do you want to upgrade your cellphone? Why do you want to replace your laptop? What books are you working on? I think that, when we cry after a death, we are really crying for ourselves. I have cried, but I am a selfish person. Actually, I'm not, but I still miss my parents. I think I always will. We were just told that our little dog has a heart murmur. Add this to her cataracts and her diabetes, and I am ready to cry in advance. No more pets! They just don't live long enough!
So sorry to hear about your dog! When an elderly neighbor died her 11 year old Yorkie needed a home, so I took her, and am glad I did! Molly had cataracts, arthritis, collapsing trachea (which made her cough), and heart disease. However, she lived another 4 years and was a sweet little thing. When Molly first came to live here she would sit in my driveway, look through the fence at her old house and yard, and cry -- it was heart-wrenching! She and my dog, a mixed breed 50- pounder, had known each other as "through the fence neighbors", but actually sharing a home is another thing, and it took a while. However, neither dog did anything nasty or physical to the other, so I stayed out of it and just watched carefully at first while they sorted it out between them. (Early on, Clara wouldn't let Molly walk from the front parlor into the living room, and made her walk through the front parlor, through the kitchen, through the dining room, and then into the living room from the other doorway. She also made sure Molly stayed only in one small area of the living room at first.) Everything did settle down, and although the dogs didn't become best friends or playmates, they accepted each other as roommates. When the end was coming and Molly was getting sicker and weaker, Clara would take her favorite toys over to Molly -- dogs know far more than we think! It was awful to lose Molly at last, but she was here for 4 years, mostly good, and I wouldn't hesitate to do it again.
Sometimes I think that dogs "just happen" in our lives. Clara was born with a deformed and hairless front leg, ankle, and foot, and was rejected at birth by her mother. The homeowners were going to let the puppy die, but neighbor children rescued her and took her to their grandma and grandpa, who already had 3 dogs. Well, grandma and grandpa took her in, not needing another dog and not knowing what might happen with this poor little pup with the bad leg. However, grandma worked for me and knew I was planning to get a dog from the local shelter the next month, so she came into work the next morning and said that grandpa had a day-old puppy and would bring her to the office that afternoon, and if I wanted her and was up to a challenge that she would be mine as soon as she didn't need round-the-clock care. And that is how Clara came into my life. Her leg, ankle, and foot are still badly deformed, but did grow and finally got hair, and Clara doesn't know she has a problem and gets along just fine. She walks a little funny and runs a little funny and has uneven muscle development, but I don't care -- it's just part of being Clara.
+++ ON-t: working on acquiring all I'll need for autumn/winter knitting.
++ On-t: working on two books.
++ On-t: recorded two more lace patterns in my own voice/*cadence* and uploaded them to both my Zune and my iPod.
++ OT: agonizing on if I want to upgrade my cell phone or not.
++ OT: agonizing on if I should get a new laptop, or figure out if I can just add memory to my current....
++ Ramblings: Our sister-in-law, Kathy (widow of DH's deceased brother) recently lost her mom, and it brought up a bunch of emotions I thought were either "not there", "buried", or just "gone from thought" for me.
++ Silliely (sillily?) (sillyly?) enough, I cried, yet I've not cried at all about my own mom.... am I wierd or what? Actually, mourning my mother would actually be silly, as I know she's got to be in a better place!
++ Going out to sit on the porch/deck, enjoy the quiet and drink a "Mike's Hard Lemonade"...
++ later!
+
+Why do you want to upgrade your cellphone?
+Why do you want to replace your laptop?
+What books are you working on?
+I think that, when we cry after a death, we are really crying for
+ourselves. I have cried, but I am a selfish person. Actually, I'm not,
+but I still miss my parents. I think I always will.
+We were just told that our little dog has a heart murmur. Add this to
+her cataracts and her diabetes, and I am ready to cry in advance. No
+more pets! They just don't live long enough!
+
+Higs,
+Katherine
Katherine. . .
OMG, Don used to say that's why he had kids, they last longer than pets! :D Noreen
that is very positive , and will help in other sides of your life .. [mainly feelings].
