I haven't posted or read much lately as using my hands for almost anything is causing me quite some distress - have even had to have my waist length hair chopped to shoulder length - now that was shattering!! I haven't picked up a needle in months, although I still look at quilty magazines and books and am well on the way to picking out the queen sized quilt I'll be doing when my hands are "back to norman" as my DDs call it. I'll be going in for surgery tomorrow to remove the built up scar tissue, so my HUG will truly come into it's own. But I digress.....
I was so very honoured and privileged to receive a HUG a few years back. I'd been going through some tough times and I'd walked in the door and DH said "this box came for you". I had no immediate recollection of the name on the box and hadn't ordered anything so I carefully opened it. When I saw the riot of colours, the wonderful, gorgeous froggies, I burst into tears with it in my arms. DH asked why I was crying and all I could blubber out was "It's a HUG from the group". It was all he needed because he knew about the HUGs I'd participated in, and he knew what all they were about.
That quilt means more to me than any of the ones I've made myself. It means more than DH's Nightmare Quilt (and y'all know how hard I worked on that). It sits proudly on the back of my couch chair and every time I pass it, I look at a block, read a name, stroke it, admire it.
When I'm cold, it warms me. When I'm sad, it brings joy. When times are dark, it brings light. When I'm alone and scared and worried it brings comfort, and company. The stitching mayn't be perfect (although it looks durn good to me), some points may be a bit off, but it is the love, the wishes, the hugs and warmth, the feelings from each individual that went into that quilt that gives it it's value. To me, it is like the mastercard ads - priceless.
As others have said, and I have felt, of late over the last year or so, there have been HUGS requested for every person and their next door neighbours cousin down the road. Whilst I have sent a quiet good wish to those people, I have not sent a block. For most part because whilst I "know" the person requesting, I don't know, don't have any connection with the recipient and as such don't feel that the block I sent would have the special magic that HUG blocks truly contain. Whilst I would not say don't make HUGS for those people or don't ask for HUGS for them, I would say you may ask, and leave it to those on the HUG list to decide. Perhaps they could be given a different name - "wish" quilts, or "thinkies". Perhaps we could reserve HUG quilts for those directly in our group?
The same with those who have mentioned they have never received a HUG and would like them. HUGs cannot be requested or demanded. They are given voluntarily, with the heart and with love. This is what contains the true HUG magic.