Back Again

Very glad to hear of your four year mark - good news! Good Luck with your new endeavour.

I usually lurk, but this time allow me to say congratulations on your four year mark. And congratulations on your future plans. My DH also decided he didn't want to be married anymore after 20 years, and things are going so well for me that I wish he would have had his mid-life crisis 15 years ago. Please let me know if you'll be shipping to Canada once your new shop opens. :))

Maureen

Hi there, glad to see you back here. Sorry about the husband but the rest sounds pretty positive.

Cheryl

My first ex is doing very well financially. Better than me. Would I have still left him had I known how good the future would be, materially?? Absolutely. And he knows that I am sure. (My favourite scripture passage is the one about the lilies of the field. I don't worry much about stuff. Never have.) My current not-quite-ex wanted to come back 10 days after he left. I decided it was finally time he took the consequences of his own foolishness, after many years of everyone saving him from it, and said no. It took me a bit of time to realize that I am, finally, totally, completely, on my own (I married right from my mother's house as a teenager the first time, went from H1 to H2, never lived alone.) I am just now appreciating all the little things that means, and slowing learning to do whatever I want--which, sometimes, after raising kids and looking after men and my mother during her Alzheimer's , means trying to remember exactly what that is!! I'm getting there.

Dawne

Recently I twice went to do something I really didn't want to do and at the last moment said no ! I do put what I want first now, it's my turn ! I would still put kid, grandchild, g-grandchild first if the situation was dire but not without thought as I always used to.

Y'know, Jim, you should write a book (which, of course, most men wouldn't read lol)....or at least be involved in pre-marriage counseling!!!! With more men like you teaching, maybe the world wouldn't be the way it is.

Joan

Glad you're doing good except for the husband thing. Mine has decided after

19 years marriage plus a year before that, that he no longer loves me and wants a divorce..I think as well as others, that he's in a depression and doesn't want to acknowledge it..His father passed away 6 months ago, a friend at work was diagnosed with breast cancer and 2 of his buddies divorced..I mean if one of his brothers , who's not the brightest bulb in the lamp, can figure it out, what the heck?

but as I was talking with my MIL, his stepmom, yesterday and telling her that I had talked with my own lawyer (not-so-DH (right now) had told me that I could use his! HA!) , she said that she would help me with the retainer since I've been an SAHM for past

13 years and just starting a part-time job in couple weeks.. That should get his goat but good.

Donna in S. IN