Reading ? Writing ? learning ??????
uploaded them to both my Zune and my iPod. =A0 That reads positive !!!!
Since i got my cellular i am on my 3rd , first was Too Heavy and i changed it after 4 years , second just couldn`t carry his new battery anymore they slipped ou all the time ,i.e, the thing was dammaged , thus i am on my 3rd ,,,, and hope to have it many more years. if it calls and sms`s , it is enough for me , i have no Email access , tv access and i still brew my own coffee ,, :>:>:>:>
an just add memory to my current.... I don`t have a Laptop at all , thus can`t help you here.
) recently lost her mom, Dear Noreen you are still in a very touchy place / mourning /loosing a mother/ or any a relative is a loooooong process. If anything around you brings out emotions , it is a GOOD HUMAN sign,, That is the way we humans , can live on/ We are not always aware what feelings are Cooking inside us , having events close to us , Opens the Lid of our inner `boxes` , and show us that we are alive and feelings are inside us.
all about my own mom.. Now i am going to say something that will sound Idioitic ,,, the Grass of the neighbour is always Greener.. =2E. meaning , It is Easier to Let Go of all kinds of feelings when it is `supposedly` , not related to our `grass`. We cry in films when we see something that touches some Cord inside us. Crying about our own when we have to deal , practicly and mentally with so many other things, Isn`t possible. Crying Now helps you loosen out , almost `ironing` your squeezed crumbled `nerves` of loosing your mother. In fact you are Healing NOW Noreen ,,Maturing and on your way , to go on into an Easier Mental time. mirjam
Hello Katherine. I lurk on this newsgroup and a couple of others, occasionally posting requests from my wife, Maureen, who is a keen needlewoman specialising in cross-stitch and blackwork.
Here's a relevant story from a vet on another website:
Being a veterinarian, I had been called to examine a ten-year- old Irish Wolfhound named Belker. The dog's owners, Ron, his wife, Lisa, and their little boy, Shane, were all very attached to Belker and they were hoping for a miracle. I examined Belker and found he was dying of cancer. I told the family there were no miracles left for Belker, and offered to perform the euthanasia procedure for the old dog in their home. As we made arrangements, Ron and Lisa told me they thought it would be good for the four-year-old Shane to observe the procedure. They felt as though Shane might learn something from the experience. The next day, I felt the familiar catch in my throat as Belker's family surrounded him. Shane seemed so calm, petting the old dog for the last time, that I wondered if he understood what was going on. Within a few minutes, Belker slipped peacefully away. The little boy seemed to accept Belker's transition without any difficulty or confusion. We sat together for a while after Belker's death, wondering aloud about the sad fact that animal lives are shorter than human lives. Shane, who had been listening quietly, piped up, "I know why." Startled, we all turned to him. What came out of his mouth next stunned me. I'd never heard a more comforting explanation. He said, "People are born so that they can learn how to live a good life - like loving everybody all the time and being nice, right?" The four-year-old continued, "Well, dogs already know how to do that, so they don't have to stay as long."
I think that, when we cry after a death, we are really crying for ourselves. I have cried, but I am a selfish person. Actually, I'm not, but I still miss my parents. I think I always will. We were just told that our little dog has a heart murmur. Add this to her cataracts and her diabetes, and I am ready to cry in advance. No more pets! They just don't live long enough!
Higs, Katherine
-- I'm with you on this one, Katherine! I think that we are crying because we won't see the deceased person anymore, kind of forgetting momentarily that they will still be with us. Even when we do remember, it doesn't make it any easier that we can't actually see them. I still miss and cry for my parents, and I always will.
I'm sorry about your dog, but a heart murmur doesn't necessarily mean that the end is near, right? I agree though, pets don't live long enough, but for the time they are with us they certainly know how to melt our hearts don't they? I will be devastated when it's time for my Casper to leave us, he is such a baby... "Mama's Boy". I tear up just thinking about it. When I went to pick a pup from the litter I had no intentions at all of getting a white one (thinking it would be more difficult to keep clean), but he left me no choice... everytime I stooped to call a puppy over Casper would come right up front wagging happily as if to say "I'm right here and I love you already!" This happened six times, and he just melted my heart and made me his, just as he is mine... when we got home and ever since, he followed me everywhere I went, not wanting me out of his site... I became his "Mama". Yes, he loves Matthew very much.. but he LOVES his "Mama".
