I can remember #1 kicking me under the table because I said something he didn't like. That, my friend, was the beginning of the end. Nice enough man, in many ways. But change me? Forget it. Brook looks at me with pride in his eyes when I speak. He may not always agree with me, but he respects my opinion. That'll do me.
Agh! Did you marry the guy knowing he was that type, or did he hide it until after you were married? Someone who pulled that shit with me wouldn't get a second date, let alone to the altar!
Celine
With the first one, it was part of the relationship almost from the start... I was 18 when we started dating, and he was 27. I looked up to him, so the fact that he was mildly patronizing was lost on me. By the time I was 21, though, it was nerve-grating! With the second one, he is the absolute embodiment of Mister Charm and Respect, until he HAS YOU IN HIS CLUTCHES! ARRRGH! My best friend dated him long ago... fortunately, I can confirm with her, and with about five other women I know who have been in relationships with him, that it's not just me being stupid... he is a master of deception. The ONLY reason I stuck it out with him for as long as I did... about six years, I think... is that I was Determined Not to Fail a Second Time.
As Sooz would say, HAW!
-Kalera
Lee S. Bill> >
Hey Kalera, His name wasn't Bruce was it? Sounds like my 2nd one.
Maybe he's a clone!
-Kalera
Debbie B wrote:
Wow. I thought that they broke the mold with my ex. I'm sorry there were others out there. I put mine in prison for quite awhile!
Wow, he musta been a real piece of work!
-Kalera
Debbie B wrote:
vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from "Debbie B" :
]I put mine in prison for quite awhile!
so did i. not nearly long enough, but with the way the law was written at the time, it was the best i could do. [not that it did any GOOD, mind you] threw him back there several times for non-payment of child support. that didn't work, either. he died owing $30,000.
----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)
I wouldn't wish anyone dead. Did that once and then they died.
But I hope he had a boyfriend in prison that treated him as he treated me. LOL
vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from "Debbie B" :
]I wouldn't wish anyone dead. Did that once and then they died. ]But I hope he had a boyfriend in prison that treated him as he treated me. ]LOL
**grin** i understand the sentiment, completely. my ex cut a deal with the DA. he pled guilty so he could stay in the local county jail. he knew what they do to child molesters in the state prisons.the one redeeming grace of his death was that the manner in which he died proved to my children, in ways i could never do, that he had been lying to them all those years - not me. so, in that way, he did them a favor.
----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)
That's good cause they have to see it for themselves. Mine finally realize what my first husband was really like. But at least he was just a cheater.
My second one (prison boy) thought he was on vacation in the local & county jails. Thought it was all a joke. But finally he tried the patience of the judge and she said go play with the big boys. He wasn't very happy. LOL
But now my third is very different. We married as friends and still are friends. We've both been able to do what we want in life to a certain point and both have gotten alot of things that we wouldn't have been able to if we were single. Sometimes I feel as if life is boring and then I remember what excitement can bring. So I hit the local casino.
Cept now I've discovered EBay. So my money will be spent buying beads and not gambling so much now. LOL
vj found this in rec.crafts.beads, from "Debbie B" :
]Sometimes I feel as if life is boring and then I remember what ]excitement can bring.
**groan** exactly!there's an old Chinese curse - "may you live in interesting times."
----------- @vicki [SnuggleWench] (Books)
what my first husband was really like. But at least he was just a cheater.<
I envy you that.
My ex lied to me and my kids over and over (still can't sort it all out). He stole money from their piggy banks. My son still isn't sure what happened to some money he had in a wallet. I know my ex took it, but I didn't have the heart at the time to tell DS and now I feel stuck. I WANT to tell him the truth but it sounds like sour grapes on my part and seems overly mean. He misses his dad and I feel torn between being truthful and being hurtful. So I just keep silent and tell him I don't know what happened. I replaced the money last year (out of child support $$ from my ex ) but it still puzzles him.
His contact with the kids the last year has been so erratic. He didn't have a phone for over a year. He does now, didn't bother to tell us, though, but yanno, I figure if he wants to talk to them he can call them. Originally I made sure the kids called him weekly. They don't even ask anymore. That makes me sad but at the same time I'm tired of doing HIS job for him. I was amazed over Xmas....when I picked them up from the ex's house to fly home, there weren't any tears. A little silence, then they started talking about what they were going to do during their 2nd week of vacation, with their friends.
I don't wish him dead, but disappeared (as he threatened a few times) would be just fine. Over and out.
KarenK
On Wed, 28 Jan 2004 13:09:16 -0500, Dr. Sooz wrote (in message ):
Make sure you don't send him any soap-on-a-rope to use during his stay.
Kathy N-V
I know exactly how you feel. I kept quiet about him until after both of them turned 18 yrs old and asked me. My daughter asked before my son turned
18 and I told her to wait until after they were both 18. So then I was very nice and matter of fact explaining it. I didn't get emotional about it at all. And the difference between he said/she said is that some of it I had proof from outside sources that I had hung on to and could finally show it to them.It's been a couple of years and they both still live in Ohio (which is connected with another story) LOL and are trying to get to know him. And for all of the nastiness he caused when they were younger, he is being paid back in spades. Now unless something has happened in his life, my kids and I don't even talk about him or his wife. Which is really nice.
Just stay supportive and non committal with the kids about him. But also if they ask outright, don't cover for him too much. I know it's hard, but they will love and respect you all the more.
sending prayers and thoughts
Yep. Been there, done that. I must have been Chinese in one of my past lives....... Barbara Dream Master
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