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I think we oughta elect Kate our official mouthpiece. (Can't come up with an appropriate "queen of . . . " word.)

Thanks for saying that, Kate! I was very sceptical myself when I read that post -- I'm just glad I wasn't the only one. I couldn't think how to say it all nicely and succinctly, as you did, so I'm glad you wrote. :)

Oh my god

I am fifty. I gained weight one time with a late pregnancy where I was flat on my back. Since that time, I have never gained a pound. I did not gradually gain weight, and am not an overeater.

In the past couple of years I have worked on getting in shape, but I have not dieted.

I do not count calories, ever I do eat a healthy diet, according to the mayo food pyramid (more fruits and veggies and less grain than the regular usda version) I do drink water constantly all day long. I do a thirty minute strenth workout two to three tiimes a week. (started with two pound weights) I do walk an hour two to three days a week. Will never ever ever go to 600 calories a day, !

The weight I have lost is minimal, however I am still in good "shape"phsycially.

I would suggest Mom concentrate on eating healthily, and moving in some way every day, rather than "dieting" or "losing weight"

Barb

Okay, I'm going to step in here and reveal a secret - my starting weight at WW. NO-ONE except the weigher chick at WW knows this. I'm loathe to admit it because I am deeply embarassed. I weighed in at 125 kilos (that's roughly 250 pounds). You say your mom is 100 pounds overweight - that is not life and death, sad, not beneficial to her health yes, but not lethal. You mum needs to work with her GP, and if necessary a specialist. She doesn't have to alter her life dramatically - just cutting out butter on toast/bread can help her to lose a pound a week which would very quickly add up. That's what I'm doing at the moment - little changes - and they have added up to going from a tight size 26 to a comfortable size 18 in six months. And what's better - IT HASN'T COME BACK!!

She is more than 100 lbs overweight...a lot more And she doesnt eat constantly.. if anything she eats less than she should Thanks for your comments Leslie but my mother is not a dumb ass.... she has tried those methods... I didnt come here to just say... hey my mom is lazy and cant loose the weight.. she has tried the diets and the exercise.. and the eating right.. its not working for her... you were lucky..

Thanks Tia... what you say is true... Some people are prone to it... some are lucky to actually get the staples.. while others cant afford it... My mom has fought with this all 22 years I have been alive.. and nothing has worked.. Even counting calories.. And what you said about the fact that your body beloieves it is starving is true.. Studying nutrition in college and how food effects bodies, people who are prone to stay the same size regardless of calorie intake can have their bodies believe they are starving.. I am one of those people.. I weigh 92 lbs.. only 5 feet tall and have been all my life.. but I eat small meals and always feel hungry.. whereas my mother is the same way... but she doesnt eat because her body is confused and she believes she is full..

How about Queen of Polite Insistence and Very Big Teeth. LOL

Hi Kate!!

Elena

Umm look lady...

Here now I will be straight forward with you... I was told to come here by a friend of yours.. You ask why I dont tell you the name?? well why dont you start looking around at your "friends" and figure out who it was.. thats not my place....

At 22, I know plenty.. but not what I will know when I will be in my

40's ... This is the age where mistakes are made... Thanks for your comments.. but they are slams.. You havent read anything I have said.. I didnt CHOOSE to go to the Art Institute.. I was offered a chance of a LIFETIME... with scholarships and many other things... I couldnt pass that up..At the time I accepted, my mom was told she would get the loan for the operation..I am almost two years into my schooling... I cant move home.. there is no where for me to move to.. They have a small one bedroom house that I shared with my sister that they now live in... I went to community college for 2 years... I dont know where you come from... or how old you are... but you cant get a degree from a local college anymore.. or at least not here... they pull the rug out from underneath you...when you arent looking.. I had to do something with my life...

AND AGAIN I state... I wasnt asking you for FREE MONEY... I was asking to trade blocks for donations... anything prayers... a heartfelt word.. ANYTHING.... There were people from this damn list.. who actually wrote to me.. and apologized to me for YOUR actions... maybe you should look at those you call your friends and SHUT UP for a minute... people are hurting in the world.. I just needed some help..I didnt hold a sign on a street corner in front of you saying "Homeless will work for food".... Wait.. maybe you are one of those people who kicks homeless people... or screams at them to get a job... I believe in Karma... good come to those who do good for others.. if thats the case.. I will go far in this life... I will be in heaven...

Think about your actions... If you were a Man... I would look at you and say... "Do you feel like a BIG man now???? Picking on someone who is probably a fourth of your age...???? does it make you feel better about yourself...

I honestly hope you sleep well at night... and think about what I said to you..