I think now that I will not want another pet, because I can't imagine another one taking his place. However, I cried and felt the same way when I lost Rex (the dog I virtually grew up with) at the age of 16... and I had to be the one to find him laying under his favorite shady bush. // I also cried like a baby when I lost Tasha (who was the tiniest thing when my brother brought her home to me 5 months after Rex had passed away, so she became my baby) who passed away one month before Matthew was born. She knew before I did that I was pregnant, by the way. She used to lay *on* my stomach when I would lay on the sofa watching TV, but one day (about a week or so before I found out) she got up beside me, put one paw on my stomach as if to step on... pulled her paw back, stopped and sniffed... repeated the process twice more and then laid beside me with her head on my stomach instead with her eyes looking at me like she was trying to tell me something was different. // I also cried when we lost Buffy on Canada Day 2007, even though she was never my pet (she was Matthew's first dog... he picked her out of the litter), and was more independant than the other dogs we had ever had.. I still loved her, just never became that close to her.
Aww, that is so heart-wrenching and sweet! I'm so glad that you and Clara were there for Molly in her final years when she needed you to help with the loss of her previous owner. When my Mom passed away in 2002 my Casper would go over to her TV tray and wag his tail (not happily, but more knowingly), then go pick up one of her slippers and walk around with it. My son Matthew was going to take the slipper from Casper the first time, and I told him "No! Let him have it. That's his way of remembering Ahna (my son's name for my Mom since he was a baby), he's not hurting the slipper, just carrying it around." Casper still has the slipper and will get it from his toy box when we say "Where's Grandmudder's slipper?"
That is so nice! I feel so bad for animals that people cast aside just because they may be deformed, or just shy, or the runt, etc. It's good to know that there are caring people out there who will love them in spite of any "faults" they may have... and the benefits are wonderful... regardless if they are imperfect (to other people) they *still* give such an abundance of unconditional love and companionship. Clara is lucky to have you, just as I'm sure you are very lucky to have her. :o)
Bruce Fletcher (Stronsay, Orkney) spun a FINE 'yarn':
+YarnWright wrote:
++Katherine. . .
++
++OMG, Don used to say that's why he had kids, they last longer than pets!
++:D
++Noreen
++
+
+Here's a relevant story from a vet on another website:
+
+Being a veterinarian, I had been called to examine a ten-year- old Irish Wolfhound named Belker. The dog's owners, Ron, his wife, Lisa, and their little boy, Shane, were all very attached to Belker and they were hoping for a miracle.
+I examined Belker and found he was dying of cancer. I told the family there were no miracles left for Belker, and offered to perform the euthanasia procedure for the old dog in their home. As we made arrangements, Ron and Lisa told me they thought it would be good for the four-year-old Shane to observe the procedure. They felt as though Shane might learn something from the experience. The next day, I felt the familiar catch in my throat as Belker's family surrounded him.
+Shane seemed so calm, petting the old dog for the last time, that I wondered if he understood what was going on. Within a few minutes, Belker slipped peacefully away. The little boy seemed to accept Belker's transition without any difficulty or confusion. We sat together for a while after Belker's death, wondering aloud about the sad fact that animal lives are shorter than human lives. Shane, who had been listening quietly, piped up, "I know why."
+Startled, we all turned to him. What came out of his mouth next stunned me. I'd never heard a more comforting explanation. He said, "People are born so that they can learn how to live a good life - like loving everybody all the time and being nice, right?" The four-year-old continued, "Well, dogs already know how to do that, so they don't have to stay as long."
+--
+Bruce Fletcher
+Stronsay, Orkney
Bruce Fletcher (Stronsay, Orkney). . .
*that* was so so so so touching! I will remember that story forever! Thank you for sharing. Noreen
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