OT,OT: gotta vent!

Lisa,

My husband thinks that he has that. He read about it and it seems to explain some of his odd behaviors. He is doing well and has a great job. He is a bit eccentric though. Judy

Marcie... I've heard of Aspberger's! What I know is that Aspberger's is part of the autism spectrum/syndrome (which covers a whole range of things rather than being more narrowly defined) and that people with Aspbergers are what we call higher functioning - they have the academic ability along with some of the autistic tendencies. I haven't seen a child with Aspberger's; summer school is my first encounter with autistics. Because they are so little and can't receive an educational diagnosis of autism before they're 5, these little ones are referred to as "PDD" - pervasively developmentally delayed. See why autism is a spectrum rather than a diagnosis?? Lisa

Marcie, I have a child with Asperger Syndrome. Generally, they are very intelligent but they don't understand social cues the way most of us do. They have difficulty reading facial expressions and voice changes. They tend to be pretty far behind their peers in terms of social development as a result, but can often learn "scripting" for social situations.

I recommend the book "The OASIS Guide to Asperger Syndrome" by Bashe and Kirby. Good luck.

Karen E>

No flaming from me, Lisa. Sick kids belong where sick kids belong - at home. There's no excuse for sending them to school where they'll be miserable and infect teachers and other students.

Karen E.

"Judy" had some very interesting things to say about Re: OT,OT: gotta vent!: [re: Asperger's syndrome]

Mine has considered that possibility. A friend of mine is of the opinion that if one can function at all in interpersonal dealings, holding a job, etc., then one probably does not have this disorder.

I wouldn't say so. It's possible to _function_ interpersonally. It's not comfortable and, at least in my aspie's case, it's obvious that something's not quite...right when our child's interacting. There are rare exceptions, where our kid is very comfortable with the person to whom they're speaking and when the topic is a favorite one, but anyone meeting out child for the first time can tell that there are social challenges.

But our kiddo's moving on to junior high this year and actually not dreading it! Yay!

Karen E.

I would agree with this description based on a student I had this past year. He is brilliant, but doesn't like to be in the limelight for anything. He definitely has some social delays going on and doesn't like to / know how to ask for help with his work (my school is 100% 1:1).

Addie

One of my husband's quirks is inviting a friend over and then disappearing into his room after a short visit, leaving me to finish talking and say goodbye. He can deal with people one on one, but askes me if I think his friends are ok, and whether they look like they enjoyed their visit. Now that I think about it, he can't tell if our kids seem like they had a nice time, when we do thing with them. He still can't tell if I am saying something nice or if I am implying something mean, and we have been together for thirtytwo years. Judy

Even pretty early on, around age four, our kid was thrilled to have a neighbor ask them out toplay, but within fifteen minutes, our kid was no longer involved, playing on their own instead.

Pairs work in first grade resulted in meltdowns - crying, not tantrums. Still hates it.

Karen E>

My husband is great at programming and working on computers. He does great as long as he doesn't have to manage anyone or work under the kind of manager that is in his face. He is very intelligent and always worries about other people's feelings. (Partly because he can't seem to tell if they might be unhappy.) He sees most issues in black and white, and he is pessimistic to the point of funny. If I ask him to do anything, his first response is that it can't be done, and his second is to call an expert. He needs a lot of personal space and time to himself. Judy

That is my son also. He has no social skills. Get as much help in school as possible. My son is bright but can not write homework down and has a teacher aide help him. I guess in a lot of cases the vaccines we got our kids had too much Mercury in it. At first my DH didn't believe it but now 1 in every

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Some folks don't have the option of quitting and I know I had a boss that made those days home hard even with making up the time on the weekends. Which is why I just returned to work and with the ultimate in flexibility job - subbing.

Cheryl

1. There is NO good evidence that mercury in vaccines causes autism, or anything else. A temporal associatione DOES NOT imply cause and effect. Anyone who doesn't get their child vaccinated under normal circumstances is personally and societally irresponsible.

1. Did your FIL go to medical school? If he didn't he's practicing medicine without a license. This is ILLEGAL. Vitamins are not the cure for every ill. The only thing a layperson might be able to diagnose by "reading a person's eyes" is advanced cataracts. I suggest that if you need medical advice you see a properly trained and license professional, and not rely on charlatans, even if they are relatives.

Off to find the asbestos undies....

Sara

Excellent for your son, but really nothing to do with the thread started by Marcie!

I`m totally in agreement with you, Marcie - it`s pure selfishness on the part of the parents - and indeed anyone going to work with other people when they know they have a virus is irresponsible. That`s how epidemics start so easily.

Pat P

The best evidence to date is that the thimerosol-autism link is complete and total bunk. There are several competing theories with *much* better research behind them, and several large scale, well-designed studies have failed to find any link whatsoever.

Best wishes, Ericka