I came here as a person.. who just needed some help.. and you blew me out of the fkin water... Yeah, I said that... I'm glad you chose to raise your children like that... I have been a wonderful daughter.. I was voted Cosmopoliton's Female entrepreneur of the year last year, I have been on the deans list.. made great grades kept my family proud.. I have sat by my mother through thick and thin, while she was in her hospital bed... while she cried.. so dont act or make me seem like I am a bad person because I came on here and shared something with you.... You choose to post in this section to write to people about quilting... shouldnt you be spending time with your friends and children?? Isnt that calling the kettle black???

I have talked to several people from here.. personally via email... you have been the only one... to SNIP at me... You are the one who has something negative to write about everything... I hope you never end up in a situation where you are desperately hurting.. and need help from people.. and you go somewhere for it... It would hurt you, if they spit in your face like you have mine...

Thanks for being bitchy..

I have been respectful and kind.. and just trying to tell my story and you have been nothing but ugly... I hope this keeps you awake at night... knowing you hurt someone so young.. Thanks... you must be a GREAT mom..

:)

I was told to come here by one of your fellow memebers.. I didnt JUST find this site...

I am not in the wrong for posting something like this.. If you dont like it... then you shouldnt have read it.. am I right or does freedom of press not exist anymore???

I think those who commented, took it into their own hands when they chose to read it.. by law, if you open it.. you are negotiating to its terms regardless of what it says... I am just going to leave and go about my way... but maybe you should turn your head and look around you at who is giving out YOUR name to others to post here....... ??

I am disabled. I do not get around much. Therefore I am able to maintain a perfectly healthy lifestyle on a balanced 600 to 800 calories a day. A "normal" person could NOT live on my food intake, I agree. You must adjust your intake and activity level for YOUR own lifestyle. I sit in my chair and bounce my legs and wave my arms and anything I can do to keep moving. That's MY work-out. We do what we can..... MY plans WORKS (for ME)!!!

Leslie

The HairyFacedOnes 'N Me

RCTQ- Houston 2004..... A good friend will come and bail you out of jail.... but, a true friend will be sitting next to you saying, "Damn... that was fun!"

Leslie,

Good job on losing that weight! Yes, I agree with you, losing the old fashioned way is the only way to go. I just checked the BMI and I guess I'm supposed to be 146 lbs at most. After this third baby, I am now 214 lbs. That means I am 68 lbs overweight. With your will power, I can get down to my ideal weight! Yes, and I will do it the old fashioned way! No beggin' for money for a stomach staplin' neither!

A Joy in Hawaii

Good job, Sharon! I see there is hope for me yet! Maybe Cheyne's mom, if she EXISTS can lurk and get the support she needs to lose the weight...IF she exists...

Cheyne, You really should take a step back, breathe, realize you DID do something wrong, and apologize. We really are a great buncha people! Read the rules of the NG. Maybe your mom could. If anything, I would love to hear about her quilts and possibly see pics of her work. She would be welcomed and supported through her weight loss. If you cared enough to read the posts related to yours, there are lots of people here that are going through the same thing. Anyhow, just wanted to say what I needed to say. It hurts me to see so many people frustrated. If you are gone forever from this NG, so be it. But why not "sit a while", apologize, make friends, introduce us to your mom, and if things get worse, we will definitely be here for moral support...

well put, Joy. considering you're probably functioning on less sleep than most of us here. jeanne*

Umm, but you said she was 100 lbs overweight.

Zzzzzzzz. Thanks for remembering - tee hee! Most times my mind is asleep when I'm awake! Yikes!

Sharon, you have done REALLY well there - an excellent example to all of us. It takes courage to admit how big were are when we know we have to do something about it. I started at 213, and am now at 190, having put on two due to water retention this week - everyone round here is doing that in the heat! I want to lose another 50 or so, to be comfortable. It will be slow, but the general trend is down, so while I get depressed about the blips here and there, I don't let them worry me too much.

There is only one way to weigh less: eat less and exercise. For me at the moment the exercise is very hard as the fibro hates the heat, so all my joints are painful. I can SEE the water retained: my feet were so swollen yesterday that walking got painful. The skin was stretched tight, and I couldn't separate my toes. My ankles felt like they were in plaster casts. They are still swollen today, as are my fingers (like a bunch of sausages!). I shall do my unpicking of bridesmaid horrors with my feet up! If all that water went, I'd probably weigh less than last week, but hay - it'll be gone soon!

There is only one way to keep weigh off once we have lost it: a life time of self discipline. Sounds hard, but all the surgery in the world won't keep the weight off if there's no discipline to go with it. One of my primary motivators at present is pain: if I eat the wrong stuff, my gall bladder will create merry hell, and I do NOT want to go there again! If I weigh more, I have more trouble with my fibo. That too can be VERY painful, so I don't want to go there too much either. It can be very hard, but with health issues, one has to be sensible.

One nice side effect of the diet change is that we buy less pre-made food and processed stuff, and less food altogether, because we plan meals and buy for the plan, so we spend less on groceries! :)